Choboto Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 if they would dump me for not giving it the way they want then **** them and i wouldnt even feel bad for myself. that person would look like an IDIOT for leaving a perfectly good relationship because of that. being in love is in the mind. not in the sex. if your in it for the sex then you should be single and **** the whole world and never be in a relationship and not hurt those who want to be a long relationship. sex is a part of a healthy relationship....if you want a completely hands off relationship you should be a nun or something because sex will be involved in ALL relationships.
Choboto Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 yes this is true but i dont think me being bigger is pleasant looking. i guess i sound shallow but i would like to be skinny and then i would like to be naked ALL THE TIME. but if i cant lose the weight then i will have to live with my baggage. ima try tho have you tried working out and partaking in a modest nutrition plan?
Choboto Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 even girls that arent typical skinny and have a little bit to grab??? but i can still try im just asking. a little to grab? so your telling me your just 'filled out' looking?whats wrong with that? and again if you have such an issue with your body do something about it. go work out and create a healthy nutrition plan.
Author morganmedina Posted June 27, 2010 Author Posted June 27, 2010 sex is a part of a healthy relationship....if you want a completely hands off relationship you should be a nun or something because sex will be involved in ALL relationships. i never once said i wanted a hands free relationship i just said i wanted a butthole free one. y dnt u ppl read
Author morganmedina Posted June 27, 2010 Author Posted June 27, 2010 Agree. Some responses have been snippy but the majority have been constructive and helpful. You shouldn't ask for help or for peoples' opinions and then be so rude when you get them. Also agree about the BDD. Maybe see a therapist. im only getting a little irritated cuz some ppl twist my words
Choboto Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 i never once said i wanted a hands free relationship i just said i wanted a butthole free one. y dnt u ppl read your naked, you guys are going to be flashing each other all sorts of ****. i can understand not letting him poke you in the butt, but bein so uptight about him seeing it by accident becuase of whatever position your in without touching is odd. That has nothing to do with insecurity of your body, it has to do with ****ed up views of the sanctity of the human body instilled by whatever religion or view you have about the human body. EVERYBODY has a butthole, its not something special, there pretty common body parts. just make sure you shower and wipe and theirs nothing to worry.
Author morganmedina Posted June 27, 2010 Author Posted June 27, 2010 just make sure you shower and wipe and theirs nothing to worry. hahah this is funny. this is the kind of answer i want not all that other crap
marsle85 Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 I'm not quite sure why people are berating the OP for being uncomfortable of certain aspects of sex. Her sentiment is as worthy as any other poster's, and in no way should she have to repeatedly defend herself.
Author morganmedina Posted June 28, 2010 Author Posted June 28, 2010 I'm not quite sure why people are berating the OP for being uncomfortable of certain aspects of sex. Her sentiment is as worthy as any other poster's, and in no way should she have to repeatedly defend herself. thank you!
schro31185 Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Here's what I picked up on. 1). OP does not like her balloon knot to be seen. OK, no problem at all. Until it inhibits sex. Then if you both want to do something, but it is blocked by this insecurity, you need to find a way to overcome it. I can't really give you any further advice as I'm a guy and when it comes to sex, I could not care less what my SO sees. 2). In later post she mentioned insecurities about other parts of her body, and said "if I was smaller.... If my boobs were bigger... etc. I would have no problem being naked" (or something to that effect). I disagree. People with attitudes like that tend to find something to feel insecure about no matter what. I have seen beautiful, lingerie model type, women, who will cover their face in photographs, or always wear gigantic sunglasses. Just accept your body, and love who you are. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be in better shape, but as I said earlier, these things become a problem when they interfere with other things. 3). OP mentioned her sex life is limited because they live with her parents. That her BF and father of her child have to SNEAK to have sex! This is absurd! Sure you're not going to do it in front of them, or announce "we will be commencing sex in approximately 3 minutes in the bedroom!" But really, they already know you have sex, and they are obviously ok with that if they let him live under their roof. If there is no lock on your bedroom door, put a sock over the knob, if they do not understand what that means, once is all it will take for them to figure it out. Living with your parents will obviously limit things, just like having children in the house, but it shouldn't restrict it to the degree you alluded to earlier. (unless I just took that the wrong way)
harmfulsweetz Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Here's what I picked up on. 1). OP does not like her balloon knot to be seen. OK, no problem at all. Until it inhibits sex. Then if you both want to do something, but it is blocked by this insecurity, you need to find a way to overcome it. I can't really give you any further advice as I'm a guy and when it comes to sex, I could not care less what my SO sees. 2). In later post she mentioned insecurities about other parts of her body, and said "if I was smaller.... If my boobs were bigger... etc. I would have no problem being naked" (or something to that effect). I disagree. People with attitudes like that tend to find something to feel insecure about no matter what. I have seen beautiful, lingerie model type, women, who will cover their face in photographs, or always wear gigantic sunglasses. Just accept your body, and love who you are. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be in better shape, but as I said earlier, these things become a problem when they interfere with other things. 3). OP mentioned her sex life is limited because they live with her parents. That her BF and father of her child have to SNEAK to have sex! This is absurd! Sure you're not going to do it in front of them, or announce "we will be commencing sex in approximately 3 minutes in the bedroom!" But really, they already know you have sex, and they are obviously ok with that if they let him live under their roof. If there is no lock on your bedroom door, put a sock over the knob, if they do not understand what that means, once is all it will take for them to figure it out. Living with your parents will obviously limit things, just like having children in the house, but it shouldn't restrict it to the degree you alluded to earlier. (unless I just took that the wrong way) Bolded part is I can just picture the scene playing out now. Everyone has hang ups. It's normal. Especially after having a child. It's obviously going to have an affect on your physical shape, but if he wants to have sex with you, it means he loves what he sees and doesn't see the same things you do. If you're worried about him seeing your butthole, well think of it like this, everyone has one. It's normal. Vagina's aren't especially pretty either, but they see that, and like it, heck, men do like the oddest things. If it inhibits sex, it's bad and you need to work on it. Velveteen Bunny, agree, if it hurts, or makes you uncomfortable, do not allow another person to force you into it. Anal and stuff can be painful for many women, not all, but many. Point is, you should be willing to try new things, even if they involve using parts of your body, or allowing the person to view those parts, because sex is meant to be fun. It's meant to be the activity you let loose, become uninhibited, he's sticking his dick in you, he's going to see things jiggle like it or not, and he will probably like it. My ex used to love watching my boobs jiggle and bounce, it was a turn on for him. To me, I think people especially women need to let go of their hang ups in the bedroom, guy wants to have sex with you= generally likes what he sees.
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