cellardoor Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 So here's the situation... I find myself with a bit of a crush on this guy, and I can't decide whether or not to approach him about it. About a month ago, a bunch of us were out and about. I didn't realise he was going to be there, nor did I really care. I used to work with this guy, but we weren't even on a 'hello' basis. Not for any reason in particular, but we were in different departments. He was a familiar face, and we were friends on facebook, but yeah... our paths just never crossed. We spent most of the night flirting, but I was slightly tipsy and probably a little more exuberant than usual. I mean, I was still myself, and I wasn't messy or out of control, but I was definitely more flirtatious. We talked and laughed and made ridiculous comments about everyone, it was nice and fun. He seemed really responsive; huge smiles, eye contact, laughing at my jokes etc. We all went back to hang out at my house at the end of the night, which was great. It was a group setting, so it was all pretty chilled out, nothing too flirty by this stage, but friendly nonetheless. We slept in the same bed, where I was hoping we could chat, and that maybe we could talk one-on-one. Unfortunately it was very late and I fell asleep almost immediately. Fail, I know. The next time I saw him, the friendliness was still there, but without my extra flirty tipsyness, it all seemed a bit... I dunno, muted? From what I can recall, he seemed to take his cues from me, in that I was leading the flirt dance, but he was just responding. He's not a really outgoing guy. I wouldn't lump him in the shy-guy category, but he's not overly talkative. He'll still engage really well in conversation, but I guess you could call him introverted. We're hanging out again this weekend - again in a group context. It's at my house, but there'll be a bunch of people there so it's all very friendly. What I'm hoping is that it will give me an opportunity to figure out if he might be interested in getting to know each other, or if he's just a nice and friendly guy. I figure I'll flirt a little, see how it goes... I'm in two minds. On the one hand, I would like to be able to just say it casually, "hey, I think you're really cool, lets hang out sometime" and hope for the best. On the other hand, I'd like to maybe get a bit of a better feel for the situation, and maybe figure out whether he was just being friendly. So what signs do I look for? I am ridiculously dense when it comes to picking up signals and flirting. Keeping in mind that he's not a really outgoing type, and that he's really chilled out and likes to sit back and watch what's happening. Also, if you have any tips for flirting with this type of guy, that would also be awesome.
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