Tayla Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Taboo- Hmmm...depends geographically and culturally where you reside. Its alive and thumping in some regions in the USA (bible belt comes to mind).... True love is blind and really should remain that way...Cultural and Family upbringing may mold a person for their likes and dislikes but real love and dating can re-define a person and open options they didnt think possible. Date based on compatibility and not just the curiosity of different skin types....I wish you well as the world can be a most wonderous place when you step outside the supposed norm and find yourself in a wonderful relationship!
Corporate Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I think interracial dating involving a black person is more controversial than others. It's usually less of a big deal if you have say a Italian dating a Brazilian or a Asian dating a Cuban. But, a black man dating an Irish girl or a Asian man dating a black girl is much more controversial.
Secure Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 It is probably not as taboo as it was a couple of generations ago, but it is still taboo in many parts of the culture. Many white men--again, not all, but many--resist dating back women because they've been influenced by stereotypes. They often see black women as "to pushy," "too loud," and "too aggressive." Do not worry about the comments, your true friends will support you no matter who you choose to date. I have known and know plenty of interracial couples from friends to family. And cannot believe how many caucasian© men and african american(AA) women who are married in my city. I have also seen several of these men date women of other races but when it came to marriage, to my surprise, married caucasian women. Instead of the stereotypes, I believe the resistance is due to family and friends opinions, fear of acceptance/discrimination in community and at work, and personally feeling as if they have lowered their standards. A dear C female friend of mine is married to a AA male. She works primarily with C men and and encountered much disrespect at all angles. Her opinion, she is female. My opinion, her spouse is AA. A C male who is aspiring to be a top executive with his company will probably believe an AA wife would hinder his progress.
Secure Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Just curious, I have seen african american males as stepfathers to biracial children but have you ever seen caucasian men as stepfathers to biracial children?
Corporate Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 A dear C female friend of mine is married to a AA male. She works primarily with C men and and encountered much disrespect at all angles. Her opinion, she is female. My opinion, her spouse is AA. A C male who is aspiring to be a top executive with his company will probably believe an AA wife would hinder his progress. You're probably right. You can change your own perception, but you cannot change society's. We live in a society and society's perception matters whether we like it or not. Many times, blacks are associated with ghettoness in society and it won't change any time soon in the near future.
Author Mia-n-Bk Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 Everyone has made some very valid points that got me thinking...I guess I used the term taboo based on (what the last few comments touched on) which is the geography.I live in bushwick brooklyn & this area of New york is mostly hispanic & black( in this area most ppl dont see a black person dating a hispanic person as a interracial relationship) but lately white ppl have been moving into the area. I see how black ppl stare at the white ppl in the area almost like their a science experiment. The stares that they get clearly say What the hell are you doing here and do u know that your in the wrong place.This observation made me wonder if it was still taboo.
somedude81 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I've had two black female friends that I later developed crushes on. Both of them ended up rejecting me. I can't confirm or deny that us being different races were a contributor to them rejecting me. I believe that race takes a back seat to a potential partners social-economic standing, education and class. My parents would be just upset with me for taking a 'girl from the hood' as they would for me dating a white trash girl. Race is irrelevant. All that matters is that the girl is pretty, clean, intelligent, has manners and respects me. I have always lived in a racially mixed area, so interracial dating is nothing new.
Secure Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I've had two black female friends that I later developed crushes on. Both of them ended up rejecting me. I can't confirm or deny that us being different races were a contributor to them rejecting me. I believe that race takes a back seat to a potential partners social-economic standing, education and class. My parents would be just upset with me for taking a 'girl from the hood' as they would for me dating a white trash girl. Race is irrelevant. All that matters is that the girl is pretty, clean, intelligent, has manners and respects me. I have always lived in a racially mixed area, so interracial dating is nothing new. Same for me.
Corporate Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Race is irrelevant. All that matters is that the girl is pretty, clean, intelligent, has manners and respects me. To you maybe, but not to society. To society, race matters and race is not only skin deep.
