Quick question

[Motto]

I work at a retail store and like every retail store, we have to ask for credit (in the form of charge cards and e-mails). There are credit goals set every day and I work at a store with quite a few attractive girls.

 

Today we were working on getting e-mails and just asking random customers. I get off break and back out on the floor and these girls I work this are pushing this cart with e-mail slips on it. I said something along the lines of "how many you get so far today?" and this one girl that is always pretty nice to me (ive only worked with her 2 or 3 times at most) said "not many." She then told me to sign up and I said "no, you cant sign up employees to meet a credit goal." It turned into a little going back and forth (playfully) until she goes "okay well I think youre cute and I want your e-mail address."

 

At this point, I was like, whaaaaaaaaaaat? First of all, we are at work, second of all I have no clue if she is being serious or not, or if she really means it. I mean, shes fairly attractive herself. But anyway, so right after she said that I took an email slip and began writing on it and then stopped and just said it still wont work because we are employees. I folded up the e-mail signup paper and ripped it up.

 

Why would this chick say that? I seriously doubt this was her way of "coming onto me." I am just confused as to whether she really means it.

 

I did kinda feel bad leaving her hanging if she was at all serious (which im 99% sure she isnt/wasnt).

 

I guess the reason why im so surprised by this is because its a girl actually being DIRECT for once. How about that fellas?

[skydiveaddict]

it's no big deal. give her your email address. see what happens

[Motto]

1) its just for work

 

2) who the **** asks for an e-mail these days, if she actually is serious?

 

its not 1860 and we have to write eachother letters we only get once every 2 months. this is the age of cell phones, texting and social networking.

[Bdk]

I agree motto... I get wierded out a bit when a female I talk to wont give me her number but asks for email. I think you know I remember females giving out numbers since the phone and now it's emails...wtf

[Ronni_W]

2) who the **** asks for an e-mail these days, if she actually is serious?

She was COLLECTING emails, silly So, it was the *natural* thing to ask for, and her *perfect* opportunity to ask for it.

 

All the rest of it is your own lack of confidence, yes? Anybody with any 'game' woulda handed that contact info over so fast, her head woulda spun.

Good lawd, think about it: It was just a first point of contact that she asked for (doesn't really matter if it was your fax number or your mailing address -- the important thing is that it was her statement that she is interested in being able to somehow contact you.)

[Malenfant]

She then told me to sign up and I said "no, you cant sign up employees to meet a credit goal." It turned into a little going back and forth (playfully) until she goes "okay well I think youre cute and I want your e-mail address."

 

At this point, I was like, whaaaaaaaaaaat? First of all, we are at work, second of all I have no clue if she is being serious or not, or if she really means it. I mean, shes fairly attractive herself. But anyway, so right after she said that I took an email slip and began writing on it and then stopped and just said it still wont work because we are employees. I folded up the e-mail signup paper and ripped it up.

 

so you were chatting/flirting, this girl asks for your email (because you happened to be talking about emails) then you write yours down, but then tell her it wont work and tore it up??

 

i just dont get it. men complain that women expect them to make the first move, and then when a woman does make the first move, you completely misunderstand what she was saying.

 

There's a reason alot of women want the guy to make the first move, its because even when faced with an obvious chat up, you still dont get it

[Motto]

She was COLLECTING emails, silly So, it was the *natural* thing to ask for, and her *perfect* opportunity to ask for it.

 

All the rest of it is your own lack of confidence, yes? Anybody with any 'game' woulda handed that contact info over so fast, her head woulda spun.

Good lawd, think about it: It was just a first point of contact that she asked for (doesn't really matter if it was your fax number or your mailing address -- the important thing is that it was her statement that she is interested in being able to somehow contact you.)

 

 

We both had to do that for work though. It came from a work activity, not just a random, hey whats up? lemme get your e-mail...

 

thats why im confused by what she said. youre saying her making any initiation for a first point of contact, be it an e-mail or whatever is proof she is interested?

[Motto]

so you were chatting/flirting, this girl asks for your email (because you happened to be talking about emails) then you write yours down, but then tell her it wont work and tore it up??

 

i just dont get it. men complain that women expect them to make the first move, and then when a woman does make the first move, you completely misunderstand what she was saying.

 

There's a reason alot of women want the guy to make the first move, its because even when faced with an obvious chat up, you still dont get it

 

 

There is one crucial element youre either just ignoring or overlooking.

 

This was at work. These e-mails are for work. We have to sign people up to meet credit goals.

[Malenfant]

There is one crucial element youre either just ignoring or overlooking.

 

This was at work. These e-mails are for work. We have to sign people up to meet credit goals.

 

there's something you're overlooking as well.

 

she goes "okay well I think youre cute and I want your e-mail address."

 

she took advantage of a work situation to tell you she likes you.

i'm a woman, and i'm telling you she's interested.

[Motto]

oh.....

