Author Ellin Posted June 20, 2010 Author Posted June 20, 2010 My story sounds really stupid. It was "lust at first sight", for her, and I guess, for me too. I had seen her before at various political/Military events, and she was/is breathtakingly beautiful. But , to her, I was just another soldier, in ranks with lots of other soldiers. When we met, as individuals, the deal was sealed. It's surprising, really, she was a trophy wife, and a rich kid, people that I usually have little use for. But she has always loved me, or maybe at first lusted after me, even when I found out about her M, and wouldn't have anything to do with her. Hi Joe! It doesn't sound stupid, I loved reading it:)
Author Ellin Posted June 20, 2010 Author Posted June 20, 2010 MsRight, Circular and Jennie - thank you for replying and telling your stories. I see a common theme, which is two people crossing their paths in various moments of their lives. As if they can't be together but can't be apart.. I think it's natural and quite common to still have some feelings for a childhood sweetheart or someone from the past years later. These feelings can be re-ignited very easily and if the romance is picked up after a long time, it can sometimes feel as if that couple share a lifelong history. It can create a very powerful bond. All the best for all of you!
White Flower Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 MsRight, Circular and Jennie - thank you for replying and telling your stories. I see a common theme, which is two people crossing their paths in various moments of their lives. As if they can't be together but can't be apart.. I think it's natural and quite common to still have some feelings for a childhood sweetheart or someone from the past years later. These feelings can be re-ignited very easily and if the romance is picked up after a long time, it can sometimes feel as if that couple share a lifelong history. It can create a very powerful bond. All the best for all of you!Ellin, I just realized in your OP you asked WHAT made us fall in love with our AP, not HOW we met. So I will clarify. It was the REAL moments that we shared when I sifted through all the silly ha ha bulls**t. When I recognized his heart and wanted my heart intertwined with his. When I felt his pain and wanted to make it all better. When his eyes looked at me, beyond me, and into my soul. When his pleasure became my conquest and mine his. When we, after achieving all this, still came back for more. That is how we fell in love. And that is how we keep it alive.
JustJoe Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 For MW and I , it was sexual chemistry at first, which proceeded to a very emotional longing, which I THINK:D has blossomed into something a whole lot more than I ever anticipated. Time will tell.
OWoman Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I'd love to hear your stories - how did it all start, what caught your attention, what was is that made him/her special to you? :love: He came out on business to my country, and I met him in a work context. I thought, yum!, and made a note to investigate further. Having done my research, I organised another opportunity a good while later, and propositioned him. I pictured a short-term, part-time fling - but it developed into something rather different. The more time we spent together, the more time we wanted to spend together, until we both realised we had to be together long-term, full-time, as life-partners. He did what he needed to do, and I did what I needed to do, and then I moved out to his country and in with him. We got M as soon as the D was through, and every day we thank our lucky stars that we met. He's sweet, funny, charming, loving, sexy, bright, engaging, up for it, driven, thoughtful, creative, nurturing, authoritative, passionate, authentic, analytical, sincere, impatient, ambitious, dedicated, progressive, intelligent, committed, quaint, careful, athletic, articulate, informed and generous. We share our core values, our interests overlap and we complement each other in many ways. Friends describe us as a "perfect fit", and we light up each other's lives in very tangible and important ways. What made me fall in love with him? He did.
Silly_Girl Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I have tried three separate times to reply to this, and each time I end up in tears, so this is the shortest answer that I hope conveys something. The essence of him, my xMM, reminded me of that of my wonderful Grandad (sadly no longer with us) and my wonderful son. No one has EVER brought about in me the same types of feelings as I have about my son. I didn't know one human could love another that much, it continues to surprise me. And my feelings for MM, and my perception of him, they were very similar. Awe, respect, love, care, patience, warmth, a connection, something that felt close to family, a sort of unspoken understanding and loyalty and togetherness. (What a load of old tripe that turned out to be ) When I had both my son and xMM to myself, at the same time, no matter how much or how little we were doing together, I felt that the rest of the world could crumble away and I'd not care a jot.
