HalfLife Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Alright guys. If you want to know my history with this girl, it's in this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t235444/ In short: Her parents wont allow us together and it's summer so we can't see each other. So we're staying "Together" as well as we can, staying exclusive and committed to eachother. Where we are now is her parents have every way of communication on lockdown making communication between us quite difficult. But we still manage it and talk on the computer almost every night for about an hour. Mainly just about how much we miss and love eachother. Cute right? Well so far, every-night of summer this is how it went. BUT last night she never got on, but before I went to bed at like 2 AM last night I saw from my ipod that she was online on Facebook. So I got on my computer and messaged her saying I was on. She wouldnt respond. So I thought she wasn't there, but as I'm being ignored by her shes doing all this other **** on facebook like posting stuff about her friends and everything. So at this point im like freaking out because shes ignoring me. And then she makes her facebook status "Your loves not live it's dead This letters written itself inside out again When rivers turn to roads and lovers become trends H H H Hush this is where it ends" So I'm like "Okay wtf? Everything was fine yesterday but now your ignoring me and basically breaking up with me over a status update? Are you KIDDING me? And then I started posting on her wall asking whats going on and are you there and stuff. And she would delete it right away and then took me off her friends list on facebook. This all happened last night. And shes been online since then and still is ignoring me and my friends requsts. What in the world is going on? Did she really just brake off a 2 and half year relationship of a status update? Because she wont talk to me or respond to any of my messages. So help would be great.
brokendream Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 That is really cruel. How heartless of her to break up over a facebook status. Have you got in contact with her since?
StarrySkyBlue Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Something's definitely going on. Yes, it's very cruel to just ignore someone out of the blue without any kind of explanation. Right now, don't contact her. Don't text, don't email, and cancel your friends request on Facebook. If she loves you, she will come back and explain. If not, you need to move on. I'm sorry you're going through this. But you're both still young, and sometimes people just do stupid, immature things when they're young. Whatever her reasons are, you can do nothing about the situation right now. I know it's hard, but try not to dwell on it too much for now. Silence hurts, so you need to protect yourself by not initiating any more contact with her.
Author HalfLife Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 That is really cruel. How heartless of her to break up over a facebook status. Have you got in contact with her since? Nope. No contact at all. I haven't heard a word from her since about two days ago back when we last talked and we're doing great. Then literally OVER NIGHT all this happens.
brokendream Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 You are both very young and this it was really immature of her to end it this way but maybe no contact is the best way. Knowing teenage girls, if you completely ignore her she will probably become curious to why you have stopped contacting her and it will entice her to contact you. Even if she doesn't, no contact is the best way for you to move on. I know you want answers right now but you will probably get your answers eventually. I read over your previous posts and the situation wasn't good before she did this. Maybe you both need a break away from each other to experience different things and figure out what you want. Her parents seem very controlling and if I were them, I'd be delighted that she had you as a boyfriend. Most guys your age are only out for one thing but you genuinely love this girl and just want to be with her. Pushing it now is just going to push her away and give her the satisfaction of seeing you suffer. Give it time and things will work out for you whether you end up together or not.
Author HalfLife Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 (edited) ^ Yes. I'm trying my hardest to stop trying to talk to her but it's very hard. It's so hard to see someone change. Hands down she is a completely different person than she was two years ago. Two years ago when we started dating she was Gabby. The sweet, soft, innocent, shy little girl who had a crush and me and looked up to me like I was the greatest man in the world, talked about me to all her friends, called me all the time and wanted nothing but to be with me. Now she's Gabriella. The stuck up semi-brat who gets whatever she wants, flirts back with any girl who flirts with her, starting to hang out with the wrong crowd, ignores me whenever she pleases and coms back whenever she needs me, acts fake, and tries to make me jealous all the time. It's horrible. Edited June 23, 2010 by HalfLife
brokendream Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I don’t know your girl but I remember well what it’s like to be a teenage girl. Your teens are a time to experiment and you begin to find out who you are. She's probably feeling a lot more confident in herself now that she has ever felt in her whole life. At the same time she will be unsure of herself and might be the type of person who puts people down so she can feel good. Lots of new and exciting stuff are probably happening to her so she's pushing the boundaries and getting a bit cocky. She may change into this person for good or she may realize she's being an ass and go back to being Gabby. While she's acting like this you should steer well clear from her for your own sake. She will only try and make you feel inferior and you don't need that. She's playing silly games so leave her to it.
ResetReality Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 ah dude, I know how u feel, my ex broke up with my out of the blue, that was 2 weeks ago, and i STILL don't know why, we were dating for 2 and a bit years aswell its true, people do change, but my ex became a totally different person, what can you do, I know how you feel, but mentioned above, remain NC and let her come to you, she probo likes the attention by you chasing around her, its time she came to you Ive done this approach week and abit of NC and the more i think about it the more bitter i get, TBH if she did ever come back, i would never take her back, on principal alone keep your chin up fella
Author HalfLife Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 I don’t know your girl but I remember well what it’s like to be a teenage girl. Your teens are a time to experiment and you begin to find out who you are. She's probably feeling a lot more confident in herself now that she has ever felt in her whole life. At the same time she will be unsure of herself and might be the type of person who puts people down so she can feel good. Lots of new and exciting stuff are probably happening to her so she's pushing the boundaries and getting a bit cocky. She may change into this person for good or she may realize she's being an ass and go back to being Gabby. While she's acting like this you should steer well clear from her for your own sake. She will only try and make you feel inferior and you don't need that. She's playing silly games so leave her to it. Yeah I see what you mean. But this isn't simply confidence in herself. Because whenever things between me and her are going strong, she's Gabby. Shy, soft, sweet old Gabby. But the second something gets into her head that makes her not want me anymore, that's when she changes. It's whenever she leaves is when she changes because she does half the things to make me jealous.
ahashakeheartbreak Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 Yeah, I know it's hard...you just need to not contact her at all. Don't look at her facebook, don't friend request her. Ingnore her. You've done your part, now it's time for you to sit back and let her come back to you. ALthough in time, you may realize this wouldn't be for the better. I am sorry to say, teenage girls like to feel this kind of power in playing with a boy. It's horrid how she has been, but you seem to have a mature handle on it all. (:
Author HalfLife Posted June 26, 2010 Author Posted June 26, 2010 Yeah I see what you mean. Just never thought she was the kind of person that would do that... but like I said, she's a completely different person than she used to be...
Author HalfLife Posted June 26, 2010 Author Posted June 26, 2010 Okay!!!! I have an update. Apparently she saw I wrote on some girls wall. A girl I've been friends with for like over 10 years. But anyways she snapped. And called me this morning yelling at me about how she doesn't want to "Deal with my **** anymore"... well really she just got jealous about everything. And after she got jealous and upset her whole mind went negative and said "I'm tired of always being scared and worried about you Brandon. I can't eat or sleep at night because I can't talk to you and be with you anymore because my parents won't let us. I can't keep doing this I'm sorry" What do I do from here? She's giving up. And it sucks because I know if she never saw that post on that one girls' wall (just saying hello) then I know none of this wouldve happened. This is like the 5th time she's gone back and forth on this btw...
LoveTruthChaos Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 I really think you should let her go. She doesn't know what she wants, and you shouldn't have to put up with that
D-Lish Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 She's not two different people, the manipulative, cold, mean, selfish person is just as much a part of who she really is as the one that decides to be sweet to you when she wants to be. It's not healthy to believe she has "two sides" to her, because you're always going to be searching for that side that treats you right instead of realizing that you should be walking away from the whole package. The nasty side of her isn't a side, it's who she really is.
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