Went out and made out with an foreign vacationer yesterday; don't want to F this up

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

After a lot of painful and humiliating approaches and rejections, I think I'm finally getting the hang of meeting girls in public.

 

Yesterday, I sitting in the center court of this outdoor shopping plaza. I was going to have a cigarette but I lost my lighter. A couple of tables over, I saw this girl smoking these really thin, small cigarettes. She was really cute; like model-gorgeous (petite, perfectly tanned skin, dark hair, green eyes) I went over and said "Excuse me, do you have a light at all?" And she said "Of course." As she was looking in her purse, I commented, "Those are the tinniest cigarettes I've ever seen," in a fascinated tone of voice.

 

She said "They are from Russia." I said "Oh really? May I see the box?" She showed me the box. I don't know Russian, but for ****s and giggles I learned Cyrillic (Russian alphabet) and I started reading the Cyrillic writing on the box. She laughed and asked "You can speak Russian?" I said "Haha no, but I had a Russian and Belorussian friend in college who taught me how to read it."

 

And she said "I uhhh never meet American who can uhhh read uhhh these words."

 

And we started talking from there. She said she had just graduated nursing school in Russia and was on vacation, visiting and living with her sister who lives here the US for the summer. She said she's bored with the area she's in. I told her "yeah this state's pretty boring, but I know where all the fun places are."

 

After talking for 15 minutes, I was feeling pretty bold, so I suggested a spontaneous, instantaneous date by saying I was going to a place that has live music and if she wanted to join. She said yes, but that she was sharing cars with her sister (both her and her sister would head out in the morning, her sister would go to work and she would drive around and do whatever and come back and pick her sister up). I suggested that we go drop her car to her sister's work place and we could head out in my car from there.

 

She agreed. She went to her car, I went to mine, I followed her to where her sister worked, she dropped off the car, the girl got out, went inside, gave her sister her keys and then she got into my car and we headed out.

 

First of all, I was stunned that this girl trusted me enough to get into my car and let me take her where ever, but at the same time, a girl invited me over to her place only an hour after meeting her earlier this week. We went to place that had live jazz bands playing. She told me how she loved jazz, how she used to dance competitively in Russia, about where she lived in Russia, about nursing school, about her travels around the world.

 

She had trouble with some English words and phrases, but it really forced me to get close and listen carefully. To make up for it, I asked her to teach me a few Russian phrases and she'd be impressed when I could right them down in Cyrillic, based on how they were pronounced. After the bands were over, we went to pretty upscale lounge with sushi and an outdoor balcony that over looks a river and continued talking there for a bit. After that, we just walked the city streets.

 

(to be continued)

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

We were out from about 7:00 to 1:00 AM. I had sensed some moments in the night when I could kiss her. I wanted to, but at the same time, I was nervous. This girl is model-gorgeous; almost a solid 10. If iw wasn't for a single chipped tooth and if the heat and humidity hadn't frazzled her hair she would be perfect. I was scared of making a move on a girl this beautiful; I felt like this needed a lot of delicacy and finesse. So I kept putting it off.

 

I drove her back to her place. She told me earlier in the night that a long time ago she could play a song on guitar. I asked "Hey, remember you were telling me about that song you could play on guitar?" She said "Yes." I said "Get out of the car."

 

I popped my trunk and took out my electric guitar. She started cracking up and saying "No, it's been years! I don't remember!" I said "You never forget how to rock!" I went up to her, placed my guitar around her shoulders, moved her hair so my guitar strap wouldn't pull her hair, helped to position her body with my hands, etc. It was a great oportunity to practice Kino (Kino is a Pick Up Artist tactic of increasing attraction through physical touching) She couldn't play though and gave up laughing after only a few strums.

 

I took my guitar off her shoulders, put it back in my case and decided I was going to go for the kiss. I said "I had a fun night tonight." She said "me too." We hugged, but when she tried to move back, I didn't let go. I was holding her by the waste and I pulled her back in. We started kissing. It lasted for a good 20 or 30 seconds. It was pretty intense, but at the same time, I didn't want to seem too clingy and excited, so I gently pushed her off and said "Your sister's waiting."

 

Anyway, as odd as it sounds, I didn't get her phone number until then, since we had gone on a date instantly after meeting for the first time. I don't know when we can meet again, but I really want to see this girl. She is really sweet, really interesting to talk to and incredibly hot. I do NOT want t F up my chances with this girl.

 

She's really only here in the States for 2 more months, so I want to take as much advantage of this time and go as far as quickly as possible with this girl. But at the same time, I'm really worried that if I push to far too fast, I'll come off as desperate and scare her off. Either way, deciding what to do next is making me panic on the inside. Any suggestions?

