Joe Normal Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Ok, I'm interested to get some input from the Loveshack here. One of my friends was chatting with his girlfriend and she said she had just signed up to facebook. Anyway, he looks up her profile to add her, and he sees that she has listed her "relationship status" as "X is in a relationship and it's complicated". He said that kind of threw him for a loop as they've been going out for a while now and he wasn't aware of anything "complicated" about it! I asked if they had been fighting a lot recently, or any signs of problems, but he said no things were going fine. I know his gf socially and I haven't seen any signs of her acting suspiciously, they seemed a happy couple. But to me, I don't really see how someone happy with their partner can describe their relationship like this. IMO you are either in a relationship or not...if one person thinks it's complicated and the other thinks its fine, that's a problem. Not to mention, she is broadcasting this to everyone on the site and he said she hasn't told him about what "complications" she might be referring to - seems rather disrespectful to tell friends & relatives there are potential problems, but not fill your own partner in. Is there any innocuous explanation for this? So far I can't think of one, but I don't use facebook so I'd like to get some feedback before I advise my friend to go ballistic.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Ok, I'm interested to get some input from the Loveshack here. One of my friends was chatting with his girlfriend and she said she had just signed up to facebook. Anyway, he looks up her profile to add her, and he sees that she has listed her "relationship status" as "X is in a relationship and it's complicated". He said that kind of threw him for a loop as they've been going out for a while now and he wasn't aware of anything "complicated" about it! I asked if they had been fighting a lot recently, or any signs of problems, but he said no things were going fine. I know his gf socially and I haven't seen any signs of her acting suspiciously, they seemed a happy couple. But to me, I don't really see how someone happy with their partner can describe their relationship like this. IMO you are either in a relationship or not...if one person thinks it's complicated and the other thinks its fine, that's a problem. Not to mention, she is broadcasting this to everyone on the site and he said she hasn't told him about what "complications" she might be referring to - seems rather disrespectful to tell friends & relatives there are potential problems, but not fill your own partner in. Is there any innocuous explanation for this? So far I can't think of one, but I don't use facebook so I'd like to get some feedback before I advise my friend to go ballistic. Going ballistic isent going to help anyone I don't know what to say other then from what ive seen of Facebook people tend to stretch the truth and distort things on there from time to time. Who knows what it means the fact she let him have access to her page would tell me she didn't think its a huge deal he needs to ask her calmly and then go from there.
Billzebub Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I thought it meant they were in an open relationship.
Stung Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Er, why not advise your friend to ask his gf before 'going ballistic'? Personally I think it's inadvisable to put anything in a relationship status on FB without it being clearly agreed upon by both parties involved in said relationship, and if I were your friend I would be a bit hurt and concerned too--but if your friend's primary method of communication for every little thing is to talk to his friends about his feelings rather than his girlfriend, and then go ballistic on her rather than trying to talk things out, I can understand why she might think their relationship was complicated when he thought it was just fine.
LoveTruthChaos Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 if your friend's primary method of communication for every little thing is to talk to his friends about his feelings rather than his girlfriend, and then go ballistic on her rather than trying to talk things out, I can understand why she might think their relationship was complicated when he thought it was just fine. Very VERY well put Stung
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