somedude81 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Ok, the girls here are probably going to hate me for this, oh well. We've all heard stories of how girls after breaking up with their long term boyfriends, end up having sex with just about anybody. How do I become that guy? There is a girl that I've been talking with in one of my classes. Since it's a long summer school class, we get two breaks and I spend the first break talking to this girl and the other breaking talking to a different girl. Anyways somehow this girl told me that her friends invited her to go to a bar this past weekend and some dude was hitting on her, but she wasn't having any of that. Then she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend either this weekend or the one before it, I don't remember. So she said she wasn't into the guy at the bar because she just got out of a relationship. She was with her BF for two years, he cheated etc. Being the evil, horny male that I am, I want to get some action. I want her to 'use' me. If it's not me, it will be somebody else. So how can I pull this off? PS: Please keep the flames to a minimum, thanks
samspade Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Just keep things light-hearted. Make her laugh. Same rules apply as other seductions, but you just want to be extra careful to avoid any relationship talk. Even if she brings it up, just keep things simple and laugh off those type of questions. If you stay cocky/funny and carefree, and keep her laughing (so she forgets her heartbreak), she may spread those legs for you, cowboy. Good luck.
norajane Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I don't think you can pull it off. Not with her. Because she had a chance for random sex with the horny guy at the bar, and turned it down because she's not into that. Not all girls run around having sex after a break-up. Some just eat ice cream, watch movies with their friends that make them cry, listen to sad songs, and change their hairstyle.
marsle85 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 You have to represent everything fun about single life. Be exciting, clever, challenging, sexy. Draw her in to you. Do not invite her out to anything serious (dinners, movies, etc) Don't "ask" her out to anywhere. Tell her. "When is good for you to get a few drinks with me this week?" Own the situation. Invite her to a few parties. She'll catch your drift.
LoveBites Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Alcohol Sense of humor Alcohol Be in a fun atmosphere Alcohol
Author somedude81 Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 (edited) Wow, I'm surprised nobody tried to bite my head off yet. Thanks for the tips. So alcohol seems to be the trick? I definitely don't want to get her drunk. Ok, so next time I see her, I'll suggest her to get some drinks with me. I'm guessing that the reason she turned down the other guy was because it was too soon. When I talked to her today, she didn't seem that upset anymore. So hopefully she'd be feeling better this week or next. If she says, "Oh, thanks but it's too soon." Is there any rebuttal I can use? BTW, I know this whole thing seems shady. But it makes since to me, for me to at least try. Edited June 21, 2010 by somedude81
SilentVoice Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 If all you are looking to be is the rebound guy... Just make sure and show her a good time. And no relationship talk - no reason to lead her on. And keep talk about the ex light... just keep everything light And DON'T I say DON"T fall for her... it must likely won't work out. Best of luck
sumdude Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Just be sure you're ready to handle what it means to be the rebound guy. Chances are it won't last long and she will be the one to end things.
that girl Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 If she was looking to sleep with any old guy, she would have slept with the guy in the bar. It is somewhat possible she could be looking for a rebound in the next few weeks, but this isn't something you talk her into. Hello, she already thinks guys are sleezy. If she wants to use you for sex, hang around and she'll jump you if she is interested. Sure, ask her for a drink, but if you want to be the rebound guy you don't come up with a response to "It's too soon." That is setting yourself up for drama not to be her sex toy.
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 This isn't a flame at all, but you've totally contradicted yourself in your OP. First you said: We've all heard stories of how girls after breaking up with their long term boyfriends, end up having sex with just about anybody. Later followed by: some dude was hitting on her, but she wasn't having any of that. Well, obviously she won't have sex with just about anybody if she rejected that guy at the bar. And personally, though I've definitely engaged in a rebound hookup here or there, I still was selective about my partner. I don't think there are many young, attractive girls who will sleep with "just about anybody" because they have many options. Is this girl young? Attractive? Then, should she decide to hook up (and it sounds like she might not) she'll have a plethora of eligible, horny bachelors itching to get in her pants. Not trying to be rude here, just saying you have to become her best option, I guess. Which is hard. It sounds like you are under the impression that it's easier to score a heartbroken girl (kinda ), but I doubt you'll find that to be the case. Let us know how it goes...
ADF Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 We've all heard stories of how girls after breaking up with their long term boyfriends, end up having sex with just about anybody. How do I become that guy? I think in trying to become the "rebound guy," you're buying into what is, to a great extent, a myth. Is there a kernal of truth to the "rebound" idea? Probably. But in reality, it is no bigger than a kernal. As a general rule, I don't thinkwomen freshly out of LTR are usually open to sex with anybody and everybody. If they were, you wouldn't have to work so hard trying to figure out how to become "that guy."
O'Malley Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 There is a girl that I've been talking with in one of my classes. Since it's a long summer school class, we get two breaks and I spend the first break talking to this girl and the other breaking talking to a different girl. If she's observant, she's going to assume you're on the make for what ever you can get. You haven't focused interest on only her. As Norajane said, she's already had opportunities, and apparently isn't inclined to hooking up. Unless you stand out from other guys that are interested in her and don't come across as a complete wh*re hound, she's not going to be taking you up on your offer.
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