Soul-Mate'less Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Hello Love Shackers.. I've been lurking for about a week, and I found this site..looking for advice on how to cope and get thru pain I've been feeling since I was dumped a week before Mother's Day.. My story is almost IDENTICAL to Star Gazer's story..and I was in complete awe.. at how parallel our stories were.. I was going to post that same day and opted not to.. because her story was MY story.. with the exception of my ex drinking. He has no 'addictions' or issues.. other than fear I'm assuming.. I also felt relief when reading all the NC suggestions.. this was one bit of advice my bff (a guy) stressed to me.. and although afraid and doubtful.. I stuck to his advice.. and I'm so glad I did. So far.. I've been exercising, hanging with friends, reading, etc (again.. coincidentally like Star ) .. and have been slowly but steadily going down the road to recovery. So... last weekend.. I go out.. and meet a CUTIE PIE.. not looking for love.. romance or ANYTHING of that nature.. but it felt good to meet someone.. and have a bit of interest.. whereas before.. I'd be too enveloped in sadness to care at all.. so we exchanged numbers.. nothing major so while jogging last night.. I tried clear my mind of thought of him.. it felt refreshing.. to have my now "anger" start to dissolve into "indifference".. I'm not there yet.. but I feel it.. I'm sure once I see him.. in the off chance that may all change.. But.. anyhoo.. I get home.. feeling refreshed.. and my phone rings.. I didn't recognize the number initially (because I removed him from my phone) but once I realized.. I sent him to my voicemail!!! I took a minute to process how I felt about doing that.. I wasn't sad.. I knew he didn't want anything beside idle chit chat.. which he was NOT getting..and if it were important.. he would've texted.. (he didn't).. I haven't slept SOOOO soundly since our breakup .. it felt good..and I'm happy about.. just thought I'd share..
Perhaps Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 (edited) Hey, good to hear you're sticking to NC. Don't pick up the calls -- you're better than someone's "boredom entertainer". And hey, jogging kills two birds in one shot - helps you physically and mentally. Edited June 22, 2010 by Perhaps
Author Soul-Mate'less Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 Thanks.. and the "cutie pie" on the phone yesterday.. had issues.. I'll pass on that :-/ i don't care tho.. I'm good
Treasa Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Sweetie, you totally rock in my book. Your ex is an idiot who will realize what he lost. And you're strong enough to let him go ahead and feel that loss. I wish more people were like you.
Author Soul-Mate'less Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 Sweetie, you totally rock in my book. Your ex is an idiot who will realize what he lost. And you're strong enough to let him go ahead and feel that loss. I wish more people were like you. LOL... THANKS! I'd like to think of him as a "dummy".. a friend of mine described him as inexperienced in love.. and I'll just go with that.. perhaps I need someone with more experience..next time..
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