Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 Don't feel bad about anal. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Not wanting to have anal sex isn't the problem. Your fear of "butt holes" is. If you haven't realized... practically nothing about sex is graceful or extremely hygienic... bodies are just BODIES. You just gotta face it... good sex means your breasts are going to bounce around, and his balls are going to slap your ass. Sex is SILLY. The sooner you appreciate it for what it is, and get over the material stuff... suddenly it's just fun and really you can do no wrong. Queef? BIG DEAL. He's slamming his dick in your pussy. Air pockets form. It's science. Start looking at sex as more a biological joke than a scene from a romance novel, and you'll enjoy it a lot more. see with that i understand the balls and the queef and i guess i should understand the boobs. in which we have talked about laughed about im just being stupid i guess. haha the butt is a lot harder to get over. i just feel that he is looking at my butt hole when he prolly isnt. i do know a girl who does anal and then blows the guy --- :sick::sick: talk about unhygenic VOMIT now that is just gross.
VertexSquared Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 If you guys are doing things right, he'll be too busy concentrating on your nether regions to really give a hoot about your butthole.
Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 If you guys are doing things right, he'll be too busy concentrating on your nether regions to really give a hoot about your butthole. thats true.
ADF Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 My boyfriend of 3 years always wants to do weird things in bed. He loves it when I rode him backwards (i did in the dark). He wants to do alot of things that will make my body look weird. I hate doing it with the light on. Im self cautious about my body so I like the lights off. I dont like to be loud either cause i get embarrassed. He wants to do 69. But he will be able to see my butt hole. I guess my main problems with sex are: I hate my body. I dont want to see anything jiggle. I hate when boobs jiggle but im guessing he likes it cause hes a guy (but he loves it) I dont want to make a weird noise and he makes fun (he said he likes hearing me moan) I DONT WANT HIM TO SEE MY BUTT HOLE!! (i just dont like butt holes) I feel like i am not adventurous enough for him. How do I break the ice? Wow. That is a big problem. Frankly, nothing--NOTHING--is a bigger turn-off than a woman who is sexually inhibited. If my GF refused to do 69 because she didn't want me to see her butthole, that would be dealbreaker right there.
Shakz Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Just think Marley. "Looking in your big, brown eye..."
Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 Wow. That is a big problem. Frankly, nothing--NOTHING--is a bigger turn-off than a woman who is sexually inhibited. If my GF refused to do 69 because she didn't want me to see her butthole, that would be dealbreaker right there. me and him do talk about this and he said that its not that big of deal to not do 69. he said its not a deal breaker for him. all the girls are saying get comfortable all the guys are saying do it or else the relationship sucks why so?
Shakz Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Because you are being incredibly anal (pardon the pun) about something that 99/100 people would judge to be nothing at all, that's why! Get over yourself and loosen up, you prig!
Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 Because you are being incredibly anal (pardon the pun) about something that 99/100 people would judge to be nothing at all, that's why! Get over yourself and loosen up, you prig! wow chill. im just wondering if others think the same. this is my first real boyfriend that involves having steady sex. i had bfs in the past but the sex wasnt there. so its like im new to it. btw im not a teen so dont think this.
Shakz Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 wow chill. im just wondering if others think the same. this is my first real boyfriend that involves having steady sex. i had bfs in the past but the sex wasnt there. so its like im new to it. btw im not a teen so dont think this. Well, I'm sorry, but you just gotta loosen up or you will never enjoy sex. I can't help thinking there's something in your past, something you've repressed, that keeps you from being free. Something's put chains on you. Figure out what that is, vanquish it, and live.
Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 Well, I'm sorry, but you just gotta loosen up or you will never enjoy sex. I can't help thinking there's something in your past, something you've repressed, that keeps you from being free. Something's put chains on you. Figure out what that is, vanquish it, and live. i enjoy it and it is great but i will find myself for a split second thinking what do i look like. for example: we did 69 and i was enjoying it but then i looked at him and his eyes were open and i thought is he looking at my butt hole but then i let it go and just kept going and it was the best 69 we have ever done (prolly cause i let it go) maybe past is just that i am always thinking about my body and if people think im fat. (im 5'8" and weigh not sure cause i just had a kid 2 months ago and dread getting on the scale right now)
Shakz Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 i enjoy it and it is great but i will find myself for a split second thinking what do i look like. for example: we did 69 and i was enjoying it but then i looked at him and his eyes were open and i thought is he looking at my butt hole but then i let it go and just kept going and it was the best 69 we have ever done (prolly cause i let it go) maybe past is just that i am always thinking about my body and if people think im fat. (im 5'8" and weigh not sure cause i just had a kid 2 months ago and dread getting on the scale right now) Understand this: this man your with, he adores you and your body. If not he would shun any contact with you. I know you just had a kid, but how were you before you had a child? Did you have the same problem? I'm willing to bet yes. I think this goes far deeper than two months. Maybe ten, fifteen years?
Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 Understand this: this man your with, he adores you and your body. If not he would shun any contact with you. I know you just had a kid, but how were you before you had a child? Did you have the same problem? I'm willing to bet yes. I think this goes far deeper than two months. Maybe ten, fifteen years? yes i was the same. but when i look back at pictures from before being prego i see that i was skinny. but at the time of those pics i thought i was fat. it goes back my whole life. but now have post baby body (whatever they call it) i really am insecure.
