My girlfriend left me; how do I cope better?

[Jack Logan]

My ex-girlfriend and I were together for a year; however, she broke up with me 5 months ago. You'd think that I would be over it by now, but I'm not. I still love her as much as I did when we were together, and I don't know why. We have remained "friends" but we rarely see much of each other, and I miss her terribly. She's going off to a college a few hours away in the fall, while I'll go to one near where I live. The reason why she broke up with me is because according to her, I was too possesive (jealous). I do admit that I acted jealous a few times, but it's not the kind of jealousy where I constantly asked her where she was going or why she was talking to some guy. In fact, I only seemed jealous whenever she talked to my best friend. Other than that, we always had a good time and rarely fought. She told me all of the problems she had in the relationship the day she broke up with me, so there was no way I could've known. When I begged her to give me a second chance and assured her I would change and never act jealous again, she told me, with tears on her face, that she "didn't feel the same way about me anymore". When I heard this from her, it was like taking a punch to the face. I was devastated and finally agreed to break up with her. A week or two after the breakup, I talked to her again about us and she told me that she needed time to think and that I should just wait for her to give me an answer. Now, 5 months later, I have found out a few weeks ago that she only told me that to avoid hurting my feelings and that her decision had already been made from the start. Not only that, I found out that the reason why we were barely hanging out is because she was trying to avoid me. Does she hate me this much? what did I do to her? it's not like I cheated on her. I always talk to her kindly and with respect. The worst part is that it's hard to get over her, even if I try to, since she is constantly calling my best friend and asking him to spend time with her. I think she likes him. She has always said she doesn't, but her actions speak otherwise. I love this girl so much, and I would do anything for her and give up everthing to have her back, but she doesn't love me anymore. I always think about her, but she probably doesn't even think about me. How did she stop loving me when she used to always tell me how much she loved me. Before we started dating, it was her who was crying over me because she thought we could never be together; how could the best thing on earth turn into this trashy situation? Five months of depression and feeling like crap is enough; I just want this feeling to go away.

[GrayClouds]

Sorry for your loss.

 

Just read the following and do what it says:

The No Contact Guide

So you want a second chance?

 

By the way I really like you music:

 

And the a great break up song of the same album:

 

"Said you've had it up to here, with my football games and beer and my sorry friends who visit ever' night, well I've heard it all before and I'm walkin' out your door and I'm a-not a-gonna ask you for a ride.

Well I know a little stretch of highway, hitch a ride, tell you what I'll do, I drew out every penny of our savings, for a new used car and a plate of bbq.

 

I'm tired of your voice and your doped-up teenage boys, and the way you spit my name out like a chew, out on highway 29, I'll just follow all the signs, to the used car lots and the pit-cooked bbq.

 

Well I know a little stretch of highway, hitch a ride, tell you what I'll do, I drew out every penny of our savings, for a new used car and a plate of bbq.

 

When you wake up and I'm gone, you can turn your soaps back on, and eat that awful meatloaf I despise, I'll be rid of you, eatin' slaw and brunswick stew, with a '69 Camaro parked outside.

 

Well I know, a little stretch of highway, hitch a ride, tell you what I'll do, I drew out every penny of our savings, for a new used car and a plate of bbq, for a new used car and a plate of bbq. "

New Use car and a Plate of BBQ by Jack Logan

[thomas777]

look at me kid, I am 49, pain in relationships suck, You just found yourself with "that girl" the one of many that tend to mess up guys hearts, It happens at all ages, chicks getting up and leaving, (guys do it to). you do not want a woman like that, believe me, she will never be happy! She will just use up guys until she is old and wrinkled up and then sit at the bar and smoke. Dude you will be better off, it takes a bit of time. There are alot of nice woman out there. I am in your same shoes, I wont go into details but it sucks, yes. but f them we can and will do better. Read some self help books maybe see a therapist. You probably will have love for her for a long time, love is good (better than hate) love is way better than hate, hate takes up to much energy. You want revenge? living good is the best revenge, good luck brother. peace out.

