Rubbin' Soul Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 When I was with my ex-girlfriend, on two seperate occasions I made her mixtapes. The first one was an actual cassette which I thought was pretty cool and had a certain old-school charm. The second was a plain old mix-cd but I drew a gnarly cover for it. Anyway, since we've been apart I've realized I'm in love with her. While analyzing the relationship for some possible reasons for why she couldn't 'establish a connection with me' I determined two key issues. The first being that I revealed way too much about myself far too quickly. Over the two and a half months we were together I felt like I knew her inside out but it turns out I had barely scratched the surface. Mystery certainly breeds attraction. I believe the second reason is the amount of personal problems that are present in her life at the moment. Luckily, there was one aspect about me that I kept pretty mysterious. I'm not good at much but I'm happy to say that I'm a pretty damn good singer. Now to my knowledge, she never once heard me sing. I have played in bands over the past two years but they have mostly fizzled out. Right now though, I'm starting something up with a couple of my friends. We're going to play obscure grunge covers. Most of them are pretty melodic. Anyway, seeing as we broke up on amicable terms, I was thinking of saying to my ex that I'd love it if she came along to watch one of our upcoming lunchtime performances at the college we attend. I just have a sneaking suspicion that I can re-ignite that spark we initially had with music, seeing as that was what much of the passion in our relationship was based on. Opinions?
DustySaltus Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 You can sing until the cows come home but if the problems that led to the breakup aren't fixed you'll be singing the same old song. She needs to be happy with her own life before she can be happy with anyone else. Singing songs to try and get her back will not solve the root of her problems. Sure, it could provide an escape for a few minutes but that's it.
Author Rubbin' Soul Posted June 22, 2010 Author Posted June 22, 2010 You can sing until the cows come home but if the problems that led to the breakup aren't fixed you'll be singing the same old song. She needs to be happy with her own life before she can be happy with anyone else. Singing songs to try and get her back will not solve the root of her problems. Sure, it could provide an escape for a few minutes but that's it. I see where you're coming from, but I think when I was in the relationship, like many guys do, I developed a bit of a wimpy submissive attitude. My passion for music was nowhere near as prominent and I just think that maybe if she saw me free up on stage embracing my passion and embracing it well, then maybe that would bring out feelings of attraction once again. Doing this would show that I had regained my independence and that I've been doing worthwhile things with my time. I'm not saying it's a certainty, but you never know. I've heard that 'chicks dig guys that can sing'. Unfortunately I've never had the opportunity to test that out...
Username37 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Dude, you know how badly I just want to get my band and play "Always" by Blink 182 to her. But I know that won't win her back. Her mind is set and only time can tell if she wants me back or not.
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