Confusedalways Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 That is great and it would show that he listens. But, if he did do that, would you do something in return? I mean, it would be kind of crude to expect something after a nice gesture. Though, I know of many guys who seek the approval of their partners with constant gestures that they end up feeling drained because they're not getting any appreciation. In my experience, I don't believe in constantly trying to please her with supposed romantic gestures. Enough to keep her wanting more but not all the time. I hope this is a joke... although I guess it's not. The best gift is always to give. IMO a girl who expects thoughtfulness/ to be romanced without returning it is a self absorbed princess. I am a huge believer in that kind of thing going both ways.
USMCHokie Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Chokie, seriously...suchhh a sexy profile pic. Aww, thanks Marsle.
aerogurl87 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 You are a lying fraud. How is she a lying fraud? Some guys are seriously romantic like that. Hell my boyfriend carried me across the parking lot because my feet were hurting from walking around in 4 inch heels all afternoon. All I said was "ouch, my feet hurt" and then next thing I knew he had picked me up and was carrying me to the car.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Your man picking you up and carrying you is always romantic... and sizzling! Especially when he carries you off to bed.
Eeyore79 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 IMO a girl who expects thoughtfulness/ to be romanced without returning it is a self absorbed princess. I am a huge believer in that kind of thing going both ways. I also believe in it going both ways, but to me the little things that show someone is thinking of you are more meaningful than big gestures. I'll buy my bf a candy bar that he likes, or leave him a random love note, or bake him cookies, or take a cute photo and email it to him. That sort of stuff isn't an effort for me, it isn't specifically a romantic gesture - it's just the way I am, if I care about someone I want to do little things to make them happy. I'd like someone to feel that way about me; like they want to make me smile by expressing their love in small ways.
ecto-1 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 I was speaking to a friend of mine and she was talking about what she wanted in a guy. Basically, the gist of it was that he had to be "romantic". She then when on to describe the things she would like him to do for her e.g. wait after her, surprise her with gifts, make her things, sing to her, go on walks in a romantic setting, write her poetry under a tree using her as inspiration and naming a star after her. Okay, I was kidding about the last two, but you know what I mean. All these things you see in movies, she wants. I feel sorry for all those chaps that are after her (there have been quite a feel). How can they compete against that? She's implying that if a guy can't do all those things, they aren't worthy of her. She talks about settling if all else fails. Girls, did you ever think like this? If so, when did you realise that most guys just don't do that, especially early on? Guys, have ever tried to be romantic like that? If yes, what happened afterwards? I had this woman that was apparently passion or romantic starved....I was about to make arrangements for a 2nd date to go catch a flick, and she says she doesn't like movies, and would rather do something romantic like have dinner by the sunset or something. She was always harping on expecting romance right off the bat...which I found weird and a little too needy...esp just for a 2nd date, it's like the date HAD to be romantic or some kind of romantic ambiance or she just wasn't interested. Some women delegate how a man should date them. There's this one guy , that literally had this woman sick to his stomach, very attractive woman , but she said to him, "Now that we're dating, I expect you to call me 3 times a day to see how I'm doing" LOL WEEEEIIIRD
Author counterman Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 I believe those little things you do that show that you do think about someone is awesome too. From my experience, I was always taken for granted when I did these things... I did not feel appreciated one bit. It was as though it was expected that I will do these things. If she was happy afterward, I would be ecstatic but it got to the point where she would tell me off if something wasn't right. For example, I get her a small gift that she has spoken about...and she thinks I'm re-gifting her something that belongs to me, so she says "I don't want it if it yours". It was so much work for my recent ex to do something for me and she would always bring up how difficult it was for her. So yes, my perspective is limited by the fact that I haven't had cookies baked for me or anything of the like. That's the impression I get from some people, not everyone but definitely some. I've heard it before and I always feel the urge to ask "if he does all those things, what would you do? Is that seriously what you want?". It's not selfish to want romantic gestures but I think it is selfish to want it from someone you're not interested in (which is a bit bizarre if you ask me). You're interested or you're not... why does a guy have to go do all this just to be considered a chance to date you? There are guys like that, but, as you said, not every average joe is like that. I had this woman that was apparently passion or romantic starved....I was about to make arrangements for a 2nd date to go catch a flick, and she says she doesn't like movies, and would rather do something romantic like have dinner by the sunset or something. She was always harping on expecting romance right off the bat...which I found weird and a little too needy...esp just for a 2nd date, it's like the date HAD to be romantic or some kind of romantic ambiance or she just wasn't interested. Some women delegate how a man should date them. There's this one guy , that literally had this woman sick to his stomach, very attractive woman , but she said to him, "Now that we're dating, I expect you to call me 3 times a day to see how I'm doing" LOL WEEEEIIIRD That is a bit weird. If it came to that, I would have organised a beautiful picnic at a nice garden, but the catch to it is that I'll eat all the food :p
threebyfate Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 How is she a lying fraud? Some guys are seriously romantic like that. Hell my boyfriend carried me across the parking lot because my feet were hurting from walking around in 4 inch heels all afternoon. All I said was "ouch, my feet hurt" and then next thing I knew he had picked me up and was carrying me to the car. Don't worry about sock puppets. They're crazies who hide behind new user ids. Awww...see, it's men showing you how much they care through a simple and thoughtful act.
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