Bogo123 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Im gonna take this girl to dinner and a movie next week for our 2nd date. What are some good ones out right now? I was thinking of toy story 3, but I heard its sad so im not sure if its good to have my date crying. What about "Get him to the greek"? Any suggestions?
Diezel Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 FAIL. I never do dinner and a movie until after I'm exclusive with someone. Granted, you didn't do it on the FIRST date, but how the hell are you supposed to get to know someone better when you're chewing on food or you're watching a movie where you are supposed to be quiet? Action date all the way. Forget the movies.
USMCHokie Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Do you have any idea of the types of movies that she likes and doesn't like? Let that guide your choice...
Blade Runner Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Second date movie is probably not the best idea. I'd save the movie, if you must, 'til date 3 or 4, and that's only if you're really comfortable and starting to click. I mean sure it can work, but don't you want to do something that helps you get to know each other a bit before you just sit there? As for the question on what type of movie, how can we possibly give you an answer. Not all girls are the same. Some will love a film like Get him to the greek, and some will hate it. As for Toy Story 3, what's wrong with your date crying? She might shed a tear and grab hold of you during the movie if she likes you enough, what could be wrong with that?
Author Bogo123 Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 FAIL. I never do dinner and a movie until after I'm exclusive with someone. Granted, you didn't do it on the FIRST date, but how the hell are you supposed to get to know someone better when you're chewing on food or you're watching a movie where you are supposed to be quiet? Action date all the way. Forget the movies. I see what you're saying. Well technically its our 3rd time together, the first date followed by hanging out with her at a lounge with some friends. We talk on the phone almost every day so I know enough about her. We've known each other for about a month but our schedules didn't mesh well. Took her mini golfing on the 1st date followed by drinks. Do you have any idea of the types of movies that she likes and doesn't like? Let that guide your choice... She likes all kinds so im just brainstorming and reading movie reviews.
that girl Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I think a movie is a fine date, just plan for dinner afterwards. You get to know them by talking afterwards, you can a lot discussing something. I wouldn't go to Toy Story- no matter what time you go, it will be fill of kids. Get Him to the Greek is really, really funny but also filthy. And it deals with relationship issues. Not a good idea. Maybe Prince of Persia or Knight and Day? Neither of which I have seen. You can also narrow things down to two movies and let her pick.
FindingE Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I agree it's too early for a movie date, there are so many better ways to spend time early on in a relationship - unless you two are super movie buffs and live to see movies, go see them by yourselves on occasion, etc. that kind of thing, I would come up with something else to do. A museum, a walk around the neighborhood window shopping, even a game night and pizza are all better than a movie because they all involve interaction and further getting to know her. Just my 2cents. I am not a big movie fan anyway, I prefer to rent them and watch at home in most cases. Save the movies for later when you have reached that comfort zone and it is cold and rainy with nothing else better to do.
Green Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 It would be great if they would make Roe v Wade into a movie. I bet that would be a great date night.
Chicago_Guy Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I've learned that hard way that a movie is a bad date idea if you are dating someone whom literally just met recently. If you've known the person for awhile it might be ok, if if you just met her, especially if you met her on the Internet, a movie date at a theater is a bad idea.
D-Lish Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 No flicks with rape or violence as an undertone- I once went on a date and had good chemistry over dinner... Then we saw an intense film where rape was the undertone, with violence thrown in afterward- I had to go straight home afterward. I was rattled. Yes- stick with comedy! If a girl doesn't get the same comedy as you, she's probably not a keeper.
reservoirdog1 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 FAIL. I never do dinner and a movie until after I'm exclusive with someone. Granted, you didn't do it on the FIRST date, but how the hell are you supposed to get to know someone better when you're chewing on food or you're watching a movie where you are supposed to be quiet? Action date all the way. Forget the movies. I think dinner is fine for a second date. But not a movie. I agree, an action date is the way to go.