 

well, ****.......

[Motto]

I figured she was just using a bit of mockery to sell the situation.

[Motto]

So then what the **** do I do now?

[Motto]

there's something you're overlooking as well.

 

 

 

she took advantage of a work situation to tell you she likes you.

i'm a woman, and i'm telling you she's interested.

 

 

 

Is this how you know she is interested? because youre of the female persuasion?

[Motto]

Talked to the manager tonight about credit goals, and he said getting your co-workers email is fine.

 

**** me. This makes even more sense now.

 

Perhaps you ladies are right.

[Ronni_W]

I honestly don't think she was trying to get your contact info just so that she could meet any credit goals -- does she really go around telling all the guy customers, "I think you're cute", just to score their email addresses for her credit goals???

 

What to do now, is just put your email address and your cell number on a sheet of paper (NOT the forms on which you collect emails from customers) and say, "Here you go -- I know you asked for it two weeks ago -- sorry being so late giving it to you."

 

She will use it for the exact purposes that she intended when she asked you. Well, except if you kinda blew it by not just readily giving her your email address when she asked you for it -- it's possible she ended up interpreting your 'move' as lack of interest on your part, and decided to move on.

 

But. I'd still encourage you to find the courage to give it to her now...and then hope for an excellent outcome.

Best of luck.

[Motto]

I honestly don't think she was trying to get your contact info just so that she could meet any credit goals -- does she really go around telling all the guy customers, "I think you're cute", just to score their email addresses for her credit goals???

 

What to do now, is just put your email address and your cell number on a sheet of paper (NOT the forms on which you collect emails from customers) and say, "Here you go -- I know you asked for it two weeks ago -- sorry being so late giving it to you."

 

She will use it for the exact purposes that she intended when she asked you. Well, except if you kinda blew it by not just readily giving her your email address when she asked you for it -- it's possible she ended up interpreting your 'move' as lack of interest on your part, and decided to move on.

 

But. I'd still encourage you to find the courage to give it to her now...and then hope for an excellent outcome.

Best of luck.

 

Well I worked with her today for the first time since this happened and it was kind of weird. I had to have her cover something for me so she came over and stood next to me waiting for me to leave, and I was finishing something up and just said..... "what are you doing? you can go over to another register" and she just shot back "i wanted to use THIS register" and i said "just go to another one instead of waiting cause ill be a few minutes" so she did. Didnt seem too overly thrilled. By the time I got back out there she was gone and didnt see her for the rest of the day.

 

Buddy of mine we work with asked me if im "talking" to anyone at work and I just said no but told him about this. Hes trying to figure out who she is and before we could talk more I had to leave. I dont think I work with this chick for another 2 weeks or so.

 

I think all the chance I had is now shot, IF she was even interested in the first place, but today I found out that you CAN use your co-workers emails to get email credits. I was just under the presumption that you couldnt and thats why it may seem like I was being a dick or whatever and never ended up giving her any email. Wasnt because I was rejecting her in a date kind of way.

[Motto]

When she asked me for it a few weeks ago there was another girl with her. Maybe she thinks im an idiot or an ******* too for being so blind.

 

Still though, im not quite sure any of this is that concrete.

 

I dont wanna feel like an ass and be like heres the email you asked for THIS MANY weeks ago, or be like, when you said I was cute were you just ****ing with me or what? Whats it supposed to mean?

[Ronni_W]

Well...whether you intended to or not, you definitely have been 'messaging' her that you're not into her.

If I told a guy that I chose HIS register and he responded, basically, "Eff off...I'm gonna be a few minutes" -- you could imagine what YOU would interpret from that and how YOU would feel in that situation, right?

 

Girls don't go around saying, "I think you're cute...give me your email address" without actually meaning it -- unless they're psycho and/or enjoy being rejected. I doubt that's the case with this girl. I mean, use your own brains. Who would do that? Do you know any guys who would? When it comes to trying to get to know people better, girls and guys have the same basic fears; it takes as much (maybe more) courage for a girl to do it, etc.

 

When/if you work with her in the future, don't make any reference to past incidents -- it'll just remind her of your cluelessness. *IF* you actually are into her, try to be a bit more friendly and receptive, and just take what she's saying at face value: "I think you're cute" means that she thinks you're cute. "I want to work at [your] register" means that she wants to work at your register.

 

You could also maybe find a young uncle or an older (male) cousin to give you some info and tips about dating/women in general? Or look for some books or whatever? Cos it does sound as if you could stand some education in that area.

[Motto]

Well...whether you intended to or not, you definitely have been 'messaging' her that you're not into her.

If I told a guy that I chose HIS register and he responded, basically, "Eff off...I'm gonna be a few minutes" -- you could imagine what YOU would interpret from that and how YOU would feel in that situation, right?

