Serenitynow Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 How many women on here have second guessed going out with a guy, because you were afraid your female friends would laugh, or snicker behind your back, if the guy wasn't quite . . . good looking enough or made enough money or what he did for a living etc etc
ADF Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 (edited) How many women on here have second guessed going out with a guy, because you were afraid your female friends would laugh, or snicker behind your back, if the guy wasn't quite . . . good looking enough or made enough money or what he did for a living etc etc Men do this all the time, too. Especially younger men. They worry like hell their GFs won't be "hot" enough to impress their friends, and often date women they think will make their friends envious rather than women they actually like. Edited June 20, 2010 by ADF
harmfulsweetz Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Nope. I don't care about that. If I like him, I like him. I'm not asking them to date him, kiss him etc so why should I seek their approval? If it was in terms of character etc, i.e. is he a player, abusive or whatever, then yes, I seek their approval.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 This is not a factor at all. Some of my friends choose guys who, to me, are very unappealing (flaky, entitled, player mentality), over and over again. I would never pick the guys they do, and I imagine they would pass over the kind of guy I'm usually interested in (smart, more introverted, steak over sizzle) as not their type.
White Dove Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 How many women on here have second guessed going out with a guy, because you were afraid your female friends would laugh, or snicker behind your back, if the guy wasn't quite . . . good looking enough or made enough money or what he did for a living etc etc No, I don't seek for their approval. I don't care what my friends think about his looks etc. But I know I will listen to them if they find anything off about his characteristics.
Els Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Considering the fact that I once dated a wonderful, brilliant guy who was also a hunchback, weighed 50kg and looked every bit like Einstein, nope. Wasn't for lack of options either, tyvm.
JohnnyDrama Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Honestly, when I was younger and immature, this did matter to me (I'm talking teenage years, possibly into college). I was very, very vain when I was younger. After I grew up and learned what was really important in life it ceased to be important to me. This makes sense. If I do start a relationship the tough part is the girl may not see much of my friends, 85% of my friends are married with kids. :laugh:
Eve Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 The views of my closest friends are important to me, so I have in the past listened to their opinions. I think it can be an important test. Take care, Eve xx
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Never. Unless he was directly rude, offensive, or abusive to me or my friends (which has never been the case with someone I'm dating), I really don't care what they think. I have a friend who systematically (and unsuccessfully) dates wealthy men, regardless of their personality or relationship skills, who took it upon herself to tell me, "honey, you're cute enough, you should be finding yourself a rich man!" My boyfriend has a career he enjoys and is able to live off of, but that's about it. He's nowhere near being wealthy. I told her, in more conventional terms, to F off. Whenever my boyfriend hangs out with me and my friends, he always has them laughing to the point of tears and having a great time. That's what makes me proud that he's my boyfriend. Not the way he looks or his paycheck.
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