Treasa Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 My ex broke up with me almost a month and a half ago. Over a year ago I had sent him a Facebook invite and he said he'd never want to sign up for Facebook or anything remotely similar. He was SO adamant against it. Monday night he told me he missed having a girlfriend, but wasn't certain I was the one he wanted, blah blah blah. I'm certain there's no one else. I never replied to that email. This morning he sent me a link to something he thought I'd find amusing. I didn't reply. TONIGHT I see he's signed up for Facebook, even though he said he never would!! Argh!! I blocked him immediately, but this is driving me out of my mind. Why would he be doing this?? Is he just trying to get attention from other people because he's a narcissist? I just can't see why he'd do an about-face. I don't know how I'm going to get to sleep now.
bluz73 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 My ex broke up with me almost a month and a half ago. Over a year ago I had sent him a Facebook invite and he said he'd never want to sign up for Facebook or anything remotely similar. He was SO adamant against it. Monday night he told me he missed having a girlfriend, but wasn't certain I was the one he wanted, blah blah blah. I'm certain there's no one else. I never replied to that email. This morning he sent me a link to something he thought I'd find amusing. I didn't reply. TONIGHT I see he's signed up for Facebook, even though he said he never would!! Argh!! I blocked him immediately, but this is driving me out of my mind. Why would he be doing this?? Is he just trying to get attention from other people because he's a narcissist? I just can't see why he'd do an about-face. I don't know how I'm going to get to sleep now. honey i know how you feel, for the 6 years I dated my ex, he was antisocial, wouldnt do the facebook or social networking, now that he is dating a teen, he now has a facebook and is talking to everybody. Must be trying to act like a social bug teen again. The funny thing is i sent him amessage to say Hi..got no response but he didnt block me..But I think they do this to show off they moved on and are happy just to get us ticked, but you know what you did the right thing by blocking him, if he has not intent of getting back with you show him you are stronger and moving on
Author Treasa Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 I know he's not dating anyone. My mom thinks he's upset that I didn't reply to his email yesterday and he joined Facebook to spy on me, but I have no idea.
ADF Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I know he's not dating anyone. I think that's the key to it, right there. When a male ex contacts a female ex, 9 times out of 10 he's just fishing for sex. My guess is your ex is hard-up, horny, and hopes he can charm you back into his bed somehow. At least until he finds another GF.
Author Treasa Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 We didn't have sex hardly ever. He lives at home with his mom (he's 31) and he's into transgender stuff and isn't experienced or competent at sex at all.
Author Treasa Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 I can't believe I let this man take six years of my life away with me. I always felt like I was walking on eggshells around him. He was wonderful, and I was wonderful too, as long as I was catering to his demands. He loved attention from all his friends and from me when I blew smoke up his ass, but true intimacy was something he wasn't crazy about. And all I have left are thoughts that something is wrong with me, and that he's going to go on to have a wonderful life, even though most women would NOT date him, especially once they got to know him. Especially once they actually had a criticism of him and he either pouted or screamed and raged or turned it back around on them, which is how he handled conflict.
lonelygurl Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I honestly don't know why they do this. My X didn't like to go out socializing or want me to have any male friends ie facebook or any of the chat rooms I had joined, so I had to dump all my friends...ya stupid I know. He has a lot of tattoos but said he doesn't like women with a lot. Well he is now dating about a 300 pound woman with most of her body covered in tattoos. She is on facebook, with oodles of male friends and he goes out bar hopping with her. All things he refused to do with me. I don't know what it is. Maybe he feels less nervous of someone being attracted to her. I was one of the few women he dated that wasn't a plus size. I think all you can do for now is block him and don't have any contact.
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