Green Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Would you enjoy dating a man you could probably beat up/ over power if push came to shove? I just thought it would be interesting to hear what the guys and girls who read this thread thought about this subject. I feel it does help with my confidence knowing that I am strong and it does help me get women. Then again it’s all kind of an illusion because a tiny little guy with a knife or gun could shoot or stab me before I even knew what was going on and that would be that. Still there do seem to be a large number of women who like physically powerful men like football players or basket ball player who usually are big men who weigh over 200lbs ect.
Author Green Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 Nope, I'd never date a man I could overpower. interesting. What about a man who you couldn't over power but in your mind thought pretty much every guy in the world could over power... do you think you could over power zac efron?
Serenitynow Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I would have to think that any woman that goes for that situation, does it on purpose because she likes to be the dominant type.
Jersey Shortie Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I don't pick men based on who I can't and can beat up. This is a total guy question.
BubbleFreak Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 lol it is a funny question. But no, I also wouldn't go out with a guy so physically weak I could beat him up. I like someone strong. It is most appealing if he can look after himself without me having to worry about other guys also beating him up:p Anyways, I don't like the idea of a bf picking fights with other people unless he is defending me or has a good reason. Turn off. Intelligence is sexier than brawn imo.
Author Green Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 I would have to think that any woman that goes for that situation, does it on purpose because she likes to be the dominant type. or is settling. I don't pick men based on who I can't and can beat up. This is a total guy question. Maybe you do subconsiosly and never relized it till just now lol it is a funny question. But no, I also wouldn't go out with a guy so physically weak I could beat him up. I like someone strong. It is most appealing if he can look after himself without me having to worry about other guys also beating him up:p Anyways, I don't like the idea of a bf picking fights with other people unless he is defending me or has a good reason. Turn off. Intelligence is sexier than brawn imo. I was trying to ask a funny question lets see if I get some entertaining answers. I hardly believe that intelligence is sexier than brawn for most though. I think a certain level of intelligence with a certain level of brawn is the best combonation.
TouchedByViolet Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 As a small guy 5'7" 130lb I generally don't like it if a girl looks like she can take me, but it is not a deal breaker. If push comes to shove I'm not terribly worried because I have no problem playing dirty there is no such thing as a fair fight
You'reasian Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Would you enjoy dating a man you could probably beat up/ over power if push came to shove? I just thought it would be interesting to hear what the guys and girls who read this thread thought about this subject. I feel it does help with my confidence knowing that I am strong and it does help me get women. Then again it’s all kind of an illusion because a tiny little guy with a knife or gun could shoot or stab me before I even knew what was going on and that would be that. Still there do seem to be a large number of women who like physically powerful men like football players or basket ball player who usually are big men who weigh over 200lbs ect. Some women do like big men because they feel protected and maybe because they are bigger in other places... As you point out, perception isn't always reality. I've seen skinny dudes choke out larger ones, although most of the time the bigger, stronger guys are going to overpower the smaller ones. Simple physics.
Jersey Shortie Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Maybe you do subconsiosly and never relized it till just now Maybe in a way Green. I don't think most women go around saying " I could totally beat this guy's ass, he is out of here". We might look for signs of strength in a man, but not in the terms you as another man would look at another man and evaulate what you preceive another man's strentghs to be. A man can suck at fixing a leaky pipe but be a great cook and still be looked at as strong by his female partner. There are many ways a man can be strong. It's not always the "hunky" , what society might interpret as the alpha male type that I would be attracted to. Plus, I am pretty petitte so a 12 year old boy could take me...and a few 12 year old girls.
Author Green Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 As a small guy 5'7" 130lb I generally don't like it if a girl looks like she can take me, but it is not a deal breaker. If push comes to shove I'm not terribly worried because I have no problem playing dirty there is no such thing as a fair fight There are some 130 lb guys who wouldn't hurt a fly and they will be at a disadvantage when compared to an in shape 200 lb guy who wouldn't hurt a fly. BUT if a woman senses you have no problem playing dirty i.e. VIOLENCE then I think its a turn on for them. Some women do like big men because they feel protected and maybe because they are bigger in other places... As you point out, perception isn't always reality. I've seen skinny dudes choke out larger ones, although most of the time the bigger, stronger guys are going to overpower the smaller ones. Simple physics. I myself have been caugh off gaurd by my little bros for example before and put into a choke hold I couldn't really get out of... so yeah. But for the most part smaller guys even if they are muscular have no chance.
