BarbaraR Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 what do you guys think about dating online? i have tired a couple of websites, seem to be pretty decent, had some good experiences. would love to hear your story!
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Back when I was using it I mostly found ether A. Allot of people with issues that ranged from mild to needing therapy for life! B. Ones who said on their profiles they wanted a relationship but honestly were just looking for a hook up /fwb type of deal. C. Ones who sent a pic that looked nothing like them what so ever. I guess it can work for some but I wasn't impressed over all.
White Dove Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Online dating. Hmmm. I tried a few -- it was okay. I met my bf online via a chatroom. We continued through MSN/Skype and emails. I was stuck on him and ignored the rest of the guys
mishkers Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I went thru eHarmony. I like the relative anonymity that it afforded. I moved slowly thru the stages of communication and eventually did talk on the phone with about 15 men, and met 5 in person out of a 3 month subscription. One of the men I began talking to because I was somewhat interested in him after guided communication and my membership was running out and I messaged him and told him to contact me by phone if he was interested. We talked, we met, we fell in love, and I fully plan on trying to be one of those eharmony commercial couples. It's been several months and we are moving in together next weekend. I am a divorced single mother and I feared I'd never find someone again. Don't know what in the world possessed me to join, but I did. I found eHarmony nice because it prescreens people for you and then you follow guided communication which is where you select certain questions to send to them and vice versa for 2 rounds back and forth before open communication. I was able to meet and determine some interest with 4-5 men a day, not a small task for a working, student, single mom. I was embarrassed to tell people how we met at first, but not anymore. So many people are using this method of meeting people, and they are having such great results. Try it. Oh, and google "(name of site) coupons" and get some great promo codes for cheaper rates.
Serenitynow Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 (edited) Tried eharmony, filled out their 20,000 question personality profile, and when you are done, it finds matches for you. It replied with "no matches found" Tried Plenty of Fish, emailed almost 75 women in a 8 month period, never got 1 response. I contacted women that were very attractive to not so attractive and still got nothing. I think many women on dating sites are in an alternate reality as to what they expect to find. I also browsed a handful of other sites, and found that its basically the same people on all the sites. I believe many people on dating sites are date site addicts. They have a vision of this person in their mind that fits exactly what they think they want. Yet they constantly find problems with everyone and think that one day they will find that 1 person that is perfect. When in reality they are skipping over great people that are more than date-able. Edited June 20, 2010 by Serenitynow
ecto-1 Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 100% right on! Where I live, if you do a search geographically within a certain milage, and if you've been on different sites, these SAME faces appear everywhere. Some are probably even dateless on a Sat night, so they really spend what could've been a date, sitting on Match or POF piddlin' around. I've emailed these women, only to be ignored obviously and I took a break from online dating, decided to give it another shot and they're STILL here! LOL Across 3 or 4 of the common dating sites...it's amazing. One was voicing her frustrations of online dating, one was actually trying to pathetically sell herself, "Okay, guys, I'm getting ready to take down my ad in a week....so here's you rlast opportunity!" No joke She took it down,a bout a month later, she signed on with a new screen name (she had the same photos) Some of these women wind up chronically single and stuck in a perpetual limbo of online dating sites. I felt I've emailed every single woman in my geographical area, only to be ignored, then they complain in their profile they can't find anyone decent, of course they've already ignored the decent guys. Tried eharmony, filled out their 20,000 question personality profile, and when you are done, it finds matches for you. It replied with "no matches found" Tried Plenty of Fish, emailed almost 75 women in a 8 month period, never got 1 response. I contacted women that were very attractive to not so attractive and still got nothing. I think many women on dating sites are in an alternate reality as to what they expect to find. I also browsed a handful of other sites, and found that its basically the same people on all the sites. I believe many people on dating sites are date site addicts. They have a vision of this person in their mind that fits exactly what they think they want. Yet they constantly find problems with everyone and think that one day they will find that 1 person that is perfect. When in reality they are skipping over great people that are more than date-able.
Confusedalways Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Sometimes you have to meet cool people in uncool ways = my mantra. It takes a lot of patience. I find very few people who message me are people I actually believe I'd get along with on a 'romantic' level. I'm super picky, though. Certainly there's plenty of people on there that sound nice and fun to hang out with, but not to date per se.
White Dove Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 From online dating, I noticed that I could go on and on talking about a lot of things under the sun or moon but when comes to facing that person, I get all clammed up!
Confusedalways Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 From online dating, I noticed that I could go on and on talking about a lot of things under the sun or moon but when comes to facing that person, I get all clammed up! I don't think you're the only one- I feel like a lot of people have this problem! I talk exactly like I type, and when it's not reciprocated I have the awkward burden of carrying most of the conversation when I actually see them... which is kind of funny. Really makes for good stories, and reinforces how extroverted I am Is it just because you get nervous or are you a shy person naturally?
White Dove Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I don't think you're the only one- I feel like a lot of people have this problem! I talk exactly like I type, and when it's not reciprocated I have the awkward burden of carrying most of the conversation when I actually see them... which is kind of funny. Really makes for good stories, and reinforces how extroverted I am Is it just because you get nervous or are you a shy person naturally? I don't think so too, I read one of the other threads on dating online that a few are just like me! I can go on and on in chats but when it comes to talking in person, I don't talk as much! I don't know why. It must be a combination of both -- nervous and shy. :laugh: It will take some time for me to get into the groove of talking like I chat online I need to work on this. I can't afford to be quiet when I move to bf's country and meet all his friends. Oh and this is funny, bf on the other hand -- does not chat so much online but over the phone and in person, oh boy -- he can talk my ears off!
Sivok Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 For a guy anyway, I find it much much harder to get numbers of people you'd actually want to date online than in person. Also, online, the approach of it makes it that much easier to be looked over - online dating favors women much more than men, this is a fact. In my experience, you need to have ~alot~ of personality/charm and know how to express that well in text to get anywhere (if you dont have the looks of a male model with a perfectly sculpted body and washboard abs). Although this is partially true in person, it's exponentially amplified online. If you can get over 'approach anxiety', in person is just so much easier to get dates/numbers
ecto-1 Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 For a guy anyway, I find it much much harder to get numbers of people you'd actually want to date online than in person. Also, online, the approach of it makes it that much easier to be looked over - online dating favors women much more than men, this is a fact. In my experience, you need to have ~alot~ of personality/charm and know how to express that well in text to get anywhere (if you dont have the looks of a male model with a perfectly sculpted body and washboard abs). Although this is partially true in person, it's exponentially amplified online. If you can get over 'approach anxiety', in person is just so much easier to get dates/numbers Yeah, I've been talking to this woman for a while, she only gave me her IM screen name, she said, "I don't like to give out my #, too many crazy's out there".....kind of defeats the purpose of online dating.
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