Shakz Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 yes i was the same. but when i look back at pictures from before being prego i see that i was skinny. but at the time of those pics i thought i was fat. it goes back my whole life. but now have post baby body (whatever they call it) i really am insecure. You may be suffering from someform of post-partum depression, although I think your troubles go back farther. What you need is a professional. Us amatuers can only tell you what not to do or think. Only a professional can help you determine what it is you want to do or think. There is a demon in your past, I believe, but he's weak. You can overcome him. You know it or you would never have opened up like you have.
White Dove Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I used to worry about the stuff you're worrying about right now. It made my sex life pretty boring until I decided to let it go and just enjoy sex. My sex life has never been better! I'm a freak in bed and I'm not ashamed to admit it!! Let all your worries go... slowly and trust us, you'll enjoy sex even more!!
Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 lossen up, enjoy sex, go naked more and let him look at any part of you he wants, love your boby, listen i'm a man who isnt fit or that good looking to society and am above average weight cause i dont exercise too much and eat steak and other fatty foods all the time, but i like my body, if i can like my body you can love yours, now go to it, don't worry be happy yes this is true but i dont think me being bigger is pleasant looking. i guess i sound shallow but i would like to be skinny and then i would like to be naked ALL THE TIME. but if i cant lose the weight then i will have to live with my baggage. ima try tho
Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 i know that if i had a banging body and my boobs were a little bigger that i would be able to enjoy everything. thats my demon. is my body insecurities. i know i have them i just cant get over the fact that i want to be smaller. i have found myself letting go a little. and when i do its great but then there are times when i go back to having the body drama
White Dove Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 you know what, women are so critical of other women, but men just love women, morgammedina, its time you love yourself for who you are, you can do it, go do it Agreed.
Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 every inch of a naked woman drives a man wild, believe it, im a man and i know it and i cant get enough of it, god i love it even girls that arent typical skinny and have a little bit to grab??? but i can still try im just asking.
White Dove Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 even girls that arent typical skinny and have a little bit to grab??? but i can still try im just asking. Believe it or not, some men do like women with more to grab on!
Author morganmedina Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 Believe it or not, some men do like women with more to grab on! ok i just thought that the sight of jiggle is gross
Maggotface Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 No guys gonna make fun of you! Especially the things you do in the bedroom, unless he's a total dick and doesnt care if he gets to have sex with you anymore. Trying out new things in bed can be a lot of fun, just ease your way into it and don't feel weird about being uncomfortable theres a lot of girls who feel the same way you do. I always wear a t-shirt when I have sex because I don't like my stomach and I dont like doing 69 for the same reason.
harmfulsweetz Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Most guys love a bit more meat on their women, because no one likes jutting hip bones. Ouch. John w, has it exactly right. We are so judgmental of ourselves when they don't even think about what we think so hard about. If the guy wants to sleep with you when you're clothed, he wants to sleep with you when you're naked even more.
ADF Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 me and him do talk about this and he said that its not that big of deal to not do 69. he said its not a deal breaker for him. all the girls are saying get comfortable all the guys are saying do it or else the relationship sucks why so? Because for the guys, it DOES suck. BAD. As I said, the WORST thing a man can find out is that he is dating (or married to) a sexually inhibited woman. It is the ultimate, total turn-off. I suspect that in this context, "get comfortable" means "do what you're comfortable with, and never mind what he wants." That is a common female attitude, at least when it comes to sex. Well, if you can find a man submissive enough to accept whatever restrictions you place on his sex life, fine. If your BF is willing to forgo something he really wants to do to placate you, I guess that's his right. My own thinking is that since sex involves TWO people, one person's inhibitions shouldn't rob the other person of having their sexual desires fulfilled. It comes down to a question of sexual compatibility.
harmfulsweetz Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Because for the guys, it DOES suck. BAD. As I said, the WORST thing a man can find out is that he is dating (or married to) a sexually inhibited woman. It is the ultimate, total turn-off. I suspect that in this context, "get comfortable" means "do what you're comfortable with, and never mind what he wants." That is a common female attitude, at least when it comes to sex. Well, if you can find a man submissive enough to accept whatever restrictions you place on his sex life, fine. If your BF is willing to forgo something he really wants to do to placate you, I guess that's his right. My own thinking is that since sex involves TWO people, one person's inhibitions shouldn't rob the other person of having their sexual desires fulfilled. It comes down to a question of sexual compatibility. I'm inclined to agree. No one should be forced to do anything outside of their comfort zone, but I do believe sex is about give and take. You don't know what you will and won't like if you never try it. An idea on paper may sound disgusting but IRL, can be amazing. No one wants to be with a sexually inhibited partner, it's dull, the sex often is the same all of the time, and it's often difficult to communicate with such a person because they are not willing to change, or experiment. Quite a few men wouldn't stay with such a person, and this is their right. Sex is valued at different levels for different people, many value it very highly, I do and would leave if my partner wasn't as into it as I am.
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