teanoranges Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 After seeing my ex on Tuesday, very briefly and no words spoken... I kind of want to send an email telling him that he doesn't have to run from me if he happens to see me again... that I'm not angry anymore, and although I don't want to hang out, I'd be alright talking to him if the moment happens again... you know? But I think part of me just simply wants to talk to him... ... and I don't think I'm ready to hear about his awesome love-life. please tell me I'm doing the right thing not sending anything. I've been so good so far, and reading all of the broken NCs with bad results is something I strive not to do...
skydiveaddict Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 No dont contact him. wait until it wont bother you to here about his new love life, which may be a long time you're doing the right thing
bluz73 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 No dont contact him. wait until it wont bother you to here about his new love life, which may be a long time you're doing the right thing You are always right sky...I mistakenly sent a email asking for forgiveness with no hard feelings and what did i get nada...his girlfriend refuses to let him talk to me i am sure, but i didnt expect one just had to show him I accept we are over and I am sorry. NO CONTACT is the best...2011 gotta be my year, not this year for sure
skydiveaddict Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 You are always right sky...I mistakenly sent a email asking for forgiveness with no hard feelings and what did i get nada...his girlfriend refuses to let him talk to me i am sure, but i didnt expect one just had to show him I accept we are over and I am sorry. NO CONTACT is the best...2011 gotta be my year, not this year for sure 2011 will be your year, I'm sure of it. I wish you the best
Author teanoranges Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 yes skydive, thanks for the support! its been a little more confusing than I'm used to lately. I didn't question it before but seeing him was a little different. But I haven't done it so hopefully the feelings will pass.
Author teanoranges Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 I just typed up a very short, 4 liner, email.... didn't send it, but saved it.
Ilovecake Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 All the things you just typed that you want to say to him could possibly make you feel better but your ex does not want to hear them. Take what blues73 said to heart. It hurts when you think you’re going to get a response and you don’t. The harder you try to be the bigger person, or what you imagine as being the bigger person because come on we all know when you come up with brilliant ideas like needing to explain to someone that your OK with the breakup is really an ulterior motive to try and make them miss you. Nobody cares if their ex is Ok with the breakup or over it. They let you go because they no longer care. Some people just have a harder time believing it than others. Once you take it to heart that it is over and they are really no longer in your life (in any capacity) is when you start healing and getting over it. Even if you have a spark of hope left that something you say or do will change their mind you are not over it and still in breakup lala land. When you pester your ex you are making them feel guilty and angry and since they no longer feel accountable to you they will hide and runaway and tell their friends about the psycho ex who won’t leave them alone. Don’t put yourself in that position, it’s extremely unpleasant. I've heard plenty of my male friends have this conversation. Can you believe that psycho emailed me/ can you believe that psycho sent me a birthday card...etc ect.
sean1970 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 2011 will be your year, I'm sure of it. I wish you the best How about, 'this will be your best half of 2010'... Why wait?
Author teanoranges Posted June 26, 2010 Author Posted June 26, 2010 How about, 'this will be your best half of 2010'... Why wait? Exactly! I agree! Never too late to start! Ilovecake, you are absolutely right! I remember trying to think of the perfect phrases to say to him to twist him up inside... now, I really don't care. I will not send the message, but writing it out did help. I don't have time for that drama at the moment... and I'm okay. I also find it amazing that I know in a week or two... it'll feel like it never happened (even starting now!) and I'll be glad I never sent it.
hopesndreams Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Yes, be glad you didn't send it and never will right? The last thing you want to hear is how wonderful his life is without you. Not saying it is, but if you were in contact, what else could he say? So many thoughts, ideas and perfect phrases I have come up with these last 3 months of NC, my end, he still writes me and to resist those urges of just telling him what I'm feeling, feels good. It's empowering. He will never know about my life. There is a satisfaction that comes with that.
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