Green Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Yeah I really educated myseld so I am good on that. I know lots of people have it and I had no idea about it. Now that I know how common and how much of a small thing it is. I wouldnt have worried about it. Yeah there is nothing much I can do at this point but NC. She told me to leave her alone in the most direct and offensive way. Things seem messed up with me. I dont have any friends, I am home ALONE. How do I deal with having no social circle and just having nobody to do anything with? You know what we are going to say. Go make friends. I've been where you are. You know feeling lonely. You have to just pick yourself up and make friends, work hard, play hard, enjoy yourself again. Watch a funny movie and have a good laugh.
Author harkkam Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 For those of you that have recommended that I try and FIGHT for her. SHould I try even though she told me in the most direct manner. Leave me alone and all the other stuff that ive posted in my original post. I think its over but if you guys think I shouldnt give up, what more can I do? ----- Also I know I've asked many times but the question keeps haunting me. A girl like her, with her qualities, are they rare to find in society. I dont know many people so I have no idea how women are. Before this current ex I was with a really mean an nasty women that would scream and yell at me and wouldnt respect me and my word she was affectionate but she was VERY high strung. This current ex is so opposite, she respected me and loved me though not as affectionate she never yelled at me or screamed. She would express her displeasure in a calm and collected manner. She was happy go lucky at times and I loved her personality much more. What are most women like? Are they more like the girl who screamed and yelled at me and was very high strung? It seems to me like there are many women who are NOT like my Ex. What do you guys think?
StarrySkyBlue Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 What worries me is the fact that you said you had NO friends. It's not healthy. I agree that NC is the best thing for now, but meanwhile, can you go out and make friends? I know that you're not comfortable around people, but it's got to start somewhere. Try to connect with people without looking for love and you'll find that you'll be more well-adjusted in society (and happier, too!) Good luck!
SilentWitness Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 (edited) It is worrisome that you seem to be so out of touch with the world. There are all kinds of girls out there. You can't just group them up into black and white like you want to. There are nice girls that you simply just won't get along with. Sometimes girls won't like you for no apparent reason, and that will reflect in the way that they treat you, but again doesn't really mean anything about their character. As for the people who say that you should fight.... They really aren't being realistic. This isn't some Hollywood romance flick, women don't want insane romantic gestures in this situation, and it almost certainly won't work. If you want a chance to get her back, then give her time, at least a month, and send her just one casual message. Don't be needy or pressure her in any way. I really can't stress time enough, the more you give her, the more likely she will be willing to speak to you, and the better your chance that you will be able to rebuild some sort of relationship. Of course you could wait years and she could still hate you, it depends on the girl, but if you leave her alone, she is less likely to think you're a freak who's obsessed with her, and the more likely she will have forgiven you for any hurt you have caused her. Edited June 24, 2010 by SilentWitness
Author harkkam Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 Yeah I guess time is the best if I want to try something again to let the person heal from pain. But yeah having NO friends really stinks, and I have no idea where I should even start. I just have no outlets for me to start connecting with people. I used to have social anxiety as a teenager but I managed to get most of that under control now. But I need to make sure I move on, I can't hold on to the memory of this person forever. Because I know they have moved on already and have decided to make me their past. Its just that I dont have friends that I feel so alone now. I've thought about suicide many times because it feels like things dont get better than this. I have a few people I know but getting them to hang out with me is hard.
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