shanemike88 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 (edited) I haven't written here in quite sometime. Anyway I saw my ex girlfriend today who is married for the first time in about a year, we dated for about 4 years and she actually works with my mom. Quick run down of the past year w my ex. Last summer I received a text message from her saying hey how are you? This was sent at like midnight she was also engaged and living with her boyfriend. Anyway I looked at it and said what the hell I'll play this game. So I replied with aren't married people supposed to be in bed? Easily enough the bait was bitten and we began texting all night and I decided to dish out a late night invite to come over and drink at my house. Automatically I thought I was going to get burnt or look like a fool because of obvious reasons so I didn't think she would actually take the invite and come over my house...but she did. She stayed for awhile and she said things like "she missed me" and "I don't have my best friend anymore." The next day she told her fiance (the story she told him nobody will know) and everything pretty much blew up in my face. I got a text saying never to speak to her again and I haven't. Shortly thereafter I started dating a girl who I've been with ever since. Now we do have the same mutual friends so its inevitable that when on of us hang out with them that we hear about what the other one is up to. The night of my exs bridal shower her and a few of our friends decided to go to the bar that I work at. I get a call from one of our friends saying they're coming to my work and asked if I was working? I was off that night but once again I decided to play along and say I might come there anyway around 1230 because a few of the bartenders want to hang out. I got a message back from my friend saying that they didn't intend on staying that long. Well I later found out that when everybody tried to leave she wanted to stay until 1. Coincidence? Possibly. My ex doesn't go anywhere now where I go with our friends. Which I'm cool with but when I saw her today she brought up our friends housewarming party which I went to and she didn't and she said "Thanks for staying the whole time." She was waiting for me to leave so she could go over there. We broke up 3 years ago she is now married and I'm with somebody. We dated for 4 years and she met her fiance 3 months after we broke up then got engaged last year. In the beginning she had no problem show boating her new man off but now all of a sudden it's a big deal if we all hang out during our friends events. Even when I talked to her today I felt uneasy almost like she still had hard feelings towards me. The thing that doesn't make sense is she broke up with me I feel like it should be the other way around....maybe its just me but it seemed she was ok with being around me when I was begging for her back. Our mutual friends say that she still asks about me and I always joke saying thats because she is still in love with me. My point is its been 3 years since our breakup but yet I still feel there is a lot of things left unsaid. So thats my awkward story. Thoughts are welcome as well. Edited June 25, 2010 by shanemike88
MSMCLaxstar22 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Wow thats horrible. I can't help, i'm a little bit younger. But i know the staying "friends" with an ex is basically a horrible talent show. Whether they do it on purpose or not, she's gonna tell you about him. Trust, this is gonna happen to me in 2 days. My best friend invited my ex and her new boyfriend to his graduation party... and now i don't think i'l be able to go... Sorry to change subject. My only adive is something that i was never able to do. Actually talk to her about whats happening. You or her might still need closure. Trust me, it sucks without it...
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