ecto-1 Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 So, what issues are you willing to overlook or just try to get an idea of what they're issues are before even dating them? There's this one woman I met, recently divorced who is trying to get out and socialize, she was trying to get me to join her and her friends in a Karate class....from what I hear from her, from the class, she has issues with making contact with members of the opposite sex or people she doesn't know that well....like hand grappling, practicing arm locks or hand grabs (twisting hand outward) things like that. She mentioned that one moved required someone to grab her shoulder from behind and do something, and apparently she wailed on the guy as a response to some "issue" she's had in regards to sexual abuse in the past as a younger woman or child (she's in her 30's now)....she kind of made it sound less bad, but when she left, her friends said, "Yeah she really wails on people if you make physical contact with her. If you were to ever converse with her, she's very kind to her friends, when she left she said, "It was very nice meeting you gentlemen", very lady-like, but she admits to her faults, and she says she's trying to overcome them, which is great. But, from what I hear from 3rd parties, she does tend to "react" depending on the situation. That being said, would you be willing to patient with such a person?
sagetalk Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I don't see any issue. If you date her and make a move, but she clocks you. yes, dump her. Otherwise, I see no reason not to go for it.
Author ecto-1 Posted June 20, 2010 Author Posted June 20, 2010 I don't see any issue. If you date her and make a move, but she clocks you. yes, dump her. Otherwise, I see no reason not to go for it. LOL...funny, actually, I had a woman that I knew react to me when I tapped her on her shoulder to say hello or I think I put my hand on her shoulder gently to get her attention, and she jumped 1 foot, turned around and gave me the dirtiest look, and walked away...I did apologize profusely, and said I didn't mean to scare you like that! but she didn't respond and just walked away. One of my friends witnessed this, and we kind of went "yikes". Who knows whats up with said woman, but I was kind of peeved that she didn't apologize back for taking it personal, she just decided to be a piece of work and get pissed off and walk away.
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