HeartisLost Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I met this guy two years ago. The first time I saw him I thought he was attractive. He started talking to me on a friend level. Then every time he saw me he would make it clear he saw me. He could be in a conversation and when he saw me he would make sure he acknowledged I was there. He even started calling me every day. He emailed me messages to let me know he was thinking about me. Last year he didn't talk to me because a girlfriend came into the picture and she found out we had been friends and told him he was not allowed to talk to me. She made him call me on the phone and I had to say "goodbye" to him. Well, he never said "goodbye" to me like he was told he had to do. Within the past couple of months he has started talking to me again when he sees me. The conversations are just liked they used to be. Then he added a serious level of discussion to our conversations. He asked me if I am in love with him and what my feelings are for him. Ever since I met him I have cared about him. He told me in a recent conversation that I am the only person that ever cares/cared about him. He told me he is depressed, lonely and miserable. It is very obvious that he is. (This does not make sense considering he has a girlfriend.) I miss talking to him and being around him. I do like him a lot and I told him this recently. When I asked him what his feelings are for me and if he loves me, he admitted to it. I miss him a lot and want to be with him. Everyone I talk to says he clearly has feelings for me. When people see us together, they wink at us and have smirks on their faces. I talk to some of his friends and they always bring him up in conversation to me.
ADF Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Last year he didn't talk to me because a girlfriend came into the picture and she found out we had been friends and told him he was not allowed to talk to me. She made him call me on the phone and I had to say "goodbye" to him. Well, he never said "goodbye" to me like he was told he had to do. This paragraph says it all. The "loser" in this story is him, not you. A person who allows themselves to be bullied this way is a pathetic weakling. You don't let your SO dictate who you may or may not be friends with. EVER. This is important, because two qualities you need from any partner are steadfastness and loyalty. It sounds to me like this is the sort of guy who would cut and run the moment your relationship became strained. Consider it.
Author HeartisLost Posted June 20, 2010 Author Posted June 20, 2010 It doesn't make sense how someone could allow someone else to choose who his friends are. What has really hit me lately is why do his friends keep bringing him up to me in conversation lately? Our conversation does not start about him, but gets to being about him. They haven't talked to me about him in about a year, but they all talk to me about him now. Whenever anyone sees us together, they nod their heads, have smirks on their faces or wink at us. I have been told that there is a "spark" when the two of us are together and this is not seen when we are around other people.
Bdk Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 The only advice i offer is you need to confront him about being friends again and not letting her dictate who he's friends with. I personally would never date a female that got all you cant talk to so and so. I dont like being told what's good for me at my age.
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