whattothink Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I've seen a great 30 year old on two dates. He's recently divorced and describes himself as shy until he gets to know people. It seems like we have great chemistry- lots of hugs, laughs and common values. He still hasn't kissed me and I'm dying for it! I hinted that I wanted him to kiss me but he said that he doesn't know me. To me, that's how I really determine if there is, in fact, chemistry. Is he shy or not interested and being the kind guy I think he is? Thanks all!
Serenitynow Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Are we supposed to read his mind for you ? See what I mean, Ive said it over and over. . . A guy doesnt move in quickly enough to start physical contact, and the female wonders WTH ? Guys cant win if we move too quick we are pigs, if we show respect it throws them for a loop and makes them question our intentions.
O'Malley Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 You've stated that you have good chemistry; it sounds like he is the kind of person who needs more time before intimacy. He wouldn't continue to contact you or ask you out if he didn't find you attractive. If he's shy, you need to be realistic that you may have to take up more of the initiative. He's either going to not notice your hints or he won't want to take advantage of the situation.
SomewhatExperienced Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 You said this guy is recently divorced. It can take guys a long time to get back into the game. There's often a lot of fear surrounding meeting people again once they start dating.
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