Pandapple Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 4 years ago and he is possibly coming back into my life. We dated for 3 years and I ended it because I was young and stupid. For the last few months I've come to realize I still have feelings for him. However, I am living with my current boyfriend of 3 years and I'm torn. I'm afraid of leaving my bf and not having a place to live or making the wrong choice. I love my current bf but I don't know what to do.
road Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 How do you know this BF1 is coming back into your life?
Author Pandapple Posted June 22, 2010 Author Posted June 22, 2010 I've contacted him recently and we discussed things briefly. He still wants to give us a try.
imagine Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I've contacted him recently and we discussed things briefly. He still wants to give us a try. I've gotta ask - Why did you contact him?
Author Pandapple Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 Because I couldn't stop thinking about him. I know it was wrong but I had to just tell him.
imagine Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Hmm, sounds like you enjoy drama. How do you think this is going to end?
Cracker Jack Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Well, we can't decide for you. You ended the relationship because you were "Young and stupid", but are you willing to end another relationship because you're "Curious" about what you two can possibly do this time around? I mean, if it blows up in your face this time, you have no one to blame but yourself. Feel sorry for the current boyfriend, though. You're living with him and focused on your ex, so it's obvious you're not emotionally into the relationship anymore.
Author Pandapple Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 Don't reply if you aren't going to help.
Author Pandapple Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 I never said I was "curious" I still have feelings for the ex and don't know what to do. Whatever, guess I was stupid to post here. I rather not be attacked.
carhill Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Ambivalence might be helped by some alone time. IMO, you're preciously close to that Hoover line where current BF will become unwittingly used. I got Hoovered pretty bad by stbx and it's really not healthy, for anyone. If you're wanting your ex, or curious about him in the romantic sense, that's cool. Move out, get your own place and date him. I wish you well
imagine Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Were relations strained with current b/f when you phoned your ex?
Cracker Jack Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I never said I was "curious" I still have feelings for the ex and don't know what to do. Whatever, guess I was stupid to post here. I rather not be attacked. Um, when did I attack you? What exactly are you asking for here? You have a choice that's up to you and no one else. You clearly have enough feelings for both to at least think about it, but you seem more willing to leave your current for your ex based on how your post is structured. It is what it is. You can either stay with your current, or give your ex another chance. Just know that you're going to crush someone (Mainly the guy who's spent the last 3 yrs with you) at the end of the day.
LSNoob Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 (edited) First, no body here attacks you, they just giving their honest opinions. Don't take it to the heart please. "I ended it because I was young and stupid"... Did you cheat on your ex???? I mean if you cheated on your ex, then 4 years later, you cheated with him on you current bf?? Wow that's messed up. My advice is, go no contact with your ex forever, then leave your current boyfriend and leave the relationship scene for at least 5 years. Go enjoy single life for 5 years, go trips, enjoy nights out with friends, get very good job, good house, etc etc.. One more thing, I read before so many times Ex's try to get back together but at the end it fails most of the time. Specially if the relationship was broken by infidelity. Wish you luck. Edited June 23, 2010 by LSNoob
Woman In Blue Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Don't reply if you aren't going to help. Well looky here - a new member with only 5 posts to her name and she's already setting the rules for everyone. Here's a little 411 for ya - you don't get to pick and choose who has input just because you started the thread. You were "attacked?" Jeez. Drama, much?
zerovandez Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 You need to be alone and think this one over for a while. I was on the recieving end in your situation and still gonig through some B/S. So do everyone a favor and just be single until you figure things out for yourself.
Dexter Morgan Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 4 years ago and he is possibly coming back into my life. We dated for 3 years and I ended it because I was young and stupid. For the last few months I've come to realize I still have feelings for him. However, I am living with my current boyfriend of 3 years and I'm torn. I'm afraid of leaving my bf and not having a place to live or making the wrong choice. I love my current bf but I don't know what to do. Having a place to live is YOUR problem, not your current bf's problem. You are using him for your own financial situation. FIND another place to live and break up with your boyfriend so he can be free to find someone worthy of him. And if you loved your bf you wouldn't be pining for another guy. so what do you do? find a place to live, and break up with your bf. THAT is the right thing to do. Anything else is just you being selfish and using your bf.
Dexter Morgan Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 We dated for 3 years and I ended it because I was young and stupid. I don't think much has changed
Dexter Morgan Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Well she's not quite as young as she was. but the thinking and maturity level did not change
cavedweller Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Pandapple, If you want to dump your current bf and get back with your ex...Well, do it.
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