Author Green Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 Maybe in a way Green. I don't think most women go around saying " I could totally beat this guy's ass, he is out of here". We might look for signs of strength in a man, but not in the terms you as another man would look at another man and evaulate what you preceive another man's strentghs to be. A man can suck at fixing a leaky pipe but be a great cook and still be looked at as strong by his female partner. There are many ways a man can be strong. It's not always the "hunky" , what society might interpret as the alpha male type that I would be attracted to. Plus, I am pretty petitte so a 12 year old boy could take me...and a few 12 year old girls. This reminds me of the time I had my 11 year old brother arm wrestle my gf. Lets just say that there was NO competition haha. Mosts men who can cook are pretty tought. I mean they know how to Slice things up, and if they are cooking on a GRILL that is the escence of being a MAN. I do agree that women arn't as good at spotting a tough man as another man is.
You'reasian Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 (edited) Going from JS points, mental tenacity is a strength that is undervalued, invisible to the naked eye and therefore not something that a woman will experience or value when she first meets a man and may never experience if she doesn't stick around - but is a trait that is high in the priority list for success in life. Gandhi was a thin, frail fellow... Edited June 21, 2010 by You'reasian
Jilly Bean Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Out of all the criteria women employ in dating, I would say the ability to beat up a date ranks on the list... NO WHERE. We don't think this way, Green. Having never beat anyone up in my life, I can't say it's something I base dating on. That being said, I wouldn't date a guy who was smaller than me, as he'd have to be pretty darn tiny.
Author Green Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 Going from JS points' date=' mental tenacity is undervalued, invisible to the naked eye and therefore not something that a woman will experience or value when she first meets a man and may never experience if she doesn't stick around - but is a trait that is high in the priority list for success in life.[/quote'] Is it really invisible though? I believe tenacity is something used to describe people. To me it incorporates the entire being of a person. A lot of people have no tenacity. Women in society have a greater acceptance for weakness... but it truely is unatractive in a man even from a mans perspective. I mean I don't want to hire some snivling little baby boy to work with me or be my friend.
Author Green Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 Out of all the criteria women employ in dating, I would say the ability to beat up a date ranks on the list... NO WHERE. We don't think this way, Green. Having never beat anyone up in my life, I can't say it's something I base dating on. That being said, I wouldn't date a guy who was smaller than me, as he'd have to be pretty darn tiny. See I didn't want to tie in the Bigger Smaller thing but THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT. You come on here and flat out contradict yourself in a way.
You'reasian Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 (edited) Is it really invisible though? I believe tenacity is something used to describe people. To me it incorporates the entire being of a person. A lot of people have no tenacity. Women in society have a greater acceptance for weakness... but it truely is unatractive in a man even from a mans perspective. I mean I don't want to hire some snivling little baby boy to work with me or be my friend. Tenacity isn't black and white. Sometimes its felt, sometimes its seen. Gandhi was a thin, frail, short man who employed peace to win the hearts and minds of millions around the world, embarass his opposition and cause them to withdraw. His ability to take punishment, protest silently and create a picture shows his tenacity. Genghis Khan was tenacious in the obvious sense that he crushed his opposition then conquered the territory. Edited June 21, 2010 by You'reasian
Woggle Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Anybody who dates based on who they can and can't beat up has some issues.
You'reasian Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Anybody who dates based on who they can and can't beat up has some issues. or Green is a young man
Jilly Bean Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 See I didn't want to tie in the Bigger Smaller thing but THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT. You come on here and flat out contradict yourself in a way. No, I didn't at all. I said I don't look at anybody thinking if I could beat them up. It's not how I view people, or someone I date. I did say I am not attracted to tiny men, which is something entirely different. I would assume a guy who is smaller than me could still beat me up, if that's what your post is about. lol
jason83 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I am 5'8", 150 lbs. Not the biggest guy but I have some muscle on me. I've never backed down from a fight but honestly have only been in a few. My best friend was in the Navy Seals and we wrestle around with one another all the time. He's about an inch shorter than me. I love learning things from him. Ultimately, it really doesn't matter how big you are physically. I have taken down a 6'5" guy who blind-sided me and took a cheap punch. He was obviously a lot bigger than me and had more muscle on him too. I'm not saying any of this to sound arrogant or anything but there's a lot more to fighting than just who has the biggest arms or more weight to push the other around. Most women, IMO, want to be with a guy who they feel can protect them. So I honestly don't think that most women would feel right being in a relationship with a man who they feel they could physically dominate.