Diezel Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 **** society. Again... why would I listen to what other people think?
somedude81 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 To you maybe, but not to society. To society, race matters and race is not only skin deep. As I said in my previous post, I have always lived in a racially diverse area, where interracial dating is common. So society is fine with it. I grew up in the Bay Area and now I'm going to school in SoCal. White's are only about 50% of the population and I'm not stupid enough to limit myself to dating only my race.
Corporate Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 **** society. Again... why would I listen to what other people think? Because they are your employers, business associates, vendors, family members, friends, mentors, etc.
Diezel Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Because they are your employers, business associates, vendors, family members, friends, mentors, etc. And NONE of them have a stake in my dating life. I guess I must be one of those "out of the box" people.
Corporate Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 And NONE of them have a stake in my dating life. I guess I must be one of those "out of the box" people. Their preception of you matters to you because it influence how they treat you.
Diezel Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Their preception of you matters to you because it influence how they treat you. I believe it's spelled perception. And no, it doesn't influence how they treat me, and even if it did, I could care less. My love life is just that... MINE.
Corporate Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I believe it's spelled perception. And no, it doesn't influence how they treat me, and even if it did, I could care less. My love life is just that... MINE. I am sure most people care how their family, employer, etc. treat them.
Diezel Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I am sure most people care how their family, employer, etc. treat them. And my point is... that they shouldn't. Family and employers aren't the ones in the relationship. So screw what they think.
somedude81 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I am sure most people care how their family, employer, etc. treat them. Dude do you live in the deep south or something? You might want to take off your hood.
D-Lish Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Just curious, I have seen african american males as stepfathers to biracial children but have you ever seen caucasian men as stepfathers to biracial children? Yes I have- more often than not. I've actually never seen the opposite of what you claim to see. Never, ever.
Corporate Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Yes I have- more often than not. I've actually never seen the opposite of what you claim to see. Never, ever. True that. Black men, in the media, are known to be absent fathers to their biological kids. I would think, them being present step-fathers are very uncommon.
aerogurl87 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 First off welcome to LS Now I'm a black, 20 year old, female and my boyfriend is white. In fact, all of my last 3 boyfriends have been white because that's who I'm mainly attracted to for some reason. I think interracial relationships are still a bit taboo in some places, such as the southern part of the US. But for the most part, more people are accepting of them today. I know my parents don't care if I date a white guy and have actually come to expect it, lol. My boyfriend's parents don't care that I'm black either and his whole family loves me, so if you find someone you like go for it!
Woggle Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I have been noticing a growing number of black women who are mainly attracted to white men. I don't why that is but it is something I have been noticing.
aerogurl87 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 There is also another black sector that hates and despises their own and would wanna date other races so they can stick it to their fellow brothers/sisters. My best friend is like this and it's sad. When asked if she'd ever date a black guy, she said she wouldn't because she wants a man who has a job and isn't lazy and ghetto. Well her white boyfriend has a job, but is lazy and tries to act like he's from the "hood". So for her, I think it's all about the fact that he's white and not black because there have been some pretty attractive and intelligent black guys who have been interested in her, but she always turns them down because of that one single factor. Whether it's done intentionally or subconsciously I don't know though. For me I don't care about race as long as the guy is cute, intelligent, and can hold a decent conversation with me. I've dated a hispanic guy, african guy, black guy, white guys, and one eastern european. Race doesn't matter to me, it's what's going on inside of his head and heart that matters.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I love the smell of cocoa butter in the morning. Here's a couple of lyrics from a song by XTC (a white guy band) broaching the subject: ...."there's nothing in this world like a black skinned girl, make your Shakespeare harder and your oyster pearl".... I envy the complexion of many black folk compared to my freckley Irish mug. It's a beautiful thing.
Corporate Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I have been noticing a growing number of black women who are mainly attracted to white men. I don't why that is but it is something I have been noticing. Because alot of them are not available.
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