Diezel Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 You don't get it. It's not that her ex-boyfriend tried to stab her. It's that she did all of the following: She sounds seriously mentally unstable. Yeah, don't worry, you're not alone on that view. But, it's his funeral.
Choboto Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 You don't get it. It's not that her ex-boyfriend tried to stab her. It's that she did all of the following: - invited him back to her place with the intent of having sex even though she just met him -- which on its own could be okay but she... - started spilling her life story - told him that her ex stabbed her and tried to kill her and showed him the scars - talked about her exes and how they were all players who hurt her - talked about how all her friends were stoners and cocaine addicts - said OP has his sh-t together, implying that she's impressed because she doesn't have her own sh-t together Honestly, talking about your exes and how badly they treated you when you just met someone is a pretty standard red flag. But this girl had only been talking to OP for a freaking hour before she started mentioning all of those things, and she nonchalantly mentions her ex stabbed her and shows OP her scars? Wtf? If I had that happen to me, I certainly wouldn't be showing off my scars within an hour of meeting someone new. She sounds seriously mentally unstable. whatever, judge people without knowing them. its yalls life.
sweetjasmine Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Yeah, don't worry, you're not alone on that view. But, it's his funeral. And it's not just that - someone in that girl's condition is also extremely vulnerable. Hitting it and quitting it would be pretty cruel at this point, and trying to make it into a relationship would be incredibly draining for OP. I've seen people jump into this sort of thing before, and the "stable" one always ends up absolutely miserable. Fixer-uppers don't make for good relationships.
Green Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Please, do not reproduce, ever. You seemed like such a nice poster with the Dippin'dots avatar and all. Then you give me a nasty "Please, do not reproduce, ever." Let me tell you that any nasty jaded comment you make should be applied to yourself. You don't get it. It's not that her ex-boyfriend tried to stab her. It's that she did all of the following: - invited him back to her place with the intent of having sex even though she just met him -- which on its own could be okay but she... - started spilling her life story - told him that her ex stabbed her and tried to kill her and showed him the scars - talked about her exes and how they were all players who hurt her - talked about how all her friends were stoners and cocaine addicts - said OP has his sh-t together, implying that she's impressed because she doesn't have her own sh-t together Honestly, talking about your exes and how badly they treated you when you just met someone is a pretty standard red flag. But this girl had only been talking to OP for a freaking hour before she started mentioning all of those things, and she nonchalantly mentions her ex stabbed her and shows OP her scars? Wtf? If I had that happen to me, I certainly wouldn't be showing off my scars within an hour of meeting someone new. She sounds seriously mentally unstable. HAHA first off you a girl so you don't know what its like. Seriously this scenario isn't the craziest thing in the world. Who are you to judge this girl for showing her scars. Personaly when an ex gf showed me scars she had from an injury I thought it was sexy. SHE WENT TO ART SCHOOL of course all her friends are STONERS/ADICTS. MY VOTE IS SAVE YOUR JUDGMENTS FOR LATER PROCEED WITH ENJOYMENT
CLC2008 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 You seemed like such a nice poster with the Dippin'dots avatar and all. Then you give me a nasty "Please, do not reproduce, ever." Let me tell you that any nasty jaded comment you make should be applied to yourself. HAHA first off you a girl so you don't know what its like. Seriously this scenario isn't the craziest thing in the world. Who are you to judge this girl for showing her scars. Personaly when an ex gf showed me scars she had from an injury I thought it was sexy. SHE WENT TO ART SCHOOL of course all her friends are STONERS/ADICTS. MY VOTE IS SAVE YOUR JUDGMENTS FOR LATER PROCEED WITH ENJOYMENT I am a nice poster. I think you sir, have been smoking too much green...maybe...perhaps?
Green Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I am a nice poster. I think you sir, have been smoking too much green...maybe...perhaps? Yeah Nice and Rude I think you throw personal attacks out because of some percieved insecurity you have about yourself. Your advice to the OP has no LOGIC/SOUL/HEART/ or substance of any kind really.
sweetjasmine Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 HAHA first off you a girl so you don't know what its like. Seriously this scenario isn't the craziest thing in the world. I'm female, so my opinion is irrelevant. Thanks, buddy. SHE WENT TO ART SCHOOL of course all her friends are STONERS/ADICTS. I know PEOPLE who went to ART SCHOOL and not all of them are ADDICTS and I KNOW how to SPOT someone with SERIOUS PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES. Again, if OP enjoys drama, he should dive right in, but if he wants to keep his sh-t together, he should back off.
Green Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 Give me the UPDATE I've been waiting for... THAT YOU CALLED HER AND TOLD HER YOU THINK SHE IS COOL AND WANT TO HANG OUT TODAY
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 (edited) Give me the UPDATE I've been waiting for... THAT YOU CALLED HER AND TOLD HER YOU THINK SHE IS COOL AND WANT TO HANG OUT TODAY I've decided what I'm going to do. I'm going to take her out to coffee and a pretty hip art gallery tomorrow. After that, I plan to make out with her with her in my car, but stop mid way and drop the "You're pretty, you're cool, I like you, but I'm not looking for anything serious" speech. I've noticed over the years that in the heat of a make session is the perfect time to bring it up; it works most of the time, as opposed to before or after. I have a feeling she'll feel the same way; she said she's been hurt before in some pretty awful serious relationships. Maybe she's at a point in her life when she wants to explore casual hooking up. If that doesn't work, that'll be too bad, but I just acquired a prospect with another girl I'm feeling pretty confident about. After a lot of painful and humiliating approaches, rejections or flakings, I think I'm finally getting the hang of this. Edited June 24, 2010 by Don'tWannabeAWannabe
Green Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I've decided what I'm going to do. I'm going to take her out to coffee and a pretty hip art gallery tomorrow. After that, I plan to make out with her with her in my car, but stop mid way and drop the "You're pretty, you're cool, I like you, but I'm not looking for anything serious" speech. I've noticed over the years that in the heat of a make session is the perfect time to bring it up; it works most of the time, as opposed to before or after. I have a feeling she'll feel the same way; she said she's been hurt before in some pretty awful serious relationships. Maybe she's at a point in her life when she wants to explore casual hooking up. If that doesn't work, that'll be too bad, but I just acquired a prospect with another girl I'm feeling pretty confident about. After a lot of painful and humiliating approaches, rejections or flakings, I think I'm finally getting the hang of this. Well if you havn't talked to her in all this time then she might not even answer you. BUT You SOUND CONFIDENT which is great!
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