LikeOMG Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 This is the same story as the other thread called Does he like me? just in a different format, so more people can read it with ease so here it is (creds to Green) I went to a volunteer thing at this local park. I met a guy and when we spoke he made me laugh. It turns out we went to the same school. We talked about teachers and stuff it was fun. I was expecting my mother to pick me up at 9:30. We talked for over an hour between 9:30 and 10:30 while I waited for my mother to pick me up. He asked if I knew the area well and I replied yea. Then he asked if I wanted to call my mom and tell her to pick me up at the basement? We end up going to the basement where we play pool. Even though I don't really know how pool works I enjoyed spending time with him. My mom calls because she arrived to pick me up. I leave the basement to go home. He leaves the basement throught this other door and when I look back he's looking right at me while I'm in the car. We smile and wave at eachother, and he watchs as I drive away. I want to know what this could possible mean cause I really don't know. I'm 14 and he's 17. HE kept saying that I looked as if I could be a junior (like him) or at least a sophmore. Please HELP!
Blade Runner Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Hey. Really it could mean anything - guys are really quite different in the way they handle these kinds of situations. He could be interested, or he could just be really friendly. Although my first impression is that there is a good chance he might like you. From what you say, he doesn't sound like a shy guy, so I'm sure if he's interested he'll come back and maybe ask for your number or ask you out some time. You could always ask him for his number/if he wants to hang out, or at least just talk to him again and see if you get any more clues. You mentioned in your other thread that he made comments about you having a lisp or something, he was probably flirting with you. Couldn't really say if he likes you for sure or not because obviously that's not something anybody can really say for sure on a forum based on a small amount of information. But it does sound like he was at least flirting with you which meant at the time he had some interest, most likely. See if you can meet up with again. The age gap doesn't seem like a huge deal, but it is something to think about.
Author LikeOMG Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 um some other things were that he put his hand on my kneee (but only for a literally a second) He found me on facebook though we only had like 2 mutual friends ( one of them was my friend that i asked to add him lol)
sagetalk Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I don't know anything about this guy, but the age difference is disturbing. When he turns 18, he's gonna be in big trouble if you two are still together. Be friends with him if you like, but sexual activity is a huge mistake waiting to happen. You have your whole life ahead of you, just be friends and have non sexual fun. Put guys on the back burner and focus on school. Believe me, when you hit college guys are gonna be all over you and you will be able to handle it much better.
Green Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 Like I said you seem like a great girl and I'm sure you are pretty and all. I understand why you feel the way you do about the guy you two shared a fun time and all. I usualy give advice to GUYS so let me tell you what I would tell HIM. I would say 14 yrs old is just too young for you at 17. Look if you live in a state where AGE of consent is 16 years old then maybe it could work out when you run into him in 2 years... but by then you will probably have a bf who is closer to you in age. I really recomend you just ask your parents for advice even though it would be awkward. If you don't want to ask them maybe you can talk to a teacher or counsler at school. Its a really common thing to get a crush on an older guy.
Author LikeOMG Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 lolz i really love the fact how you think that im going to bang this guy lolz it kinda went pretty far off topic. But in tht sense yea i do tend to like older guys."More mature n wat not" I dont think he was trying to score as you say cuz that just seems a lil pedophilic. YEa i know age in what not, but all this is pretty far off since i just met him, i mean it could go absolutely no where.
Green Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I don't think your going to bang this guy or what ever. I just think your having a good time thinking about him and thats fine and normal. Nothing wrong with liking older guys you should just wait till your 18 before you do anything about it. My advice to you is have a good time talking about this with your friends. Think about how he likes you and all. But there is really nothing for you to do except sit back and wait and see what happens. If this 17 year old guy wants to hang out with you just tell your parents about it and see what they say.
Blade Runner Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 lolz it kinda went pretty far off topic.[/Quote]It's not off topic at all. You're dealing with a 17 year old dude here. Not a 14 year old. There is a huge difference. I know, I've got brothers of both ages exactly. Massive. I know it can be different with girls in terms of phsyical and emotional development. But there is still a difference in some areas, for sure. The fact is he could be interested in younger girls because he sees them as easier to get them to have sex with him. You can't rule that out. It doesn't matter what your intentions are, it's him -- you don't know him that well and neither do we. On the other hand, let's say for a minute that he is interested. Sex with you might not even be on his mind. He might be a really nice guy who's interested in having a casual relationship. Regarding the age thing. 17 and 14 can be a difference. But it depends. I've met 21 year old women that act like 12 year olds, and I've met 14 year olds that act like 18 year olds. But what you act like, and your true emotional development are different things. If you enter into a relationship with this guy and neither one of you is *strongly* opposed to sex, at some point, it'll probably happen. And if the guy gets found out, that could potentially do some serious damage to his life. Having said all that, we all know 14 year olds are in relationships. And we know that a lot of them aren't far off sex. We also know that many younger girls also try and hook up with older guys because apparently they're "more mature". Some are, some never will be. I say if you're interested in him - keep chatting to him. He's on your facebook now so you have contact and obviously you can see where it goes. But just be careful - that's all. Things like this are a case by case scenario, you cannot just apply one rule or idea to the whole concept. Just see what comes of it, but make sure that you are aware what could happen. Doesn't matter what you say now, when you're in a relationship (if it did happen), things can be very different.
Author LikeOMG Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 YEs i like ur advice n not all these other people's crap. Like everyone's going off into different directions Oh age of consent, statutory rape. wtf? Like age of consent is only if i want to have sex with him n trust me. um noooooooo. Im not like those girls in "The pregnancy pact" either. YEa like if it goes somewhere ill tell my parents but for now ima just "sit back and wait and see what happens."
Author LikeOMG Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 oh sorry i didnt see Blade runner's post. )which by the way i found insightful) i think the major point here is that i get it.
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