[Sivok]

Awesome story man. I'm glad to hear those earlier fumbles didn't cause you to give up, impressive!

 

Just do what you normally do. Don't try anything too frisky until date 3 imo, but she's still a woman and enjoys affection . Go out with her a few more times, kiss her some more, try figuring out a movie/tv series she might enjoy, set a movie/tv date at your place, and make it happen. Don't let her looks turn you into a wussbag

[sweetjasmine]

Good for you, OP. Well done. You struck up a conversation with someone, and it turned out great. Don't have much to say except relax, have fun, and play it by ear. Good luck with your next date.

[reservoirdog1]

be honest OP, she looked like Lotte Lenye, right?

Hopefully more like Daniela Bianchi, from the same Bond flick.

 

And to use another Bond reference, to avoid the appearance that you're trying to move things inappropriately fast, you could always say "when one has so little time (a couple of months), one has to move a bit faster."

 

Sounds like a fantastic start, dude. Props.

[Lakeside_runner]

To make up for it' date=' I asked her to teach me a few Russian phrases and she'd be impressed when I could [b']right[/b] them down in Cyrillic, based on how they were pronounced.

 

Thanks for making my day...

[marsle85]

Heyyy this story was fun!!

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

Hopefully more like Daniela Bianchi, from the same Bond flick.

 

Speaking of Bond, think of the most recent Bond girl from Quantum of Solace (she's also Russian) but hair much longer and darker and eyes a bit greener (that and her English isn't as good)

[Engadget]

Pick Up Artist though? Really?

[jamal]

Way to go, OP. It appears you are starting to get the hang of it. Thing is you should never let a woman's beauty dazzle you. Just tell yourself all females are the same and maintain your confidence. In fact, never tell a woman that she is beautiful. That way it will appear as though you have dated so many gorgeous women and to you she looks just average.

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

Well, I severely misunderstood this girl's situation.

 

She said she was going to be in the US for the summer which was true. I assumed that to meant she was staying in my area as well. She wasn't. She and her sister left for a long road trip on Thursday.

 

I didn't have a chance to have sex with her; she would stop me before I got too far. Still, it was fun; we went out a few times and made out a bit.

 

It was a bit of a confidence booster going out with this really gorgeous girl, even just for a bit.

 

But at the same time, it brings me back to the topic I made a few months ago; European girls are just easier to date. (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t229488/)

 

To be totally honest, I really don't know if I could have gone as far as I did as fast if she was American.

[Serenitynow]

Way to go, OP. It appears you are starting to get the hang of it. Thing is you should never let a woman's beauty dazzle you. Just tell yourself all females are the same and maintain your confidence. In fact, never tell a woman that she is beautiful. That way it will appear as though you have dated so many gorgeous women and to you she looks just average.

 

 

LOL more games.

 

The responses on this site are becoming routine entertainment.

 

Dont let them know this

 

Dont let them know that

 

Do this not that

 

You have to be a magician to date nowadays, dont ever let anyone know the real you, be mysterious

 

So glad I dont have blinders on like everyone else

[Green]

I can't believe I didn't see this post till now.

 

GREAT STORY.

 

I really liked how you used your guitar to flirt/touch... and then how you pulled her in for the kiss.

 

LISTEN.... The PUA material has some good advice when it talks about APROACHING, and GETTING OVER FEARS OF REJECTION. It also has good advice on how to flirt/ aka have fun be touchy (kino). The fact that you went in for a KISS was briliant....\

 

BUT THE PUA MATERIAL IS ABOUT MAKING MONEY... PLUS some of the guys are very misguided. It sounds like you are doing good with women. Don't make it about falling some STUPID PUA rules. PUA's didn't invent ASKING GIRLS OUT, or TOUCHING... ect.

 

IF PUA material helped you get over anxiety GREAT. But really don't get lost in this PUA crap in fact I suggest you stop using words like KINO or mention PUA and just BE YOURSELF... you know the version of your self who ISN'T AFRAID... the NO FEAR version of yourself that DOES exactly what you did in this story.

 

I read a PUA book a few years ago.. THE GAME... everything in that book was stuff I had already figured out on my own. The common sense PUA stuff is good... Like no duh don't get all obsessed with one girl (unhealthy) and yes TOUCH/KISS/FLIRT....

 

BUt if you need to just enjoy yourself. Don't make it about following PUA rules. Make the material your own.

 

Read the advice the same way you would read the advice of any one who posts on this thread.

 

GREAT STORY, Just keep on having fun... don't make it about the sex. Sex is important and YOU SHOULD WANT IT... I also think you should try for it...but don't beat yourself up if it doesn't happen.

 

Your story was ROMANTIC though. Something I could imagine in a book or tv. GREAT!