What factors and percentage?

[Confused4Now]

Ive seen very few MMs on these boards who really wanted to leave and felt they couldnt. Only 2 I can think of offhand. The rest were happy in the end that they didnt do it.

I left....it was a exit affair for me....

[OWoman]

I haven't heard that one before. Would it be more likely to be this way if the AP is also married? Or other reasons? I wonder what percentage of the time this happens?

 

I've no idea what percentage of the time, and I doubt there are any figures out there given the nature of the issue. Yes, the OW being a MOW would be a big factor in that (assuming she was relatively happily M, and not using the A as an exit A herself), as well as SOWs who don't want anything more than an A because they enjoy being S, or a woman who is a mother who doesn't want to complicate her R with her kids by introducing a full-time lover into her life until they are older, or a career-focused woman who doesn't want the distraction or demands of anything more than an A...

[2sure]

I think that usually the married AP is simply selfish above all the other reasons for not leaving.

Divorce happens often after an affair is discovered...but it is the BS who initiates it or gives up on the marriage.

[OWoman]

Divorce happens often after an affair is discovered...but it is the BS who initiates it or gives up on the marriage.

 

Not always. It was my father who sued for D, once the kids were out of the house and he was able to leave.

[sadintexas]

you do realize you're better off!! but sorry to hear what you had to go through.

 

Thank you, I do realize I'm much better off. That was 5 years ago so I'm over it. That marriage needed to end long before it did. I guess it didn't end prior because my daughter was meant to be

[pureinheart]

Doubt. Even 1 % doubt makes all the other factors so important. The reasons for the doubt may be part of this thread, or another one?

 

this is really good WW, very insightful...and so very true