kcharmed Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 We have been together for almost 2 years and have a beautiful daughter . Ever since Lilly was born he is always calling me fat which I am but putting me down like that its just mean. He now is addicted to an app on the Iphone and is playing it all the time . Not to mention talking to girls and not letting me see the msgs. He talks more to them than me now and I trying to make an effort but now when I try he is getting all snippy and angry . I confront him that It bothers me and he just keeps doing it . I feel like I don't matter anymore and that I'm being pushed away . He says he Loves me when I get mad and kisses me but I feel like he just saying it to get me to leave him alone . Starting to feel like I love you is forced and just a cover . IDK i'm on the brink of being depressed .
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 We have been together for almost 2 years and have a beautiful daughter . Ever since Lilly was born he is always calling me fat which I am but putting me down like that its just mean. He now is addicted to an app on the Iphone and is playing it all the time . Not to mention talking to girls and not letting me see the msgs. He talks more to them than me now and I trying to make an effort but now when I try he is getting all snippy and angry . I confront him that It bothers me and he just keeps doing it . I feel like I don't matter anymore and that I'm being pushed away . He says he Loves me when I get mad and kisses me but I feel like he just saying it to get me to leave him alone . Starting to feel like I love you is forced and just a cover . IDK i'm on the brink of being depressed . Im sorry this is happening to you its oblivious hes not interested in you or your family. Theres never any justification for verbal/emotional abuse witch is what hes doing. Hes disrespecting you outright by the fat comments and hes being deceitful by talking to the other women behind your back! If hes not willing to change and it doesn't seam so then you need to think about your daughter and you own happiness 1st. Just think of it this way if hes doing this to you he will do the same to her some day I know its hard but its time to move on and cut your losses..
mishkers Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 As from what I can tell he is stinging you along. You would never purposely hurt someone you love in that way and especially not the mother of your child. I have mostly male friends and my bf talks to girls regularly, but we know these friends and share in the conversations. Someone doesn't try to hide something that doesn't need to be hidden. I can relate to you in that my exhusband did the same things shortly after my son was born (except the fat part, he always liked my...plushness shall I say). It turned out he was cheating and all my suspicions were true. When talking to him later I found that, yes he was screwing around, but he liked the SECURITY of coming home. It's a horrible thing to hear, but I suggest you get out. It hurts. But it's what's best. Plus you don't want your daughter to think it is ok for a man to treat her that way.
DaisyLeigh Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 He is not committed to you. He got what he wanted, and is trying to move on to the next piece of ass. Take your child and leave him. Find a real man the next time. One who will respect you and not use you like a piece of toilet tissue and throw you away.
FindingE Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Ever since Lilly was born he is always calling me fat This is enough reason alone to seriously consider leaving this man - if someone who is supposed to love you, regularly calls you a name like this after you have bore his child, it shows utter disrespect, and if he doesn't respect you, he will always treat you poorly. This combined with talking to women behind your back and keeping the conversations a secret from you, is ridiculous. You don't have to put up with this - tell him to stop all of this BS or you are gone. Some counseling for him to help see how insensitive and callous he is to you might be helpful too if he actually agrees to stop. Don't let his calling you fat reduce your self worth. You are a beautiful mother regardless of your size - you deserve to be treated with love and respect if you are offering your life to this man. If he can't appreciate that, he doesn't deserve to have you. You say partner and not husband, if you aren't married, run don't walk away from this jerk and know you are worth so much more.
califnan Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 We have been together for almost 2 years and have a beautiful daughter . Ever since Lilly was born he is always calling me fat which I am but putting me down like that its just mean. He now is addicted to an app on the Iphone and is playing it all the time . Not to mention talking to girls and not letting me see the msgs. He talks more to them than me now and I trying to make an effort but now when I try he is getting all snippy and angry . I confront him that It bothers me and he just keeps doing it . I feel like I don't matter anymore and that I'm being pushed away . He says he Loves me when I get mad and kisses me but I feel like he just saying it to get me to leave him alone . Starting to feel like I love you is forced and just a cover . IDK i'm on the brink of being depressed . --------------------- Don't be depressed. The devil is using him to beat you down.. If you think you are overweight, make up exercises that you can do at home.. and walk the baby outside with the stroller.. If you are not employed, maybe use this time for some correspondence courses to further a career ... All I have mentioned to you are things to do to build up your self esteem.. Because if he doesn't get his act together - and stop it with the critism and outside interests ... you may have to dump him..
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