SoccerPlaya Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I have this guy friend from college who keeps calling me to hang out. We were never close friends but our friends would hang out together. Anyway now we live in the same place and he wants to go get a drink or go to a movie. I don't know many people in the area and would LOVE to get out of the house, but I don't want to lead him on. Do I be honest and remind him that we are "just friends" or not go out at all? I feel like this is a reoccurring problem in my life...I grew up with three brothers which means it is easy for me to relate to guys. But now it feels more complicated to have a guy friend than a girl friend. I would like to hang out with this guy as friend but I DONT want to inadvertently string him along. Any suggestions?
Serenitynow Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Why wouldnt you tell him that ? Just tell him you'll go as long as its just as friends.
Author SoccerPlaya Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 I'm happy to tell him, but it feels strange to say it when he didn't technically ask me out on a date. I guess it's better safe than sorry.
Serenitynow Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 He's a guy, he did it all for the nookie, or tryin Even if he laughs and says, oh yea I knew that, hes probably just playing it off
Author SoccerPlaya Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 So just to be clear though. Am I not stringing him a long if I tell him that straight up and he still wants to hang out? This is where guys are so different than girls. If I asked a guy out because I liked him and he said he wanted to be just friends - there is nooo way I'm asking him out again!!
Bangle Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 This is where guys are so different than girls. If I asked a guy out because I liked him and he said he wanted to be just friends - there is nooo way I'm asking him out again!! How often do women ask men out? It's never happened to me and secondly just tell him you see him as a friend and thats it. I was rejected by a girl that I was head over heels for and she rejected me politely and honestly and I have always respected her for that. I didn't become friends with her, but I respected her and probably always will. Honesty is key here.
Author SoccerPlaya Posted June 22, 2010 Author Posted June 22, 2010 Thanks. You're right. I'm just going to say it.
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