Ilovecake Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 For the first time seeing whatshisname stirred zero feelings in me. No anger, no jelousy, no sadness, no excitement, just nothing. Last month I would have been mad that I had to share the planet with him, now I don't care. Thank you LS. You got me there.
supersub Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Good for you! I'm proud of you. That must be a great feeling! Sup
Author Ilovecake Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 I feel a sense of freedom from anxiety which makes me feel stronger. I had the hardest time getting rid of the anger until I read in a Buddhist blog that anger comes from being hurt. If we let go of the pain the anger will dissipate and that is so true. I was walking around like a wounded animal and it simply had to stop.
supersub Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Very true. Anger will eat you whole. I have recently been in the same boat, but I am also over my ex GF. Like you I am feeling much better about things, and no longer feel hatred or anger, just indifference. Life is too short. I know that if I saw her out it really wouldn't bother me regardless of who she is with. I know this because I have moved forward. I also know I would be polite, smile, and keep it very short if we did speak. It does not faze me to be that way. Its great to be in this place. Finally. I know some months ago I would not have felt this way, but you have a choice to be happy in this life, and I choose to be happy.
deux ex machina Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 This is great news. I'll bet it feels like a huge burden has been lifted.
Author Ilovecake Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 This is great news. I'll bet it feels like a huge burden has been lifted. Yes. It is and if you haven't reached that point yet you will in no time. The funny thing is once you get there you forget so much of the pain and confusion you felt at first.
ahashakeheartbreak Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 That's awesome! Congratulations! I am happy for you. (: I hope to reach that way soon. Somedays I am like that, but others I still cry so...I cannot say I am there at all yet haha. Maybe soon...
deux ex machina Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Yes. It is and if you haven't reached that point yet you will in no time. The funny thing is once you get there you forget so much of the pain and confusion you felt at first. Sadly/happily, I'm rarely indifferent to anything -- but I am rapidly approaching something close enough to it that it can be counted as that. Things being relative and all. You're right about forgetting the pain and confusion over time. Thank you, appreciate the encouragement. I've followed your posts, and have been cheering you on - you've helped many, and it's great to see you've turned a major corner. Hugs to you.
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