Your Favourite Smile Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Im just not quite sure on whether I should take a risk and start dating a guy ive known for a long time (2 and a half yrs) and have had an underlying attraction to. I think id have dated him from when my feelings developed but my fear of getting hurt was holding me back. He is a massive flirt and he doesnt have the best of reputations. Part of me wishes i didnt know so much about him but its been a while and my curiousity has resulted in finding out things id rather not know about him. Details about how he behaves puts me off him, but a lot of other attributes are what attract me. We have always had conversations and i know he has tried in the past to arrange to meet me. I kept avoiding it.. thinking id be in a mess if i ever were to get involved with him. Recently my feelings have gotten stronger and i had to reveal it to him and make myself more clear. In the past i was terribly unsure and most likely led him on. But this time ive decided i just wanted to let things out and at least he would know. He told me recently that he had started a relationship with someone. This 'relationship' lasted 3 weeks... More or less the day of his breakup, he started talking to me again. Im just not sure.. I know i shouldve taken my chance in the past, instead of denying what i felt. I might have a chance now, but this might mean being the girl that he can fall back on when it suits him. Urgh.. Im not sure what i would want out of this either.. im starting to think i would be crazy to expect commitment from a guy like this. But at the same time ive no idea what the future holds and have sometimes just got to be a bit more optimistic and not make assumptions all the time. Is this a waste of my time or should i take the chance now ive finally got it?
Serenitynow Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 He is a massive flirt and he doesnt have the best of reputations. Part of me wishes i didnt know so much about him but its been a while and my curiousity has resulted in finding out things id rather not know about him. Yes, get with him. It will give us something to talk about a few weeks from now when you come back crying that he cheated on you, or hit it and quit, or what ever he might do that you didnt see coming. Is there ANY way possible you can give me an HONEST answer on why you would choose him, over a regular guy that has no drama? ONCE AGAIN another post that proves what us guys keep trying to get through the thick heads on here. Women LOVE the players/drama/GQ/alpha male types I would love to know how many women read the OP's post and are thinking WHY ARE YOU LETTING GUYS SEE HOW WE REALLY THINK .
Author Your Favourite Smile Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 I know more about him than i should perhaps, ive had a bad record of relationships myself and if any future curious guys should know this- im sure it would effect their opinion. I think everyone should give others a chance when starting new relationships. He attracts me because he is confident, creative, affectionate, open-minded, adventurous and has a great sense of humour. I havnt seen enough of him to know how reliable he is in terms of meeting up etc. As far as the flirting goes, i enjoy flirting but am fully aware id be insecure if he flirted heavily with others. Im not making excuses for him but its probably just my own insecurity which makes this a problem if i were to be with him. Im being honest with my post. I dont think people should hold anything against me for that. Ive not had much luck with guys, nor have i been approached by many guys. Ive been single for a while, single for a just over a year. Maybe i just wasnt made for relationships/dating
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