skydiveaddict Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 forget the movie. take her skydiving instead. And then a nice dinner
Morals Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I went on a second/third (can't remember which) date with a girl to that movie a few months back called "She's out of my League"...boy was that the wrong movie to go to on a date... My usual MO on dating is... 1st date=coffee shop/book store/walk through a public area (park, downtown, etc). 2nd date=lunch/dinner+mutual interest (art gallery, museum, something where you can discuss what you are seeing) 3rd date=movie. Sometimes it's just movie, sometimes it's dinner+movie. Sometimes it's activity+movie. Varies, but I like movies, if my date doesn't like movies then I know it isn't going to work out anyways.
BS76 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Im gonna take this girl to dinner and a movie next week for our 2nd date. What are some good ones out right now? I was thinking of toy story 3, but I heard its sad so im not sure if its good to have my date crying. What about "Get him to the greek"? Any suggestions? Best thing you can do is avoid movie and dinner dates. The worst possible thing you can do is spend time with someone NOT talking and getting to know them. Activity dates are far better because your attention is focused on what you're DOING and not scrambling for phony topics of conversation just so you have something to talk about. Here are a few suggestions: Indoor rock climbing Mini-golf Ghost walk tour Go-cart Racing Scavenger hunt
Green Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 No flicks with rape or violence as an undertone- I once went on a date and had good chemistry over dinner... Then we saw an intense film where rape was the undertone, with violence thrown in afterward- I had to go straight home afterward. I was rattled. Yes- stick with comedy! If a girl doesn't get the same comedy as you, she's probably not a keeper. I once took a date to a movie with lots of rape and violence and boy did I love the way she kept on grabbing on to me at all the scary scenes. She held on so tight and it felt so good.
Lakeside_runner Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 You may as well take her to an adult movie theater... it'll have the same effect... DO SOMETHING WHERE YOU CAN TALK AND LOUGH AND HAVE FUN i.e. NOT A MOVIE!!!
Author Bogo123 Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 (edited) Ok, after reading these responses I have decided against a movie. I'm still deciding on what to do after dinner though. Nothing outdoors because its too hot. I was thinking comedy club but that would be very similar to a movie. I'll figure something out. On a side note, I have a 4th date coming up with another girl. Is a movie ok? Edited June 24, 2010 by Bogo123
Diezel Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 Play billiards or go bowling, instead. That's what I would do with this heat wave. Anything INSIDE that requires MOVEMENT and that allows you two to get close physically.
Diezel Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 Ok, after reading these responses I have decided against a movie. I'm still deciding on what to do after dinner though. Nothing outdoors because its too hot. I was thinking comedy club but that would be very similar to a movie. I'll figure something out. On a side note, I have a 4th date coming up with another girl. Is a movie ok? How old are you? Because I see you are in NJ... and I've NEVER gone wrong with Dave & Busters.
Author Bogo123 Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 How old are you? Because I see you are in NJ... and I've NEVER gone wrong with Dave & Busters. im 29 yea d&b is always good. The other girl im dating I took her on our first date but she didn't seem too excited lol
Engadget Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 Balls out action movies unless she's into them, which sucks because I love them. Horror movies work sometimes, but not a good idea generally. Comedy/Romantic comedy/chick flick/ultra popular movie like Avatar is what you do on a first date. Of course there are exceptions like the tattooed, metal girls I love so much would probably flip if it was any of those.
Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 "Dinner and a movie" is so boring and cliched. Bad idea.
Gallaxia Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I'd almost say wait on the movies date til like date 4 or 5? The first few dates should be centered around getting to conversation & getting to know each other. After building some sort of rapport, when you go to said movies, you'd at least be able to have some great conversations later and possibly even inside jokes- which helps the dating dynamic. Any earlier and it almost becomes like an unnecessary obstacle because not much was accomplished. And not really knowing them all that well, you'll start questioning if they were offended by "this" scene, or "that" scene...
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