susanbry Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I met this guy on our first date. We had dinner and really 'clicked' in many sense. We spent the whole evening talking and he invited me back to his place for a movie. I hesitated at first and then gave in. We had drinks and snacks while watching movie. We ended up kissing and slept together. We woke up and had breakkie together and still having a good time. Then I left and went home. It took me a lot of courage and yes, I text and asked him'' Where are we?'' The answer he gave me was ''We are only at the beginning and we have to see what's next. I mean I like you and I really enjoy the dinner night and morning with you, I think next time we have to try new places.'' Then he asked what do I think, and I replied similar '' I like you and enjoy your company.'' I really wanted to tell him that we moved too quickly but I just don't know how to start! I did ask him to go for Toy Story 2 film 2 days later but he said he's not into that kind of movie. So I just ignore. So far we haven't been in contact since then. I am interested in this guy but yet, hard to judge from his reply. Does this mean he was just messing around when he said he likes me? PS: He's European and I'm Asian
callalilly Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 It looks to me like you may have already scared him off with your pointed "where are we" question.
Diezel Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Trust me, the sex didn't scare him off. I get so sick and tired of reading how it's the sex that scares men off. it's NOT that, it's what happens AFTER that usually could be the end-all. You described a basic GOOD night. But I sincerely CRINGED when I saw that you texted him: Where are we. What was he supposed to say: You're my girlfriend now, we'll get married in 2 months and have many babies. If he gets scared away, it's the "Where are we." NOT the sex. I've been in relationships before where it was sex on the first date and it lasted much longer than relationships where there was sex on the 5th. But had I been asked "where are we"... Diezel runs for the hills. As to answer your question: He MIGHT be still into you. Pull back, be laid back and stop asking questions about where you two stand. Stop putting pressure on him to decide what the "relationship" is.
Green Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Maybe he thought seeing Toy Story 2 seemed boring considering TOY STORY 3 is out. Sounds like he could be into you. At a minimum he thinks you are SEXY. TIME WILL TELL.
Mimolicious Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Green- ROTF.... I needed the laugh this am. Ok Susanbry, I guess like you said "time will tell". Next time consider yourself a corporation- no benefits for 90 days. Giving up the cookie on the first date could be the kiss of death to something that hasn't even started. To sleep with someone that you have to ask "Where are we" it's kind of starting backwards. I mean, unless you're 18 and have time to play. If you're looking for a serious relationship, then take yourself serious first. Act like you want to be treated. The guy sounds interested, now the question is interested in what?!??! Unless you're pure FIYAH in between the sheet or an over the top gem, he may be onto the next. Who knows! I guess time will tell... Less is more!
Author susanbry Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 Thanks all for the valuable comments and advice. Guess, I should leave this behind and move on. ) Learn many valuable lessons. tHanks again
Author susanbry Posted June 22, 2010 Author Posted June 22, 2010 Guess what??? I text him to ask how's your day etc. Basically as suggested, a low pressure one! I am on the road again! He asked me out again this weekend. I am excited. But guys, this is not a sympathy outing right??????
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Glad things seem to be moving along, but as a piece of advice, in the future avoid sending the "where are we" text after the first date. After I read that bit I thought it was going to be all over TBH.
Diezel Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Guess what??? I text him to ask how's your day etc. Basically as suggested, a low pressure one! I am on the road again! He asked me out again this weekend. I am excited. But guys, this is not a sympathy outing right?????? WHO CARES? It's a date... stop overthinking and just have FUN. Okay? Yes, it's THAT simple.
Mimolicious Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Yes Susanbry. Like Diezel said... HAVE FUN! Don't think so ahead because you are going to miss the moment! Have fun on your date and keep us posted.
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