 

My ex-girlfriend and I were together for a year; however, she broke up with me 5 months ago. You'd think that I would be over it by now, but I'm not. I still love her as much as I did when we were together, and I don't know why. We have remained "friends" but we rarely see much of each other, and I miss her terribly. She's going off to a college a few hours away in the fall, while I'll go to one near where I live. The reason why she broke up with me is because according to her, I was too possesive (jealous). I do admit that I acted jealous a few times, but it's not the kind of jealousy where I constantly asked her where she was going or why she was talking to some guy. In fact, I only seemed jealous whenever she talked to my best friend. Other than that, we always had a good time and rarely fought. She told me all of the problems she had in the relationship the day she broke up with me, so there was no way I could've known. When I begged her to give me a second chance and assured her I would change and never act jealous again, she told me, with tears on her face, that she "didn't feel the same way about me anymore". When I heard this from her, it was like taking a punch to the face. I was devastated and finally agreed to break up with her. A week or two after the breakup, I talked to her again about us and she told me that she needed time to think and that I should just wait for her to give me an answer. Now, 5 months later, I have found out a few weeks ago that she only told me that to avoid hurting my feelings and that her decision had already been made from the start. Not only that, I found out that the reason why we were barely hanging out is because she was trying to avoid me. Does she hate me this much? what did I do to her? it's not like I cheated on her. I always talk to her kindly and with respect. The worst part is that it's hard to get over her, even if I try to, since she is constantly calling my best friend and asking him to spend time with her. I think she likes him. She has always said she doesn't, but her actions speak otherwise. I love this girl so much, and I would do anything for her and give up everthing to have her back, but she doesn't love me anymore. I always think about her, but she probably doesn't even think about me. How did she stop loving me when she used to always tell me how much she loved me. Before we started dating, it was her who was crying over me because she thought we could never be together; how could the best thing on earth turn into this trashy situation? Five months of depression and feeling like crap is enough; I just want this feeling to go away.

[bussie]

I think you needed to talk to each other more about your feelings,thoughts,future plans and speak your mind when something came up, at the time. None of as communicate enough with each other.

My ex-girlfriend and I were together for a year; however, she broke up with me 5 months ago. You'd think that I would be over it by now, but I'm not. I still love her as much as I did when we were together, and I don't know why. We have remained "friends" but we rarely see much of each other, and I miss her terribly. She's going off to a college a few hours away in the fall, while I'll go to one near where I live. The reason why she broke up with me is because according to her, I was too possesive (jealous). I do admit that I acted jealous a few times, but it's not the kind of jealousy where I constantly asked her where she was going or why she was talking to some guy. In fact, I only seemed jealous whenever she talked to my best friend. Other than that, we always had a good time and rarely fought. She told me all of the problems she had in the relationship the day she broke up with me, so there was no way I could've known. When I begged her to give me a second chance and assured her I would change and never act jealous again, she told me, with tears on her face, that she "didn't feel the same way about me anymore". When I heard this from her, it was like taking a punch to the face. I was devastated and finally agreed to break up with her. A week or two after the breakup, I talked to her again about us and she told me that she needed time to think and that I should just wait for her to give me an answer. Now, 5 months later, I have found out a few weeks ago that she only told me that to avoid hurting my feelings and that her decision had already been made from the start. Not only that, I found out that the reason why we were barely hanging out is because she was trying to avoid me. Does she hate me this much? what did I do to her? it's not like I cheated on her. I always talk to her kindly and with respect. The worst part is that it's hard to get over her, even if I try to, since she is constantly calling my best friend and asking him to spend time with her. I think she likes him. She has always said she doesn't, but her actions speak otherwise. I love this girl so much, and I would do anything for her and give up everthing to have her back, but she doesn't love me anymore. I always think about her, but she probably doesn't even think about me. How did she stop loving me when she used to always tell me how much she loved me. Before we started dating, it was her who was crying over me because she thought we could never be together; how could the best thing on earth turn into this trashy situation? Five months of depression and feeling like crap is enough; I just want this feeling to go away.

[cavedweller]

Do not keep her as a 'friend'..Break off all contact, forget her and move on...