harkkam Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Guys how do you deal with those pangs of pain that just strike out of no where. You could be driving down the street and then have a memory of where you walked with her and there is this crushing pain inside you. How do you get over that, It feels like a roller coaster ride. Will taking meds make me numb to these sharp pains that keep coming. It been two months since the break-up
USMCHokie Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Only time can truly heal the pains you're going through. I'm at 11 months now and although I still think about her from time to time, it doesn't hurt as much as it once did...if you can avoid going the meds route, then avoid them...find the strength from within to get you through the rough patches...
skydiveaddict Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Will taking meds make me numb to these sharp pains that keep coming. It been two months since the break-up Devil Dog is right. It takes time. two months is not a lot of time to get over someone, you must be patient.
Author harkkam Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 The thing is that I could be at the gym and then suddenly a memory comes to me and brings me to a grinding halt. I go into a day dream state and start imaging her being there with me and indulge in the past I try to get out of it but I feel like crap. Then I get my mood up and then another memory occurs to me and my mood goes down alot.
USMCHokie Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 The thing is that I could be at the gym and then suddenly a memory comes to me and brings me to a grinding halt. I go into a day dream state and start imaging her being there with me and indulge in the past I try to get out of it but I feel like crap. Then I get my mood up and then another memory occurs to me and my mood goes down alot. This EXACT thing happened to me at the gym for a while right after my breakup...I'd sit there between sets and just stare into space and think about her, the relationship, and everything that went wrong...then I'd do a half-assed set and then go right back to daydreaming... But like skydive said, two months is nothing...just have faith that time will heal your wounds...I remember being right where you are, at the 2-3 month stage, and coming onto LS believing that I'd never heal...everyone told me things would eventually get better and that over time, the pain would lessen... They were right. And so here I am, almost a year later, telling you that things WILL get better, and you WILL move on...you just need to have faith that it will happen...
LoveTruthChaos Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 The thing is that I could be at the gym and then suddenly a memory comes to me and brings me to a grinding halt. I go into a day dream state and start imaging her being there with me and indulge in the past I try to get out of it but I feel like crap. Then I get my mood up and then another memory occurs to me and my mood goes down alot. Holy moly - this is me right now. It's been 2 and a half months for me, but the last 2 weeks have been really bad. No matter how much someone's hurt you, it's so hard not to romanticise memories... Today was especially bad. It's the first time since my ex left me that I actually remembered what his kiss felt like. Thought I was going to die of heartache. But truth is, remembering the pain of him leaving for someone else made it go away after a while. And just thinking about how much better the next guy's gonna be, and also the things I'm working towards now, cheer me up, although it's VERY hard right now. But I have to be optimistic, or else I have nothing! We will both get through this, I'm sure!
robaday Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 It's only just started to hit me really. I broke up with her two months ago, only 2nd rel, we were both going through a lot of changes and she was WAY too dependent on me, I just gave up, never thought of myself as a quitter but it hadn't been working for a long time (a lot of which was my fault). Still miss her like hell tho, am meeting new women and haven't struggled in that dept but can't get her out of my mind and am not attracted to anyone else. What hurts is how badly I treated her at the end, I was weak, broken and lashed out. I wish her the best, don't want her back, but would love to re-connect in the future.
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