pureinheart Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I'd love to hear your stories - how did it all start, what caught your attention, what was is that made him/her special to you? :love: Or, if you prefer - what made you fall into that trap? I have extremely fond memories of exDM, some of which I will never forget and donot choose to:). If anyone was a "knight in shinning armour" he was. I met him at work, he seemed to pop up everywhere I was:eek:. He called me "Cinderella" because I remeinded him of Leslie Ann Warren ...little did he know I was a real life Cinderella. We all got laid off. A few years later we all got called back and he and I ended up in the same dept and our supervisor put us woking on the same project. I was depressed, had gained weight and was in yet another bad M. He complimented, and encouraged me and it was not for personal gain as I was not "looking" so hot this time around. I began to become the encouragement and lost all the weight and was "looking" priddy good. We were inseparable and many were jealous of the comradery and loyalty we had...we could not be broken. This type of thing is intimidating to those up in other peoples business and those who like to have control over everything as we could not be controlled. I appreciate that he pulled me out of a pit.
pureinheart Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Wonderful hearing everybody's stories. I hear you Tina...not everything is gloom and doom:)
wheelwright Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I have tried three separate times to reply to this, and each time I end up in tears, so this is the shortest answer that I hope conveys something. The essence of him, my xMM, reminded me of that of my wonderful Grandad (sadly no longer with us) and my wonderful son. No one has EVER brought about in me the same types of feelings as I have about my son. I didn't know one human could love another that much, it continues to surprise me. And my feelings for MM, and my perception of him, they were very similar. Awe, respect, love, care, patience, warmth, a connection, something that felt close to family, a sort of unspoken understanding and loyalty and togetherness. (What a load of old tripe that turned out to be ) When I had both my son and xMM to myself, at the same time, no matter how much or how little we were doing together, I felt that the rest of the world could crumble away and I'd not care a jot. This speaks to me. I lost my fears. I think being with people we truly love removes all fears - hence the crumbling away. I think this is important but I don't know how yet. I think it might be about happiness. I think anyway you experienced love in a simlar way to me! And the tripe is quite unflattering to our own hearts, or not?
White Flower Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 He came out on business to my country, and I met him in a work context. I thought, yum!, and made a note to investigate further. Having done my research, I organised another opportunity a good while later, and propositioned him. I pictured a short-term, part-time fling - but it developed into something rather different. The more time we spent together, the more time we wanted to spend together, until we both realised we had to be together long-term, full-time, as life-partners. He did what he needed to do, and I did what I needed to do, and then I moved out to his country and in with him. We got M as soon as the D was through, and every day we thank our lucky stars that we met. He's sweet, funny, charming, loving, sexy, bright, engaging, up for it, driven, thoughtful, creative, nurturing, authoritative, passionate, authentic, analytical, sincere, impatient, ambitious, dedicated, progressive, intelligent, committed, quaint, careful, athletic, articulate, informed and generous. We share our core values, our interests overlap and we complement each other in many ways. Friends describe us as a "perfect fit", and we light up each other's lives in very tangible and important ways. What made me fall in love with him? He did. If you don't mind OWoman I would like to say that it shows in pictures of you two together. You make each other's eyes sparkle.
bee55 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 my first friend is have a good response if i talk about every thing she never feel boredom, she speak for every one who like, she make a good relation with children , young, hot, and even old. she have ability to control her life, she feel happy if there is a bad situation i ask her why you feel happy? she said that , because a bad situation will be aborted.
Author Ellin Posted June 24, 2010 Author Posted June 24, 2010 I'm so glad that I started this thread. Reading the responses makes me smile and at the same time brings tears to my eyes. Love is the most wonderful and powerful thing in our lives. OWoman, your H sounds really, really special:) White Flower, Pureinheart and Wheelwright, your posts are so beautiful and remind me a lot about my own feelings. Bee55, thank you for a lovely reply. And Silly Girl, I'm sorry that you cried because of this thread. I wish I could make you feel better and I hope you'll find much happiness. I was surprised when I read your post because it also sounded so familiar to me. My grandfather was one of the most special people in my life, I cannot describe with words what an amazing person he was and how much he meant to me, and I also recognise some of his characteristics in my "MM". So thanks everyone. It's wonderful to read all the beautiful love stories and discover all the things in common between different people's experiences and also my own, but everyone's story and perspective is special and unique in some way. Ultimately, love is something elusive and we can't say 100% accurately why we fall in love with the particular person. There's always this mysterious element in it;) But perhaps it can be concluded that when people get together in an A situation, it is because of strong emotions and connections, and less likely to be out of convenience and other reasons, as it sometimes happens with "normal" Rs?
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