Engadget Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I am 5'8", 150 lbs. Not the biggest guy but I have some muscle on me. I've never backed down from a fight but honestly have only been in a few. My best friend was in the Navy Seals and we wrestle around with one another all the time. He's about an inch shorter than me. I love learning things from him. Ultimately, it really doesn't matter how big you are physically. I have taken down a 6'5" guy who blind-sided me and took a cheap punch. He was obviously a lot bigger than me and had more muscle on him too. I'm not saying any of this to sound arrogant or anything but there's a lot more to fighting than just who has the biggest arms or more weight to push the other around. Most women, IMO, want to be with a guy who they feel can protect them. So I honestly don't think that most women would feel right being in a relationship with a man who they feel they could physically dominate. This is true, physical size and strength really only matters in some type of sport fighting. Like boxing or MMA where arm reach can give you a huge advantage for example.
Author Green Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 Tenacity isn't black and white. Sometimes its felt, sometimes its seen. Gandhi was a thin, frail, short man who employed peace to win the hearts and minds of millions around the world, embarass his opposition and cause them to withdraw. His ability to take punishment, protest silently and create a picture shows his tenacity. Genghis Khan was tenacious in the obvious sense that he crushed his opposition then conquered the territory. Good points Anybody who dates based on who they can and can't beat up has some issues. Women do this in my opinion... although not activly or Green is a young man Seriously I don't know what a "young man" is theses days. lol but I'm surely not an OLD man. I like how Green comes out and says I'M STRONG I like it too. No, I didn't at all. I said I don't look at anybody thinking if I could beat them up. It's not how I view people, or someone I date. I did say I am not attracted to tiny men, which is something entirely different. I would assume a guy who is smaller than me could still beat me up, if that's what your post is about. lol You make me lol with "I would assume a guy who is smaller than me could still beat me up." look its also about the "My bf could beat ur bf" thing to. Even if that is not the stated purpose. AND I KNOW YOU'VE DATED SOME PRETTY STRONG MEN. I am 5'8", 150 lbs. Not the biggest guy but I have some muscle on me. I've never backed down from a fight but honestly have only been in a few. My best friend was in the Navy Seals and we wrestle around with one another all the time. He's about an inch shorter than me. I love learning things from him. Ultimately, it really doesn't matter how big you are physically. I have taken down a 6'5" guy who blind-sided me and took a cheap punch. He was obviously a lot bigger than me and had more muscle on him too. I'm not saying any of this to sound arrogant or anything but there's a lot more to fighting than just who has the biggest arms or more weight to push the other around. Most women, IMO, want to be with a guy who they feel can protect them. So I honestly don't think that most women would feel right being in a relationship with a man who they feel they could physically dominate. Like you said winning in a fight is as much about the mind as the body. WOMEN LOVE MEN IN UNIFORM... specificaly NAVY BOYS, FLY BOYS, ARMY GUYS... hmmm I think even if they don't come out and say it they like the fact that they have a disciplined in control man. These MEN KNOW HOW TO USE GUNS AND KNIVES heck even hand to hand combat. LOOK the women can come on this thread and say OH NO I DON'T THINK ABOUT THIS AT ALL... but subconsiosly all there preferences for ATHLETES, TALL MEN, MEN IN UNIFORM... its all about being STRONG./ being able to take care of onself ie FIGHTING. WOMEN DO NOT WANT AN OUT OF CONTROL CRIMINAL/ANIMAL THEY DO WANT THE UNIFORM ie the VARSITY UNIFROM... or the POLICE/FIRE MAN ... MILITARY....ect.... the MAN WHO HAS PROVED HIMSELF. to me FIGHTING HYPOTHETICALY is in there
Engadget Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Green do you know how many servicemen are cheated on when they're deployed?
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