chisox100 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 So here is the story. I'm a 17 year old guy, im not socially awkward or anything. Maybe a little of the shy side but I guess you could say im pretty close to the definition of normal. The only problem is i have a problem with girls. I don't get afraid or nervous or anything around them i just have no clue what to talk about with them. So this is the situation: I work as a T-Ball coach at my local rec. center. This is the third summer i have done it. This year there is a girl who is working there too. She goes to the same school as me and is a grade younger. I met her before we started this job last week but i know of her from friends mentioning her, etc. After 10 minutes of being near her and ever since i have had the biggest crush ever on her. Unforntualey my awful skills at talking to girls and her being pretty quiet has prevented any real conversations from starting between us. What can i do to get some normal conversations started with her. Just something light that can make us at least friends and work it up from there. Any advice would be much appreciated.
alphamale Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 What can i do to get some normal conversations started with her. Just something light that can make us at least friends and work it up from there. ask her out on a date. you don't have to say much except for what, where and when. whatever you do, do NOT start out as friends.
Author chisox100 Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 whatever you do, do NOT start out as friends. Why? that seems to be the logical thing to do.
alphamale Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Why? that seems to be the logical thing to do. no, the LOGICAL thing to do is to start the relatioinship out on a romantic foot. you don't want to be friends with her, you want to sleep with her and have her fall in l:love:ve with you
Author chisox100 Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 no, the LOGICAL thing to do is to start the relatioinship out on a romantic foot. you don't want to be friends with her, you want to sleep with her and have her fall in l:love:ve with you i still need to be able to talk to her a bit before i ask her out so do you have any advice on how i can have some normal conversations before it becomes romantic?
alphamale Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 i still need to be able to talk to her a bit before i ask her out so do you have any advice on how i can have some normal conversations before it becomes romantic? yea just talk to her about stuff you have in common like work and school, music, etc...
Author chisox100 Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 yea just talk to her about stuff you have in common like work and school, music, etc... thats not my problem its igniting the conversation that im struggling with, i dont want to say something so completely random or something that will make her feel uncomfortable. in the few minutes of free time we have between sessions i need something to say that will work idk im clueless now
Green Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Stop thinking of it as "I have to start a conversation." JUST ASK HER OUT. Heres what your conversation should be Lets go get dinner tonight, I'll pick you up at 6. Here put your number into my phone. Then just txt her imeadetly "Hey its _________ now you have number" Just FLIRT wiht her. Say something silly like "Some weather we've been having" then say something like "I always think you make the cutest facial expression" JUST SAY SILLY STUPID CRAP TO HER... its called FLIRTING... THEN LIKE I SAID ABOVE ASK HER OUt. IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT IN FACT YOU MOST LIKELY WILL BE AWKWARD SO WHAT .... BE A MAN OF ACTION... NOW FOR THE MOST IMPORTANT PART... before the date is over... before you say good bye to her ... KISS HER ON THE LIPS.... DON'T ASK just go in and KISS HER. Smile afterward... Maybe say something like I NEED ANOTHER ONE OF THOSE. After you break the KISS BARRIER which YOU NEED TO ON THE FIRST DATE.. YOU will be able to make out with her when every you run out of things to say. KISSING A GIRL IS SIMPLE YOU REALLY CAN'T SCREW UP just PUSH YOUR LIPS AGAINST HERS and I would hold off on the toungue the first kiss. YOU REALLY CAN't go wrong. REMEMBER DON'T FEAR REJECTION. IF YOU ARE PUTTING YOURSELF IN A POSITION TO GET REJECTED THEN YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING. THERE IS NO SAFE I;ll PERTEND TO BE HER FRIEND AND NOT RISK REJECTION ROUTE TO GETTING A GF. YOU HAVE TO TAKE THE RISK BECAUSe WOmeN do not take the risk... only a man is brave enough to put himself out there. Remember there are plenty of other girls don't get all obsessed about this one girl, JUST ASK HER OUT ALREADY AND MOVE ON IF IT DOESN'T WORK OUT. I WAS SO AFRAID OF REJECTION I DIDN'T START DATING UNTIL AFTER COLLEGE. FACE REJECTION MY FRIEND BECAUSE ONCE YOU START ASKING GIRLS OUT it is only a short matter of time till a pretty great thing happens and u have gf. ONLY ASK OUT GIRLS YOU REALLY TOTALY LIKE. GO FOR IT MAN...GO FOR IT.
Diezel Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Why? that seems to be the logical thing to do. that is NOT the logical thing to do. Maybe in all those chic flicks you watch at 5 PM while having a Hot Pocket... But in real life, you declare your intentions FIRST. Just ask her out. Listen to your elders.
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