deebeechrisyo Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 My ex dumped during Winter of last year. I (stupidly) agreed to the "I hope we can stay friends?" question, which went on into February. After I realized she was just stringing me along, I stopped talking to her. Aside from a stray text from her once every few months, we haven't communicated at all. In the beginning of June, she started contacting me more often. She started inviting me to events, wants to "party", and seems to have a genuine interest in my life. I know she's had a boyfriend now for a few months, so I'm kind of confused as to why she's starting this up. Any ideas?
bananaboat11 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Something tells me I'm about to go through this soon... ugh
skydiveaddict Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 both you guys need to stay away from your ex's. No good can come of this
AlwaysConflicted Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Maybe she wants to compare the 2 of you. I was recently broken up with, but a month before it happened I could see how rocky my relationship was so I started taking "informational" meetings with my ex's. I wasn't looking for sex, I just wanted to see the differences between all my girlfriends to see if I was in a healthy relationship. Clearly I wasn't since she dumped me. Just a possibility to think about it.
tomcruise Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Usually when woman doing that, because her relationship with current bf happen a red light, maybe she getting bored with him, he isn't that good as she thought. She probably thinking to go back with you.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Your the back up plan something inset quite going to her liking with current Mr right so shes priming you to step in mind you that is until she finds that lucky #3 then she will dump you again JMO anyways..
paleblue Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 no offense but I think you are wasting time talking to your ex. im just as confused as you are as to why she is doing all this if she is with someone. all I can think is if she wants to end things with the current guy, you are being set up to be that in-between guy until she finds someone else. Don’t be That guy. Unless you like being That guy. I would ask her point blank what her intentions are since you’ve already been down this road at least once.
Author deebeechrisyo Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 Thanks, that's what I figured. She's getting bored with the current guy. I don't have any desire to get back with her, and I don't want to be friends with her either for my own well-being, as well as because I don't want to cause any pain to the current guy. I know I wouldn't want my girlfriend hanging out and partying with her ex. All it is, is just a nice ego boost to know that she is still thinking about me while she's with someone else.
paleblue Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 (edited) Thanks, that's what I figured. She's getting bored with the current guy. I don't have any desire to get back with her, and I don't want to be friends with her either for my own well-being, as well as because I don't want to cause any pain to the current guy. I know I wouldn't want my girlfriend hanging out and partying with her ex. All it is, is just a nice ego boost to know that she is still thinking about me while she's with someone else. id rather be on that side of the coin too - her giving you an ego boost. i dont contact my ex anymore. even after all this horn blowing she did about wanting to be my friend. i got sucked up into it for awhile thinking maybe something good could come from it. nothing good came from it. it proved to be nothing more than an attempt by her to make herself feel better for being an a hole in life. i doubt a frienship is possible anyway because of who i am. when i hear from her now its always only when her world is falling apart, or something is wrong. now it gives me an ego boost. even if they are just crocodile tears. Edited June 22, 2010 by paleblue
listen_to_me_please Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 her relationship is not going according to plan, she wants to put you back on the hook so she can leave the guy and not be alone. just ignore her, she will find someone else soon enough.
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