bfontz Posted February 1, 2004 Posted February 1, 2004 ok i really really need all your support here as it really is depressing. my ex girlfriend broke up with me on the 27th of dec. she had many reasons but i really dont know which one. so ne ways.. i really want her back i love her a lot and weve been through some ups and downs but i was really sad that i didnt get to be her bf for new years our 7 months her 18th bday now again 3 important days are coming and thats suppose to be our 8 months valentines day and my 19th bday. weve been going out for 6 months or went out. she says she still cares for me so much and loves me. what i really dont get is that all the stuff she did we went to disneyland and werent going out at the time it was the 2nd of jan and she invited this guy and it was one painful they were like touching each other and like cuddling and holding hands and it hasnt even been a week yet. thats one thing that made me mad then she ran away and when her sis and i found her the first thing she does is ask her sis what am i doing here when i care for her and love her. so then people say its like she rebounding or whatever it is? its like in disneyland she cuddled with him held hands then to me she did it too. so now days pass by now its our 7 months or suppose to be.. i told her sis during lunch that you know what its suppose to be our 7 months today and she said to me yea i know my sister said it like a few times, and i though to myself are you serious and then she says yes she mentioned it last night to me then today to me and then to her friend and i was like hmmm... so thats one thing thats weird. THEN!, then next day both my ex and i were in the back of my car talking during her lunch break from school. and i find her wearing on her wrist the heart braclet i gave her with our picture that was engraved from those booths from sea world attaced to it. and ALSO! on our 7 months we were talking online and she said she had to go to bed and then she said bye and i said it too and then she says you know i love you too with a smiley face..and she knows ive been so so depressed from her breaking up with me..and i said i love you too and i then said for the heck of it happy 7 months and she gave me a smiley face again.. but yea its all so confusing i really love her i really dont know what to do and i want to know please people i know but i really want to try not to read forget her move on all that crap..just a way to get her back what should i do when i want to talk to her...i said it all in my info that i love her and miss her..so i dont know... it so sad right now but for some information she and i are 18 im 11 months older than her shes a sen in high school im fresh in college we went out for six months... and actually she broke up with me one time in last of oct cause she couldnt handle a bf when she lied and told me later that her friends had pressured her into breaking up with me cuase i was annoying so she got back with me a day later to make her own decision and it was like that wasnt a 2nd chance cuase when she broke up with me recently which is the 2nd time thats not a 2nd chance is it??? i mean she told me i already did give you chance when i tried to get her back... and if shes not going backj to me then why i dont get it she has all my clothes still, my house key, and her xanga info still says what she likes and thats spending time with me...its all so weird...she said we didnt understand each other when she broke up with me i told my friends and they said that when you guys were together it sure looked like you understood each other. i mean im going on a mission for 2 years and ive asked her many times if its that and she says many times its not that... i tell everyone that and theyre like mayeb it is and same here deep down inside of me it does feel like thats it..so talk to my friends and they say maybe shes jsut trying to unattach herself from you so it wont be as devastating when you leave for 2 years.. and then you guys go out again later after your two years.. and she also said that its not going to miss having a bf its going to be missing you... and also in other info she even mentioned marriage a lot like everytime we would talk about us she would acciendently like say yea our kids are going to be smart and tall and then when she mentions something uh yea your kids you know..like to fix it thinking i didnt see her..then she asks me other stuff like can you see me as your wife and all this other stuff..i mean weve been through evertying togeher and done everything together an di love her so much and i can see myself being with her for the rest of my life...and i dont care what peoplke say get over her or it takes a while but im serious i mean everything froze when i started going out with her i love her so much..and also she mentioned when she broke up with me that i do try to hard. i mean i bring her lunch everday and see her everyday..so when we broke up and after talking to everyone and stuff only one thing hasnt happend that i am currently doing right now that everyone said and yes thats to give her space dont talk to her or see her..at school i mean thats how much i love her people were not going out and i still go and see her everyday at school during her lunch..and so i havent been seeing her or talking to her. and then this is wehre it all started.. i told her everything that i could on my info from AIM and its 5 screen names long so she must have read that and im me saying hey you there? hello you know and so i didnt respond but i told her all these things how i want her back and that ive been giving her space and that i miss her and love her...but please tell me what to do to get her back...but yea to give her space like my friends said to shell be like hey how come hes not tlaking to me anymore or not even seeing me then she call me and say we should hang out and maybe that will have a spark again but then when i think about it thats why i havent done it till now what happens if shes like oh ok hes forgotten about me now i can date again and move on but no i love her so please people help me here what should i do ask any questions you want and ill do my best to asnwer them thank you so much i look forward for all your replies and support....
faux Posted February 1, 2004 Posted February 1, 2004 It was very hard to follow what you said, because you didn't break your post up into paragraphs I've been through something similar when women have broken up with me. I still cared an awful lot, but they ended the relationship. I would try to "fix things" and get back together with them. Bad results always followed, and I got very stressed out and ended up making their lives a living hell. After driving three women crazy like this I stopped and thought, maybe that's not the way to go about it. Yes, they often kept things of mine and were interested in keeping in contact, just like in your situation. It didn't mean they wanted to date me again though. I found out that it is best just to go "Okay. She broke up with me. I won't talk to her, or try to talk to her, or be around her. At all." It's very difficult, but that seems to be the only thing that works. Imagine being pursued by someone that you are not interested in... Your ex could consider your behavior stalking or harassment, even if you don't think it is and you don't think you are doing anything wrong. It's best to lay off, even if there were going to be important plans coming up for you two, had you remained together. I've been through the same thing but you have to let it go. Don't communicate and don't check in on her life. After some time (I can't say how long, weeks, months? Years?) you two may end up talking again. If she is interested in being a friend, maybe she means "Leave me alone now. If you can do that maybe we can be FRIENDS way in the future." And if she is hanging out with another guy, don't yell at her. She has a right to, just like you do since you are no longer an item. Sorry I can't help more, but you can't change someone's mind like that. Also, I was this upset over a girl once, and she actually did get the police involved. It wouldn't be good for you to keep pursuing her so much. I know you care about her, but she does not want that type of attention anymore, and you need to respect that. What you are doing could be hurting her and scaring her. Time heals. Time takes a while but TRUST ME it heals If you cut her out of your life she might find out she misses you after a while. Try it. And if not, you'll be over it anyway
Author bfontz Posted February 1, 2004 Author Posted February 1, 2004 we are still friends she says and we talk but did you actutally read ALL OF THAT I TYPED AND UNDERSTOOD IT?
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