Stymie123 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Summary: she cheated, told me about it, wanted to work it out, kept seeing the guy, wanted space, we broke up, i moved out, went nc right away. Ex contacted me 10 days later, we met up a few times, i stayed over, we talked reconciliation, it didn't happen. She then flipped and wants to be "single". She still wanted to date, and made plans to see me. She seemed genuinely happy when i would call or ask to see her. We last made plans to go out, which i bailed on, she texted a few times and called wondering where i was, and basically said she gets why i didn't show up-- her flip flop behavior over the last few days. This was 3 days ago. I want to send her an email telling her how i feel about the situation, and why i am staying away. Bad idea?
Author Stymie123 Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 Sent an email basically saying that while she's confused about what she wants, I needed to walk away for my own good. That I was actually trying to destroy my feelings for her in order to move on. Mixed feelings about sending it.
D-Lish Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Summary: she cheated, told me about it, wanted to work it out, kept seeing the guy, wanted space, we broke up, i moved out, went nc right away. Ex contacted me 10 days later, we met up a few times, i stayed over, we talked reconciliation, it didn't happen. She then flipped and wants to be "single". She still wanted to date, and made plans to see me. She seemed genuinely happy when i would call or ask to see her. We last made plans to go out, which i bailed on, she texted a few times and called wondering where i was, and basically said she gets why i didn't show up-- her flip flop behavior over the last few days. This was 3 days ago. I want to send her an email telling her how i feel about the situation, and why i am staying away. Bad idea? Yes, bad idea. Don't give someone that kind of power over you. It's fine to write such a letter for yourself- but to send it is a bad idea.
DenverBachelor Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 (edited) Sent an email basically saying that while she's confused about what she wants, I needed to walk away for my own good. That I was actually trying to destroy my feelings for her in order to move on. Mixed feelings about sending it. I don't know, dude. I mean that sounds a wee bit "passive-aggressive." I mean, it sounds like you're trying to get a last jab in on her while you honestly DON'T want to move on right now. If you wanted to move on, you'd want to move on for yourself. You wouldn't need to send her an e-mail so that you have a one person audience while going through this process. This isn't about you guys or her anymore -- this is about you. You don't need to tell her anything. You also shouldn't lie to yourself if that's what you are doing. If you don't want to walk away from her but are sending that as some type of threat to make her feel bad, it's just going to make your healing process that much more difficult. You don't want to play games right now with your feelings or hers. What you need to do is be a man, accept what has happened and cope with the loss while staying out of contact with her. Edited June 23, 2010 by DenverBachelor
Author Stymie123 Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 I wanted to send it because i felt bad for making plans, which she was receptive too, and then basically blowing her off. I re-called it before she read it, so at least that's done.
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