ecto-1 Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 Okay, I met this woman from a dating site....we've been chatting back and forth via email for about 3 weeks I guess....(reason we hadn't met yet in person, was because our schedules conflicted) But I mentioned getting together a following weekend, and she agreed to it. The closer it got to that weekend, I tried to firm plans with her, and she goes, "Hey, I am not ready to meet anyone yet, and I plan on deleting my ad from the site" And I go, "What? Does this even include me? It would be ashame we did all this talking and not even meet in person" Apparently, some guy she met from online freaked her out when they met in person, he was already calling her honey, and touching her in ways a boyfriend would touch her (he was acting as if they've been dating for years)...and he would text her 20 times a day. Apparently she had been chatting with him for a while too, then met, and he moved TOO fast. I assured her I would do no such thing, I'm not handsy on a first date and would not do the same thing this guy did. So I got her to change her mind about meeting, but she's prefering to do a "Dutch date" ( I asked if she'd e comfortable paying her own way) So it sounds like she wants to meet "as friends" as opposed to a date, but some women can be gun shy these days, and not want to call things "a date" Which I find odd, because I think some women assume "if it's a date, there's going to be intimacy" So think people have their own def of "date". Any input here on the motive of this lady I'm going to see?
Author ecto-1 Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 Wait a min.....NO ONE commented on this? LOL
ADF Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 So it sounds like she wants to meet "as friends" as opposed to a date, but some women can be gun shy these days, and not want to call things "a date" Don't meet with her. What's the point? If you are interesting in dating, stay away from women who aren't. She ought to have enough common sense to realize that men do not go on dating sites to look for "friends." Don't play her silly games.
guy.lepage Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 You haven't even met this person yet. Perhaps you won't even want it to be a date, so why worry about it now? The reasons she gave you for not meeting up are a major red flag to me. Meet people who are excited about meeting you and aren't concerned about who pays while the two of you haven't even met yet.
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