dani91621 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Gonan try and make this short and sweet, I was with my ex for 2 1/2 years. I was the love of HIS life until about a year ago, when he started to "change". He left me once and stated he was unhappy, but we never stopped talking or seeing each other, eventually he came running back stating I was his everything, I am the best thing thats ever happened to him and that he wants to marry me. We got back together Valentines day this year and things have been amazing. Atleast I thought. Two weeks ago he seemed distant after a recent trip home and the next day pulled the "Im not happy" line again. He said he loves me and will always love me, that this was hard for him too, that he will miss me, that we can try again later, etc etc blah blah blah. I agreed with the breakup, I was hurt, but I did not want to be with someone who was unhappy anymore. Well heres the kicker... about 3 days after we broke up, I find out that he met someone back home and has been seeing her (cheating on me) and pretty much left me for her like that! The messed up thing is that I always was skeptical about him going home because of this very reason...I got crap from him all the time about it, my instincts were right and he was doing exacly what I thought he was doing. He is 30 years old and this girl is 21...parties all the time, does drugs, and has the worst tacky tattoos. Everything he never wanted in a chic...considering his family is Mormon. My questions....why didnt he just tell me the truth...or even just say he wanted to see other people? Why continue to lie with all the "I love you crap"? Im wondering what will happen if his new relationship doesnt work out...cause I KNOW I WAS the best thing thats happened to him...I was an amazing girlfriend. I DO NOT want him back...I will never take him back. Guess I just want him to regret hurting me AGAIN. Guys? Will he?
CrayonAngel Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 HE will more than likely regret it. It's the new and unknown for him. It's really stupid that he just up and left you without telling you the truth. What a COWARD! this happened with my first love..he started dating a nasty girl behind my back. I found out. They lasted about a month or two! 3 years down the drain! He persued me for about 3 years after..even though I had met a new love (now husband) and the funny thing is he still tries to contact me...this was about 7 yrs ago!! good luck with it all..the pain will ease..next you will be angry, so find production in your anger, don't let it consume you!
Author dani91621 Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 I am already angry, I think being angry helps me move on. I think he is a peice of work lol. I honestly am alot more happy being single. I know how much better I am than him. He has lost himself completely. His goals and dreams are gone and he is livin the life I guess. I was who he wanted to marry...I am the only women who has EVER met his daughter who was adopted 7 years ago. Alot of his issues have to do with that traumatic experieice, and I continued to blame his problems on that and feel bad. I am done going through the pain for no reason...I do not and did not deserve it. I was too good for that. I am angry...very angry. But I am extremely content with never speaking to him again. The bummer part is we work at the same place (we do not see each other all the time but have run ins)...AND get this! We live in the same apartment complx!!!!
bananalaffytaffy Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 No. He won't regret it. Because just as soon as he gets through with this fling, he'll be back, just like last time. What do you think "try again later" meant? Question is, do you want to continue your life with a serial cheater, or will you move on?
Author dani91621 Posted June 22, 2010 Author Posted June 22, 2010 Yes I do not think he will either. His new girl already posted "kissy kissy" pix of them on FB...That was a nice big knife in the heart. I am more angry than anything...how could someone be so hurtful to someone who is so good to them and somehow end up happy? I do believe in karma...wish it would happen sooner tho. Thanks for all your words.
bananalaffytaffy Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 (edited) Time for you to unfriend or block him on FB. Seeing updates or his posts to mutual friends doesn't help you move on. You seem like a smart lady. You can find yourself someone who isn't a flip-flopper. Is that you in your avatar? You're beautiful! You don't need to put up with this guy's crap. He obviously has issues, and you can do better! Edited June 22, 2010 by bananalaffytaffy
george44 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Boyfriend 2 1/2 years left AGAIN for someone else. Will he regret? The word AGAIN says it all. Yes, he will regret it and you will take him back. Then he will dump you again. Then he will regret it and you will take him back. It's a vicious cycle.
Author dani91621 Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 Thanks...I am so ready to get on with my life! Thanks everyone
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