angie16 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Ok so this man that I dated last summer is back. He broke up with me after 3 months, it was really devastating mainly it was out of the blue and he just dissapearred. which was shocking because i met his family, friends, etc. Either way I got over him and viola, he's back after 10 months. He found me and made a big deal about how he made a mistake and wants to try again and misses me. he made a big deal about how he lied when he broke up with me because he was insecure and overwhelmed. Either way his situation has changed since then -- he is down on his luck and has suffered a loss in his family. That was one of his reasons, that he realized that he wanted me in his life after his tragically lost his best friend. in essence, he's at his lowest point. now mind you he has tons of family and other friends -- so it's not like I'm the only person he can talk to. So down to the nittty gritty. Its been a month of this. we see each other 2-3 times a week. he calls or emails or texts every day. we go out on dates. we have not had sex again, but we make out and he'll stay over and we'll "cuddle". as time is progressing, I'm still being introduced in public as "a friend". (i am not initiating any communication -- i am letting him do all of the work). he is very affectionate and we do PDA in public around friends. what is going on. are we just taking it slow or is he using me for emotional support? I'm 31 and he's 34, so this is getting old. thanks.
spyyder Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Using you for emotional support. Theres no way someone thats actually into you would take of like that without a good reason not 'just it was a big mistake'.
StarrySkyBlue Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I agree that he needs the emotional support. Not entirely his fault, though, because I understand that you can suddenly realize how good someone is for you when you're in a bad spot in life. However, I don't think you should be doing boyfriend-girlfriend things with him at the moment. If you're feeling generous, be a friend and help him out of the bad situation, but keep your distance and see if he's still around when everything's good again.
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