 

Girls don't go around saying, "I think you're cute...give me your email address" without actually meaning it -- unless they're psycho and/or enjoy being rejected. I doubt that's the case with this girl. I mean, use your own brains. Who would do that? Do you know any guys who would? When it comes to trying to get to know people better, girls and guys have the same basic fears; it takes as much (maybe more) courage for a girl to do it, etc.

 

When/if you work with her in the future, don't make any reference to past incidents -- it'll just remind her of your cluelessness. *IF* you actually are into her, try to be a bit more friendly and receptive, and just take what she's saying at face value: "I think you're cute" means that she thinks you're cute. "I want to work at [your] register" means that she wants to work at your register.

 

You could also maybe find a young uncle or an older (male) cousin to give you some info and tips about dating/women in general? Or look for some books or whatever? Cos it does sound as if you could stand some education in that area.

 

I work with her next Saturday, pretty much for 8 hours. In the same area. Should be fun.

 

I dont think I told her to "**** off" exactly, like how youre putting it. She was called over because shes my backup and I had to do something for an hour and so she came over and just stood behind me when there is 5 other registers open. So I asked her, what are you doing and she said I wanna use this register and I just said im gonna be a bit so might as well just go grab another one. How is that so intrinsically wrong?

 

I dont mean to be sending these negative signals. Im just being frank and have work on the brain. Shes actually pretty attractive, I just dont expect a girl to say the things she said and dont take much at face value.

[Motto]

You could also maybe find a young uncle or an older (male) cousin to give you some info and tips about dating/women in general? Or look for some books or whatever? Cos it does sound as if you could stand some education in that area.

 

 

Well, ive always known to pay attention to a girls body language than what she says, because thats the real indicator here, so taking what she says at face value might be an issue.

 

Most women never mean what they say if theyre interested. They love to play games.

 

I also have a pretty high guard up and havent had a gf in 5 years now.

[Choboto]

I work with her next Saturday, pretty much for 8 hours. In the same area. Should be fun.

 

I dont think I told her to "**** off" exactly, like how youre putting it. She was called over because shes my backup and I had to do something for an hour and so she came over and just stood behind me when there is 5 other registers open. So I asked her, what are you doing and she said I wanna use this register and I just said im gonna be a bit so might as well just go grab another one. How is that so intrinsically wrong?

 

I dont mean to be sending these negative signals. Im just being frank and have work on the brain. Shes actually pretty attractive, I just dont expect a girl to say the things she said and dont take much at face value.

 

she was simply trying to be near you with the register thing....you really are bad at this aint you? its not the register she wanted...it was being by you she wanted. most people would realize that if there are 5 registers open and she wants mine....she must be tryin to talk to me.

 

you cant take work so terribly serious. chill a little and lighten up. you can still get stuff done talking.

 

also those 'rules' or generalizations that girls do this, or girls do that you jsut need to throw that out the ****in window. People are individuals and will react/act differently than the next person. putting her in a pot with all other girls doesnt help you judge her postively, but in a worse way. Judge her based on HER. not past experiences with girls that arnt her.

Edited July 6, 2010 by Choboto

[Motto]

she was simply trying to be near you with the register thing....you really are bad at this aint you? its not the register she wanted...it was being by you she wanted. most people would realize that if there are 5 registers open and she wants mine....she must be tryin to talk to me.

 

you cant take work so terribly serious. chill a little and lighten up. you can still get stuff done talking.

 

also those 'rules' or generalizations that girls do this, or girls do that you jsut need to throw that out the ****in window. People are individuals and will react/act differently than the next person. putting her in a pot with all other girls doesnt help you judge her postively, but in a worse way. Judge her based on HER. not past experiences with girls that arnt her.

 

 

Yeah but that morning she seemed pretty distant to me because the last time I saw her was the e-mail incident.

 

The register I was at was actually the main one because its closest to the doors and accessible.

[Motto]

she was simply trying to be near you with the register thing....you really are bad at this aint you? its not the register she wanted...it was being by you she wanted. most people would realize that if there are 5 registers open and she wants mine....she must be tryin to talk to me.

 

you cant take work so terribly serious. chill a little and lighten up. you can still get stuff done talking.

 

also those 'rules' or generalizations that girls do this, or girls do that you jsut need to throw that out the ****in window. People are individuals and will react/act differently than the next person. putting her in a pot with all other girls doesnt help you judge her postively, but in a worse way. Judge her based on HER. not past experiences with girls that arnt her.

 

 

Thing is, while this may be true, I was cashing people out and we had no time to talk.... and she was my backup meaning I was leaving asap.

[Motto]

Lets say I gave this girl my e-mail. Now, for work, you punch in the e-mails into the computer and then throw out the sheet. I wouldve been getting e-mails from WORK, not HER.

 

and is she really gonna take an e-mail from work and then e-mail me something?

[Krytie TV]

Wow. I don't see this as flirting at all. I see it as her trying to talk you in to signing up. And you fell for it by thinking she wanted to marry you.