Bogo123 Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I hate when this happens which is why I text more than call. How does everyone deal with it? I have no clue how people talk on the phone for hours and hours. Do you think silences during a conversation are significant, or that it indicates a lack of chemistry? I always find myself going "So.........blah blah blah"
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I hate when this happens which is why I text more than call. How does everyone deal with it? I have no clue how people talk on the phone for hours and hours. Do you think silences during a conversation are significant, or that it indicates a lack of chemistry? I always find myself going "So.........blah blah blah" I was recently thinking about this too. I usually break the silence myself, then the next time wait for her to do it. If she doesn't, it means she isn't engaged in the conversation... or she isn't good at talking. I went on a few dates with a woman who was constantly doing something when I called. I felt like I never had her attention, I'm not really sure why she answered my calls...
Sivok Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I hate talking on the phone too. I dated a girl where texting/phone was awkward but we worked out due to great chemistry in person .
Morals Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I hate talking on the phone too. I dated a girl where texting/phone was awkward but we worked out due to great chemistry in person . Unless it's a LDR, phone calls/texting should be relegated to setting up the next in person encounter. At tops they should only be used as a "cute" thing like "How's your day going?" or "thinking of you" ....stuff like that.
Confusedalways Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I find that mostly I am able to keep up any sort of conversation, but hate when men don't help me out with the transitions. I can pretty much have a conversation with just about anyone but I feel awkward when I'm like "so how was the ____" and he is like "oh, it was good, had fun." So then I have no where to really go from there and so I have to awkwardly be like "ooh. so how's (insert something else)." Yeah, whatever. I'd rather have sucky transitions than silence, I guess. I find I don't really have "comfortable silence" with anyone but really close friends.
USMCHokie Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I try to avoid marathon phone conversations at all costs...but if I reach a point where it's mostly awkward silence and I have nothing else to say, then I'll reach into my grab bag and use the following line: "Big Gulps, eh...? Whelp, see ya later!" But seriously, I just end the conversation and move on with my life...
JohnM Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 If I am going to see someone within a reasonable time period I just don't bother making phone calls for this reason. You may as well save it for when you see them in person, unless its urgent. I usually make plans and chat rubbish via text/im because there is no pressure of conversation and its kept to a slow pace because of the technology and the fact you can pick up and leave it when you want.
prettybaby Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 My boyfriend and I used to be like that in the very beginning. It's kind of funny now that I think about it Don't worry about it, it's no indication of how well or how bad you match. It just means that you're probably a bit self conscious and aren't completely comfortable with this person yet (it's probably the same for them), which is normal at early stages.
Author Bogo123 Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 Yeah but if youre getting to know someone, and aren't THAT into them, I think one bad phone call can kill the whole deal. Maybe I just need to work on my phone skills. I think its the nervousness that clouds my head.
hopesndreams Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I hate when this happens which is why I text more than call. How does everyone deal with it? I have no clue how people talk on the phone for hours and hours. Do you think silences during a conversation are significant, or that it indicates a lack of chemistry? I always find myself going "So.........blah blah blah" If there's no click, there's no click. Hang up. Try your call again.
alyssatranswarrior Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Most guys hate phone calls, I mean guy guys. Usually they will see it as a way to make a female happy so they arent being neglected in the early on phase. You will find a rare guy who isnt totally boring on the phone who can act cute and be engaging - but really the only other spectrum they could show on the phone is "sexy" and wouldn't you just rather a guy show you his sexy IN person? So agreed with consensus. Phone calls no more than 5 mins, a "missing you" or "wanted to see how you were doing, lets do something later" bumper between hanging out/dates.
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