OceanTropic Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I've read that most people know they want to break up loooong before they actually break up with their partner. For how many of you is this true? I know for me, I usually break up about a month after I make the decision, that way I know I am sure about it, and its not just because of mixed emotions after a fight or disagreement.
harmfulsweetz Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 It varies. My last break up I waited...around three months. I suppose that's a month for every year we dated. I knew in my heart it was what I wanted to do, but I hoped there was some way to save it, to change my mind and heart, so I stayed for longer than I should have. But break ups in the past have seemed fairly impulsive, like I'd make the decision then go and do it. Perhaps that's because they weren't as serious as the other one, I don't know. I read a lot on here that people who leave it for a while after making the decision, or knowing it's what they need to do, are cruel and allowing the other person to be misled, I'm not sure I agree with this. Oftentimes, the dumper wants to try and rescue the relationship and so ignores gut instinct, to do so. It's not easy by any means breaking up with someone, it's a tough decision to make to be honest.
Green Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I think that some times certain events help press the brake up... Like if you are ENGAGED and have changed your mind you have the wedding date as a reminder that SOONER is BETTER THEN LATER. Other things like if you are MOVING FAR AWAY might hepl people come to the realizationg that they should break up. A LEASE ENDING on an apartment might cause a couple to say they don't want to renew or find a new place to lease TOGATHER. So in my mind events help bring it foward. I think UNLESS something REALLY NASTY happens you will think about breaking up with some one some time before actualy doing it. THEN there is the break ups that don't last. On again off again situations.
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