bigsby2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I find this a bit tricky. From what I've seen so far (albeit I haven't been around very long) female/male friendships often lead to something more, or atleast it seems as though one of the two usually ends up having feelings, if not both. Now I know this girl who is dating my best buddy but she tries to maintain a friendship with guys who used to die to be with her and it seems as though those are the only guys she likes to keep around. Sometimes they'll lose touch and go months without talking, but then the girl starts initiating texts to the guys who hearts she broke (they're not really ex's .. but the guys got sucked in fast and she shut them down hard) and inviting them out to parties, etc. Is it odd that she only tries to be close to these guys? From my point of view she strings them along, those guys are like her puppies and they'll be there for her whenever she needs them. Is there such thing as true male/female friendships when you have a SO? Or is it always bound to be a threat? What if they flirt? Thanks
MyNameIsJane Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I find this a bit tricky. From what I've seen so far (albeit I haven't been around very long) female/male friendships often lead to something more, or atleast it seems as though one of the two usually ends up having feelings, if not both. Now I know this girl who is dating my best buddy but she tries to maintain a friendship with guys who used to die to be with her and it seems as though those are the only guys she likes to keep around. Sometimes they'll lose touch and go months without talking, but then the girl starts initiating texts to the guys who hearts she broke (they're not really ex's .. but the guys got sucked in fast and she shut them down hard) and inviting them out to parties, etc. Is it odd that she only tries to be close to these guys? From my point of view she strings them along, those guys are like her puppies and they'll be there for her whenever she needs them. Is there such thing as true male/female friendships when you have a SO? Or is it always bound to be a threat? What if they flirt? Thanks Well I think there are two things being discussed here. Guy/girl friendships - and that specific girl you mentioned. I do think guy/girl friendships CAN exist... but I do believe that often one person or the other has some kind of underlying romantic feelings. I have only had maybe three legit friendships with guys that I didn't like them romantically and truly believe they didn't like me (or want me) physically or romantically. It is hard to find. It happens though. I could say I have had double that in which I believed they were friendships and then the guy eventually came forward and confessed feelings he had. The girl you are talking about.... well it sounds like she just wants to be wanted. Girls do it all the time. They don't want to be with a guy (or guys), but they don't want him to forget about them... she wants them to still want her... so she engages to keep them at bay -- even if she has zero intention of being with them. I know several girls that do this... and I have done it in the past .... it's juvenile... but people do it.
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