Lovelygirl17 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Okay so my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 20 days. He's my first love and serious relationship. I love him so much and I want to change. I get too jealous but I know that one reason is because i'm insecured and because of what he did in the past. During our first month of going out we went to a party together along with our best friend(a guy) and it was a swimming party. I didn't bring any swimming clothes because I didn't know that it was a swimming party and so i borrowed my friends clothes who was throwing the party. Well then when it was time to go and i had to go change into my own clothes, I came out and while they were walking me home my boyfriend told me that some girl came up to him and asked him if I would get mad if she danced on him( EVERYONE AT THE PARTY KNEW WE WERE A COUPLE) he KNEW that i would get really really mad but he didn't answer her so then she started dancing on him first normally then really rough where he almost fell on top of a girls lap. I got mad at him when he told me this. I asked him why he didn't say anything or push her away,he said "i felt bad for her because she didn't know anyone at the party, she was all alone". GREAT excuse. Yeah right. There's this one other time where I brought him to meet my friends and one of my friends lifted up her shirt a little and he said oh yeah a little higher. Like really?? That's just messed up. And also when my other friends came out, they're girls but they're like two years older than me he yelled out to them saying "Hi,my name's Daryl." He admitted that that was wrong and said he's sorry it's just that he's used to messing around like that. This was only in the first and second month. We hang out everyday for the whole day so i know who his friends are and what he does. He now lives with me. I know everyone on his contact list. The only girls on there is me and his family members. He says that he doesn't want to make me worried. He proves it to me But idk. I can't help but be jealous still. He looks at girls in the movies too like I ask him not too. I ask him really nicely But he doesn't listen. Like pretend there's a really really HOTT girl stripping in a movie and i don't want him to look and he gets all mad saying it's just a movie and that i'm the only girl for him but shouldn't he respect me and not look at her. Just for me? I respect him enough to not at any guys so why can't he do the same??? My story's too long so i'll stop here. Sorry for the long story.
Diezel Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Wall of text crits you for 9382 damage. You die. Okay, seriously... do you want a boyfriend or a puppy? Do you tell him to roll over and play dead too? If you don't trust him, why are you still with him? All you are doing is slowly pushing him away from you with all of this insecurity. You're going to push him into the lap of another woman if you keep this up.
D-Lish Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 You have issues- and they are your issues, not his. Controlling, crazy, insecure... These are the words that come to mind when reading your thread. You seriously want to control what he watches on TV? He's supposed to cover his eyes when a pretty girl surfaces on TV? That's bat-**** nutty. You have a problem. He's just a dude that wants to be with you. You can't control him like he's a dog- you shouldn't want to. Your behaviour is every guy's worst nightmare. YOU'RE insecure- and that is your issue. You really need to correct it.
Mimolicious Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Paragraphs are friends. Use them! Ok, I am actually surprised that this guy still in a "relationship" with you. Seek help so you can overcome these insecurity issues. The older you get the less attractive you will become behaving this way. You have an issue with what he watches on TV? Whoa! Honey, you'll drive every dude out of your life. You don't own him and he's not a PC for you to control his every move, thought, words, etc... What's even more disturbing is that you are damaging this guys self-esteem by being so controlling. You have an issue with him introducing himself to other people and he has to "feel" bad about it?!??!? THAT'S YOUR PROBLEM NOT HIS!!!!!!!!!! Deal with your own issues in a mature way. You are expecting respect and loyalty, yet you are really not giving it back by being this insecured.
LSNoob Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Hold up hold up, OK she is insecure and all. But obviously the bf is a lousy one. Looking up other girl's skirts?? Hitting on older girls?? What is this? Getting lap dance from other girls because hes a "nice" guy? Yea right, nice try. Look the girl here is obviously not at fault, she might be insecure, but those insecurities caused by that immature bf. Who knows how things would've turned out if the bf was behaving good and being loyal?!
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