kis Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 So had you rather find out that your married AP has done this sort of thing before or that you are the first one they have crossed that line with and why??
Secure Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 So had you rather find out that your married AP has done this sort of thing before or that you are the first one they have crossed that line with and why?? The first one because that is what I was told. I knew the person for years and never thought he would ever cheat.
Just a stone's throw Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I would prefer/hope to be the first and last. And of course, I'm dreaming. But a girl can dream, right?
Mombot Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 My AP is separated- his wife had a child with another man, and I know he had some ons and some short lived affairs. He went back to her and raised that child as his own, and now they are separated again. Will they ever D? Who knows.
OWoman Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 So had you rather find out that your married AP has done this sort of thing before or that you are the first one they have crossed that line with and why?? I always specifically chose MMs that had never considered an A before, who were happily M (as far as anyone could tell). The reason was that I mistakenly assumed they would be invested in the M, and would not want "more" than a short-term, part-time fling on the side - which was what I was offering.
TinaniT Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 At this point, that I was the only, because that is what I was told (and believe firmly ) Going in, I hoped the other way. Felt bad when I found out it was his first and almost ended it...
jennie-jennie Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Having been the BS to two serial cheaters, of course I did not want to encounter that again. I love that my MM was so inexperienced when it came to intimacy and sex, it made him value me and our relationship so much. I love that he has only had two partners before me, his wife and one other woman. I love that he is so into me. Being that I want a monogamous relationship with my MM, I do not want him to be prone to extramarital relationships in general.
jj33 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I liked the fact that I was not the first. It allowed me to spend time with him guilt free knowing that I was accepted part of the lifestyle rather than a secret in the marriage. I wouldnt have done it if I had been the first. I would have told him to get a divorce and call me after
piscis Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 We started talking because he was depressed after ending an eleven year A. He has been married for 14 years. I do not think I could go on with our A if I was the first. That kind of make the guilt aside, because what man could really care about his W after being with OW for that amoun of time? but the real thing is thatmaybe he does not care about her but for whatever reason he wont leave
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