JohnnyDrama Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I mean- I agree with you, it SHOULDN'T matter, but the OP is clearly not comfortable with it. She wants to make her own memories in their own hotel- I guess she thinks he will constantly be reminded of the time he had with his ex. I can't really speak for her, though. Sure, I guess I always thought relationships were about maturing and even if you don't like something you talk things out. If she isn't comfortable with that there are probably other things she isn't comfortable with. Seems to me this is the scenario. Pick a hotel he's familiar with and has stayed in vs Picking a hotel from a brochure where you have never stepped foot in I know which one I am picking.
JohnnyDrama Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Because the last thing you want on a romantic vacation with your bf is to be thinking he had sex in that 4-room hotel with his ex, maybe in THIS room, on THIS bed, and that he's probably remembering it right now. If that's the case there are probably more issues than just that. I mean it's quite possible she's paranoid about this more than he is.
Confusedalways Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Sure, I guess I always thought relationships were about maturing and even if you don't like something you talk things out. If she isn't comfortable with that there are probably other things she isn't comfortable with. Seems to me this is the scenario. Pick a hotel he's familiar with and has stayed in vs Picking a hotel from a brochure where you have never stepped foot in I know which one I am picking. Where's your sense of adventure Sometimes picking a hotel neither of you are familiar with can be a lot of fun! Stay in a hotel you're familiar with and risk a miserable girlfriend for a week vs Stay somewhere neither of you know about and have a happy girlfriend all week! They're going to Greece! I'd stay in a cardboard box the side of a road if someone took me to Greece!
norajane Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 If that's the case there are probably more issues than just that. I mean it's quite possible she's paranoid about this more than he is. I'm almost certain that she is more concerned about it than he is. He probably hasn't given it a second thought. However, this is how she feels, and if it's going to make her uncomfortable and she'll be thinking about it while on their trip, she needs to say something. And he, if he cares about her, shouldn't find it a big hardship to go to another romantic hotel in Greece. Sometimes, you have to be considerate of the other person's feelings even if they doesn't match your own. If he hasn't given this a second thought, then it really shouldn't matter to him if they go to another hotel. But it will make her really happy, feel more comfortable, and that will lead to more romance and sex and fun for both of them.
Serenitynow Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I think you must've completely skipped my example Nope just ignored it completely
JohnnyDrama Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Where's your sense of adventure Sometimes picking a hotel neither of you are familiar with can be a lot of fun! Stay in a hotel you're familiar with and risk a miserable girlfriend for a week vs Stay somewhere neither of you know about and have a happy girlfriend all week! They're going to Greece! I'd stay in a cardboard box the side of a road if someone took me to Greece! I have gone on vacation done the brochure thing and the place was a rat hole so yes I have had that sense of adventure.
JohnnyDrama Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I'm almost certain that she is more concerned about it than he is. He probably hasn't given it a second thought. However, this is how she feels, and if it's going to make her uncomfortable and she'll be thinking about it while on their trip, she needs to say something. And he, if he cares about her, shouldn't find it a big hardship to go to another romantic hotel in Greece. Sometimes, you have to be considerate of the other person's feelings even if they doesn't match your own. If he hasn't given this a second thought, then it really shouldn't matter to him if they go to another hotel. But it will make her really happy, feel more comfortable, and that will lead to more romance and sex and fun for both of them. Sure she should say something but what happens if they go out and she thinks "did she take her there before, did he kiss her here, did they walk down this sidewalk?" Yes I do agree you need to be considerate of the other person's feelings if they don't match their own. By the same token if she's going to raise a fuss over things and I am not saying she will he has the same right to say "okay we're not going to Greece" or something along those lines.
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