The value of posting to LS for years after your personal situation in afafir is over?

[Fallen Angel]

I do not intend to imply that someone is "lacking" per se, except that maybe some may be lacking full closure and healing while claiming to be fully healed. It does make me feel somewhat sad in that I imagine those people who still need help in healing will not admit that they need the help and may carry pain even further into their lives unnecessarily. Thereby denying themselves and their loved ones a live fully lived and loved.

 

 

That should have read.. Thereby denying themselves and their loved ones a LIFE fully lived and loved.

 

Yes, I am still the typo queen.. as is evidenced by the thread title. :o:o

[NoIDidn't]

Perhaps it's because OWoman never wrote anything that I felt was a transgression or disrespectful?

 

I'm not going to go on and on about whatever OWoman has posted, but it seems you haven't been here long enough to have read all of her posts.

 

She has said plenty about OW that paints them in a rather pathetic picture in comparison to her own, IMO (of course).

 

One thing that comes to mind is a thread started by either OWoman or GEL that basically said "Have more respect for yourself", "Stop allowing MM to have all the power", "You give away your power", etc., in that vein. This is the same thing posted generally by other posters, but since we aren't condoning affairs, we are called "disrespectful" or claimed to be bashing posters for stating our beliefs do not support affairs.

 

So long as posters aren't violating the ToS, I don't see why asking them why they are posting here is anyone's business really.

[Silly_Girl]

It is not good at all when the old-timers literally become Gods. They need to leave space for the newbies to grow.

 

I totally understand why you would say that... In this instance, it was good they were there, and were revered as a collective as the 'ultimate'. In where to turn, when to call the police/involve other authorities, how to protect yourself, when to take legal action, what may happen next if you do x, y, or z. This was less of an emotional journey (but inevitably that happened too) than a site like this for example. Plus, it was a guy's forum, so the tone would naturally be different.

[Art_Critic]

With all due respect.....

 

No kidding.. are you saying that a poster here has a right to tell another poster they shouldn't be posting anymore ?

 

I'm an Alcoholic... a sober one.. going on 23 years in 9 days..

Have you heard of 12th stepping or bringing the message to others ?

Well.. just because I quit drinking 23 years ago doesn't mean I shouldn't try and help others that have drinking problems or not talk about my problems from 23 years ago..

 

Not only do I get tons from helping fellow problem drinkers but they get help too..

 

Same for all the posters here on LS and it doesn't mater which forum they post in...

 

IMO...This thread is nothing more than a swipe at people who post stuff that you all don't like and nothing more...

[2sunny]

No kidding.. are you saying that a poster here has a right to tell another poster they shouldn't be posting anymore ?

 

I'm an Alcoholic... a sober one.. going on 23 years in 9 days..

Have you heard of 12th stepping or bringing the message to others ?

Well.. just because I quit drinking 23 years ago doesn't mean I shouldn't try and help others that have drinking problems or not talk about my problems from 23 years ago..

 

Not only do I get tons from helping fellow problem drinkers but they get help too..

 

Same for all the posters here on LS and it doesn't mater which forum they post in...

 

IMO...This thread is nothing more than a swipe at people who post stuff that you all don't like and nothing more...

 

here hear! i too, have been helped here over the years - and simply find value in "paying it forward"

[Tony]

I am not understanding why it is necessary to psychoanalyze the motives of others in posting on whatever subject they wish. I still have issues with the death of my mother and she died 50 years ago this November 13. I was very young at that time. Not a day has gone by in my life that her death hasn't impacted me in some way. However, with certain attitudes here I would rather go to the mall and discuss my issues with strangers than face the judgmental music of some people in these forums.

 

How about let's be kind to each other and let people post what they want, no matter what their motives. That's what we're here for. If you don't want to read their posts or respond to them, go to the mall and help some of those poor souls. If they don't have dead mother issues...they have overspending issues or worse.

 

God Bless all of you and may we all live and work together for the improvement of life in the world without being clobbered for what we do that seems strange to others. Let us not let life still us with a bad case of analysis paralysis. Let's move on.

 

Amen!