cyanide_catharsis Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 it would be easier to just take all of the pills at once so you don't have to wake up tomorrow morning and feel the pain again. so you don't have to drag yourself to work and interact with people all day when you just want to be alone all of the time. i feel like i'm just a shell of my former self anymore. i miss her. i want her back. i made the biggest mistake ever. anybody have any advice on how to get a girl that basically hates you back? i don't know if i'll ever be the same without her. i just want to stop feeling like this...
wrencn Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I have. This past Thursday was the last time, it scared me so much I went and got help and can say I feel so much better now. I didn't believe anyone when they told me I would stop hurting but what do you know...I was actually happy today. Every day is different but I cherish the good days. I have no advice on how to get her back, but I just wanted to tell you to not give up.
Username37 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 it would be easier to just take all of the pills at once so you don't have to wake up tomorrow morning and feel the pain again. so you don't have to drag yourself to work and interact with people all day when you just want to be alone all of the time. i feel like i'm just a shell of my former self anymore. i miss her. i want her back. i made the biggest mistake ever. anybody have any advice on how to get a girl that basically hates you back? i don't know if i'll ever be the same without her. i just want to stop feeling like this... Yes. I want all the pain to go away. Everyday I feel worse and worse. I tried to get my ex back. I had false hope. I felt happy because I felt like I had a chance. I sent her an apology letter and as soon as I did that, what did I find out? I found out she's been hooking up with some guy and they are now involved (no strings attached). She said no to my apology and now I'm back to my depressed state. You can try to get her back. But its hella tough. She has hatred towards you. The pain is still there. She's vulnerable and COULD jump into anything. Act on it now. Write an apology note, but please know why you broke up with her and how she felt. You have to be understanding an it has to come from the heart. And if she says no to the apology letter, yeah it sucks, but now you have closure and you HAVE to move on. Now if she says yes...then you sir are a lucky lucky man. Just don't mess up again. Good luck to you
scottishlassy Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I'm sorry your feeling this way! I have been feeling the same way off and on for the past 5 1/2 months. He cheated on me, wanted the divorce, now wants to screw around and not give me the divorce. Just got an e-mail from him today and it just brings me down again. They seem to know when your in a good place and make it a point to knock you down again.
Username37 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I'm sorry your feeling this way! I have been feeling the same way off and on for the past 5 1/2 months. He cheated on me, wanted the divorce, now wants to screw around and not give me the divorce. Just got an e-mail from him today and it just brings me down again. They seem to know when your in a good place and make it a point to knock you down again. It's there way to boost their egos. Kicking someone when they're down. People can be so heartless.
Author cyanide_catharsis Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 ya, i'm pretty much scared to death of how i've been feeling. i had a period of like two days where i was actually starting to feel better. then i saw her picture online and heard from one of her friends that she is sort of seeing another guy. brought me right back to what feels like square one. i just hope it doesn't take me too long to get back to where i was before. i was actually starting to feel pretty good... made an appointment with a therapist. hopefully it helps.
heavensmesenger Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Promise me one thing? Get better, sort your head out AND THEN contact her. If you want her back DO NOT do it whilst you are in this frame of mind. She will not find you attractive and you will only help in having her push you away even more. You need to get yourself sorted so see a professional, I did and there is no shame in it, they can make you see things and think of things that you didnt know. Just don't get on the anti depressants because they will only numb the pain not solve it. If you want her back focus on yourself, get your confidence back (it may take a month or two) and then and only then speak to her. You may even find somebody better who knows... I wish you luck my friend, we are all here for you.
Nikki Sahagin Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Many times...and not just because of the ex. I remember once speaking to a therapist about this and explaining that I never really intended to kill myself or was going to, it was just a 'safe' thought, telling myself that if things ever became too much, there was always a way out. Strangely, I think I lost my fear of death through having experienced desire for it at some low points. All that 'death can be a great adventure/relief' nonsense. What i'm saying is, having these thoughts isn't necessarily something to worry about, unless you find yourself chronically drawn to actually putting it into action. A desperate, exhausted, incredibly painted or hopeless individual can be drawn to this, but it is always just a safety thought for most I think, because we don't ever really want to die, we just want a way out from the pain, and sometimes we think that is the way, it never is. The feeling and the thoughts ALWAYS pass at some stage. There is always a let-up. Its healthy that you can express that this is sometimes how you feel. I had points after my break-up where I genuinely wished I was brave/weak enough to just do it, but then when you find yourself smiling or laughing again or having a good moment, the whole idea seems horrible in the back of your mind. Do you think you can overcome this feeling by yourself?
scottishlassy Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 ya, i'm pretty much scared to death of how i've been feeling. i had a period of like two days where i was actually starting to feel better. then i saw her picture online and heard from one of her friends that she is sort of seeing another guy. brought me right back to what feels like square one. i just hope it doesn't take me too long to get back to where i was before. i was actually starting to feel pretty good... made an appointment with a therapist. hopefully it helps. Find the right therapist and it will help loads. My first therapist focused on his marriage instead of mine. The second therapist is amazing. So much so that I can only get in to see her once a month. She is booked beyond belief. When I first talked to her, I knew she was the right therapist for me. If the first one doesn't/can't help you, keep looking! Don't give up!
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